The Bummer and Rant Thread

Kinsao said:
My boyfriend is suffering from depression and anxiety attacks, and he said he wanted to break up with me because he "didn't deserve" me and didn't want to put me through the pain of him being ill. I think I managed to 'convince' him that at least I do not want to break up... and he does not really either, I know it, he says he loves me and I believe him... and I love him... so then... it would be stupid for two people to break up for such a reason... ☝... just because someone is ill doesn't mean you stop loving them... you don't only care for someone when things are easy... of course it hurts to see someone you love suffer, but does that mean you should never allow yourself to love anyone? I think not!
Anyway I think we will be OK but it breaks my heart to hear him talk like that... 😭 ... but I am not going to let him go that easy!
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His depression could be medical. Be a good girlfriend and have him get checked out. It can be treated.
 
Kinsao said:
it would be stupid for two people to break up for such a reason... ☝... just because someone is ill doesn't mean you stop loving them... you don't only care for someone when things are easy... of course it hurts to see someone you love suffer, but does that mean you should never allow yourself to love anyone? I think not!
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Kinsao, my heart goes out to you and your boyfriend. But, i'm greatly gladdened to know that you already know one of the most important lessons that life can teach. We all must face trouble in our lives - True Love of any kind is sticking by those we care for in such times, even when it might be easier to walk away.

I agree - if your boyfriend hasn't yet sought help then he should (perhaps you could go together if he wants?) But I do know from experience with two people close to me that some doctors will prescribe anti-depressants at a drop of a hat, as a 'quick fix', rather than offer other help such as complementary therapies or psychotherapy. I don't believe in a 'quick fix' personally because all it does is seek to manage the symptoms, rather than the cause of the depression and anxiety.

I am happy to talk with you about the experiences of the people I know who took the pills if you like, just PM me :) I can say here though that while the anti-depressants helped them in certain ways, there were side-effects.

It's very much a personal choice. The important first step is recognising the problem, the second is to make sure you really have studied every option available to you, and the third is making an informed choice.

Very good luck to you both - you sound lucky to have each other! :)
 
Thank you very much Armand and MadeOfStone for your support. *big hug*

Yes he has been to the doc and got some tablets, but they can make you feel worse for the first week, and we think that is part of the reason he was feelin especially bad then. 😭

Also problem: he was drinkin too much and really you should not drink with the tablets. :cautious: So I have said, he have to cut down on that, else we are finished. And he said he will try, because he wants to get well and for us not to split up... Of course these things is not easy, and it's not quick to do, and there are setbacks along the way but I think he really will try and so long as that, I will stand by him. 👍
 
You know when you get a bad haircut and you go into denial that it looks ok...well I thought I had the "Hilary look" but then decided I was being critical. Well last night watching CNNj with my husband he turned and looked at me and said "Your hair looks like Hilary Clinton"; he wouldn't notice if I changed it green as Sukotto suggested, so I can safely assume that it really does have the "Hilary look". Yes, ArmandV at least Hilary is better that Eleanor! I think I will just let it go all curly. Anyway it is just hair.......
 
You could have it all shaved off - way less hassle. :-)
I've been tempted to go down that road myself at times... but I guess my hairstyle is distinctive so I'm keeping it for the time being because at least people don't have a problem recognising me. 😌
Commiserations though - I remember having a bad haircut once and I had to rush to another hairdresser pretty soon because I decided I just couldn't live with it any more! 😊
 
Not so much a rant as a complaint.

I got all ready to go to the gym, and then it hit me...I don'T feel very well. Not well at all, actually. In fact, one might say, I feel rather ill. I hope I feel better by tomorrow morning....
 
Mikawa Ossan said:
Not so much a rant as a complaint.
I got all ready to go to the gym, and then it hit me...I don'T feel very well. Not well at all, actually. In fact, one might say, I feel rather ill. I hope I feel better by tomorrow morning....
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I hope for your sake it isn't the flu. Get to bed and drink a ton of liquids. I just got over the flu last week and it wasn't fun.

Stay healthy Mikawa-san
 
Awww Mikawa... *hugs* 😭
I hope you feel better soon! ☝
Just rest and take care of yourself.
 
Hummm??? Could it be......

"JREF OVERDOSE" too many hours on JREF and not enough sleep? Too many hours on JREF to eat proper meals? Too many hours on JREF for social contacts outside of work? NAHHHH, can never have too much of JREF!
Hope you are feeling better by now MO.

Uncle Frank

😊
 
Here's a "Bummer" plus major "Rant".....
Today is payday, hooray right? Go to the bank expecting to take some funds out so I can go out tonight with some friends for a feww but whoa.....NO PAYCHECK!!😲 😲

Not the fault of my department, they submitted their paperwork on time as usual. The woman in charge of submitting the "disk" to the bank for direct deposit payment put the wrong date on for the payment, instead of the 10th, (9th because the 10th is a Saturday) she put on the 13th. Not the fault of my department, they submitted their paperwork on time as usual.

