Why do only few Japanese men go for Western women?

[Mike Cash]

He has been so battered down by those around him there is little likelihood of him actively risking additional ridicule. You're going to have to do a Sadie Hawkins on the guy and 告白 yourself or just forget about it.

As for the bit about all the cultural (or intercultural) stuff....that's something you just have to make your mind up if you're willing to deal with it or not. As you are no doubt mature enough to recognize for yourself, reality has an annoying way of failing to conform to our preferences. If you think you want to marry into the culture and assimilate, then you have to be ready to accept whatever that entails and not give the poor guy hell if it turns out to be not what you thought or more than you think you should have to deal with.

Don't get in too much of a rush. The little time you've been here so far is a drop in the bucket compared to what you're looking at if you're truly contemplating staying here permanently.

 

[AntiWestCosplay]

Hey there,
I am sure you've gone through that topic a hundreds of times, but still there might be some new or unsaid opinions out there.
My name is Ina and I'm currently doing my master's resarch on this question, or, to put it in other words, I'm interested in relationship constellations of Japanese and Western Europeans. This idea came up when I lived in Japan and no matter where I was wandering around (Sapporo, Tokyo, Osaka, inaka), there were Westernman-Japanesewoman couples everywhere - but hardly any Westernwoman-Japaneseman couples. Guess there are many theories about it, so I'd be very happy to hear some of them or what observations you have made

It is simply because western females are unattractive for Japanese, Japanese male preference of females are cute and submissive while western females don't have that traits.

That explain why many of their own western males are abandoning them and go on looking for Asian females including even the one considered as ugly and leftover in Asian standard.

 

[Mike Cash]

It is simply because western females are unattractive for Japanese, Japanese male preference of females are cute and submissive while western females don't have that traits.

That explain why many of their own western males are abandoning them and go on looking for Asian females including even the one considered as ugly and leftover in Asian standard.

Nice display of shallowness and stereotyping for your first post. Welcome to the forum.

 

[thomas]

It is simply because western females are unattractive for Japanese, Japanese male preference of females are cute and submissive while western females don't have that traits. That explain why many of their own western males are abandoning them and go on looking for Asian females including even the one considered as ugly and leftover in Asian standard.

You sound like a broken record, mate. Bye-bye.

 

[FinancialWar]

you guys need to stop pretending...

Shouldn't the question be "why do only few Japanese men capable of attracting Western women?" instead??

 

[Kirin31]

I think

I haven't ever seen that kind of couples but I want a girlfriend of westernwoman.

Japanesegirl tend to love westernman more passionately than JapaneseMan do so, I think.

 

[Mark of Zorro]

Basically I will say this: Japanese women are molded to fit with and adapt to men. Western men are molded to fit with and adapt to women. It is no surprise whatsoever that those trained to adapt can adapt to each other, and those used to being adapted to have no time or patience for the other.

I flesh out some details below.


Speaking for in Japan: I think the prime factor to take into account is simply numbers. There are not as many western females in Japan. But even that does not explain the lack of western woman/ Japanese man relationships.

The cultures of both explain most of the rest of the gap. Japanese women have been taught to confirm to certain expectations whereas western women have been open to more choices of how to be and act. A simple example would be that a Japanese woman would rarely accuse a man of being a pervert just for say, looking at her chest, or if she did, it would be playful. With western women its a mixed bag. Some will accuse a man of such things rather easily, and it can be hard to tell if they are playing or being serious. In other words, interactions with western women are always more complicated. Japanese women are much more uniform and predictable. With western women its always a guessing game.

Another example is right here in the thread. Western women are really unpredictable about sex. I mean, its just the key to men! Japanese women fully comprehend that sex is expected. With western women you never know. Western women actually expect you to waste your time with them even if they know sex is not on the menu. That is what happened with WhiteRabbit. Most Japanese women would not have been so shocked about the love hotel or the method of invitation. Many would have said no, but handled the situation a lot more delicately, perhaps even just said "next time". But with WhiteRabbit you get the feeling of "Not now not ever!" The only logical response to that is "Bye!" Of course!

And so by looking at how the women are raised and how they react, you can see what the men have gotten used to and how they have adapted. A western man used to always dealing with unpredictable women, setbacks, confusion, emotion, and hell, even intolerance of masculinity is going to breeze right through a date with a predictable Japanese woman.

On the other hand, the Japanese man who grew up with those predictable Japanese women who choose their words carefully and know what is expected and try to conform to that, is going to be completely stymied by the seeming randomness of a western woman.

