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Hey there,
I am sure you've gone through that topic a hundreds of times, but still there might be some new or unsaid opinions out there.
My name is Ina and I'm currently doing my master's resarch on this question, or, to put it in other words, I'm interested in relationship constellations of Japanese and Western Europeans. This idea came up when I lived in Japan and no matter where I was wandering around (Sapporo, Tokyo, Osaka, inaka), there were Westernman-Japanesewoman couples everywhere - but hardly any Westernwoman-Japaneseman couples. Guess there are many theories about it, so I'd be very happy to hear some of them or what observations you have made
I'll try not to flame youAt the risk of inciting a flame war, I'd like to offer an opinion in gender specific/feminist contexts. (But seriously, please don't flame)
This observation of Western man with Japanese woman and hardly any Japanese man with Western woman, more or less reflect patriarchal social dynamics and stereotypes.
Okay my point is, Japanese women, and Asian women in seem to have this exotic, submissive, quiet stereotype attached to them. And western women are viewed as too independent, self sufficient etc. Of course, there will be some that are genuine attractions between the couples, but this general trend of guys preferring asian women seems to indicate that some men, are downright offended by a woman who dares to espouse her opinions and exercise her freedom (putting it politely). If you want to see AN example of that kind of attitude, please scroll down to the comments:
Top 10 Facts About Mail-Order Brides - Listverse
It's not just that comment section, the online world in general absolutely treats a women who dares to voice opinion with disproportionately violent threats and verbal abuse (Twitter opens a new world of abuse aimed at women). I think this is indicative of why certain men seem to prefer Asian women over western ones. Us Western ladies have this feminist/independent stereotype because wow opinions how dare we questions manly men shock anger. Especially in the comments section of that listverse page, we see a view that western women don't "respect" their men/families and thus cause divorces (it's so toxic I don't really wanna wade back in there for specific examples.....)
Most Western countries with the exception of some Scandinavian countries, are more or less very patriarchal societies. Japan even more so. Therefore, my opinion is that cultural stereotypes of women is a big influence on these couple dynamics.
Also I am in no way saying that all western guys that has an asian partner is a creep. But only those who are attracted to asians because of stereotyping/fantasy notions.
This observation of Western man with Japanese woman and hardly any Japanese man with Western woman, more or less reflect patriarchal social dynamics and stereotypes.
Okay my point is, Japanese women, and Asian women in seem to have this exotic, submissive, quiet stereotype attached to them. And western women are viewed as too independent, self sufficient etc. Of course, there will be some that are genuine attractions between the couples, but this general trend of guys preferring asian women seems to indicate that some men, are downright offended by a woman who dares to espouse her opinions and exercise her freedom (putting it politely).
It is simply because western females are unattractive for Japanese, Japanese male preference of females are cute and submissive while western females don't have that traits.
That explain why many of their own western males are abandoning them and go on looking for Asian females including even the one considered as ugly and leftover in Asian standard.
Hi Mike,Why did you edit your post and remove your admonishment of him for posting in this thread?
Hey there,
I am sure you've gone through that topic a hundreds of times, but still there might be some new or unsaid opinions out there.
My name is Ina and I'm currently doing my master's resarch on this question, or, to put it in other words, I'm interested in relationship constellations of Japanese and Western Europeans. This idea came up when I lived in Japan and no matter where I was wandering around (Sapporo, Tokyo, Osaka, inaka), there were Westernman-Japanesewoman couples everywhere - but hardly any Westernwoman-Japaneseman couples. Guess there are many theories about it, so I'd be very happy to hear some of them or what observations you have made
Most japanese men are scared of westernwoman even if they find them very very attractive !
Maybe westerners act too much like VIPs in Japan...
That is far off from what I have gathered over last 12 years in Japan and 20 years in Asia.Japanese men and Japanese women are both equally open to accepting Western partners. The question lies in the Western woman's openness in accepting a Japanese man in her life or not.