Soooo.....I get the usual "head-bowing" over the telephone line, oh I'm so sorry you'll have to wait until next week Tuesday A.M.

I suppose it will only be 3 days late but....DAMN I was looking forward to going out tonight, haven't been out for a while and was looking forward to this one.....DAMN!:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
 
:( this week has sucked so bad. i pretty much have hated. everyday. i've tried in school and everything. i really have but once i started seeig how bad i was doing i just kind of gave up. i mean. i don't really feel good about myself enough to care anymore. and i want to. i mean i'm makeing the worst grades i've ever seen myself make i'm failing hard and i've pretty much got putt on my YOU-KNOW-WHAT by a lot of folks. i took a 35 to a 60 in 3 weeks. 9 quizzes. 3 tests. i dunno i know i'm not a stupid person. i'm really not. but it feels like everyone is pushing me so hard to be the best and i just don't know how i'm handling that☝ hellllpppp!!!!!:banghead::box:
 
Sometimes you just have to know how to push all the pushing aside.

I remember when I chose to take machine shop for half the day in high school our guidance counsellor rode my *** relentlessly, telling me "Why do you waste your time in that class? As smart as you are, you could be anything you want to be." When I finally got tired of it, I replied, "No, Mr. Gray, you mean I could be anything you want me to be."

Concentrate your efforts on what you're good at, and aim for at least passing marks in the other stuff.

And reach for the shift key every now and then.
 
waaa I've got one:

I am very busy for my upcoming wedding ceremony, and I have to use the Internet a lot to download music, prepare a photostory etc. But the problem is that my Internet just SUCKS today!!!!!!!!!! waaa soo annoying because my Mom is coming tomorrow so after that I won't have that much time left anymore.

Mr Internet Japan, please work properly!
 
Good luck there, Dutch!

I have a big problem at work that I can not talk about to others, and I can not solve it or even try to address it right away. I am very upset. I hope I can start to make some progress on it sometime soon.
 
Is there someone you can confide in that will keep what you say confidential? Work problems are the hardest. You have to be cautious. I hope it all works out the best that it can, and in a timely manner.
 
Goldiegirl said:
Is there someone you can confide in that will keep what you say confidential? Work problems are the hardest. You have to be cautious. I hope it all works out the best that it can, and in a timely manner.
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Or in the event that nothing else works........ em!
 
Awww Mikawa. I am sorry to hear that. :( *hugs*
I would echo Goldiegirl's advice... if you can find someone to confide in... a friend who doesn't work anything to do with that company.

Bummer and rant from me? Last night I was chatting on msn with my boyfriend, cos he says to me that he'd accidentally left his phone at his dad's house... he needs to go off to do something and says like 'back in 10 mins' but like 2 hours later, just vanishes offline without sayin a word to me. :( Well I hang around a bit in case it was a computer crash but no sign of him again. That's really annoying because IMO it's simply rude and inconsiderate... :cautious:... could at least have said 'sorry don't have time to chat now'. And cos he don't have his mobile right now, I have no way of contacting him since I don't have either of his parents' phone numbers. Not that I need to contact him, it just bugs me that I couldn't if I wanted to. :eek: *control freak* :D

Bah, I'll end my rant... I feel so petty to complain of that. :sorry: Just annoyed I am because we haven't got to speak since Monday morning. :(
 
Thanks everyone! My work problems are such that I have to deal with them myself, but I truly appreciate the support!

Kinsao, what can I say but remember how lucky you are just to have your boyfriend in the first place. I would love to have that kind of problem! 😊
 
Last night I was chatting on msn with my boyfriend, cos he says to me that he'd accidentally left his phone at his dad's house... he needs to go off to do something and says like 'back in 10 mins' but like 2 hours later, just vanishes offline without sayin a word to me.
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Like I wrote to Mikawa-san, If worse comes to worse, just
the guy and get on with your life!
 
Worry Worry Worry !!!! Panic !!!!

Most of you have probably heard about all the cats and dogs dying from bad pet food here in the US for the last few months. I thought my cats were safe because they get special perscription food right from their vet(costs a fortune!). Last nights news announced the food we use has some bad batches. We checked the UPC code they gave as bad , and OH NO, we have a bag. So far both cats seem OK, but have to watch and wait. Pretty bad when you can kill your own pet while trying to do the best for them.

Uncle Frank

:( :( :( :( :( :(
 
Uncle Frank said:
Most of you have probably heard about all the cats and dogs dying from bad pet food here in the US for the last few months. I thought my cats were safe because they get special perscription food right from their vet(costs a fortune!). Last nights news announced the food we use has some bad batches. We checked the UPC code they gave as bad , and OH NO, we have a bag. So far both cats seem OK, but have to watch and wait. Pretty bad when you can kill your own pet while trying to do the best for them.
Uncle Frank
:( :( :( :( :( :(
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No doubt this must be a difficult time for you, not knowing if your pets are living on borrowed time. I hope your pets come through OK!
 

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