Of course, a lot of this is just a veneer, and as you date with a Japanese woman, more and more of her true self will come out. Same with western men. But at least you have time to adapt. And your foot is already in the door. But with western women you may need to go on several dates with several women just to get to square one. And getting into bed? It could be a snap or it could be a complete hassle. Japanese women offer something in between. Much easier to adapt to.

But what happens with one bad experience? Same as WhiteRabbit did. You throw your hands in the air. You tend to write anyone who matches the description off your list.

Also I will add that Japanese women are more aggressive than they are usually given credit for. They don't run to your table and start stroking your hair, but they do open plenty of psychological doors for you to pass through and they are very forgiving of masculine fumbling and obsessions, and those are aggressive tactics in a feminine way. With western women you often get a sense of "my way or the highway" and even western men may balk at that sort of trial by fire and browbeating.

Sorry, a lot of that may not be as clear as my usual posts, but as I always say, dating and sex issues are EXTREMELY complicated and I am always surprised how people act like they are simple matters. Anything but.

My suggestion to WhiteRabbit is to get some Japanese female friends and consider them to be your instructors on how to act more Japanese. And look at Japanese women who you find to be successful in dating and copy them. Don't even spend any time on negative examples. Just look at the positive ones. Look only at successful popular women.

 

[yami yami]

This is kind of a funny post for me to post on since it's my first one. Sort of ended on this thread by mistake-but nonetheless thought it to be a interesting post (in that the original asker is writing a thesis regarding this issue or at least one similar to it). Not sure if I should respond as while I am Japanese and male, I also was raised in the UK when I was really young (either way- I consider myself male before Japanese and nationally I consider myself Japanese before British or Britanese...not that it matters).

What type of class of you writing this paper for (sociology, psychology) and what exactly are you hoping to illustrate? It would seem to be a very difficult topic to cover thoroughly given lack of empirical data/research. Unless of course you mean to conduct your own study-groups or pull from your own censes.

One poster correctly identified that there are more non-Japanese men (referring to westerners as it seems to be the targeted group under discussion) then non-Japanese women in Japan. In my subjective opinion, this is primarily due to the fact western women are less likely to relocate for jobs. Western men are the largest group of transferees, comprising of those who make permanent moves, of those who take short-term assignments requiring relocation, and of those who take assignments that require long-distance commutes. Single women are more likely than married women to take on short-term assignments, but no more likely to relocate permanently.

Consequently, western women are not necessarily viewed as a serious partner to whom Japanese men (such as I) would commit to a meaningful relationship. This may explain why non-Japanese women sometimes express distain at being viewed as a ﾂ"sexualﾂ" partner rather then a ﾂ"prospectiveﾂ" relationship material. The reason for is as simple as that it is often assumed the western woman would return home to her country (unless otherwise specified).

Japanese men rarely would relocate and leave their company for a partner. We are more committed to our companies until retirement then our Western counterparts. In my experience, many of my non-Japanese colleagues incorrectly assume someone educated overseas would not fit that mold. Honestly, that's absorb.

Fact is, notoriously insular, corporate Japan has long been wary of embracing Western-educated compatriots who return home. I went to King's London College and I can recall being treated with suspicion by Japanese recruiters, who referred to me openly as ﾂ"over specﾂ" ﾂ― too elite to fit in, too eager to get ahead and too likely to be poached or to switch employers before long. Even among top companies with more than a thousand employees, less than 40 percent want to hire Japanese with overseas education. In Japan, taking the time to study overseas sets you back in the shukatsu* race (refers to the system in which Japanese companies typically hire the bulk of their workers straight from college and expect them to stay until retirement).

My point being- even someone who lived overseas and went to college abroad is not any more likely to leave their company in search of a different avenue someplace else. It is literally drilled into our heads that leaving our company would be dishonorable and risk loosing face.

The other idea that is considered is if western women are perceived as more aggressive than Japanese and therefore considered intimidating? This idea is simply based on stereotypes and generalizations, which admittedly Japanese often rely on. However, I can recall several incidents where Japanese women were rather forward and therefore I personally don't attribute ﾂ'aggressiveness' based on nationality but rather personality.

At social events, western men are more inclined to approach women that have captured their fancy and engage in conversations than Japanese men. Japanese men rarely implement such an approach, especially with gaijin women. For such women, I would not expect 窶堙遺?堙ｱ窶堙?nanpa (picking-up dates in public) and I honestly, leave that skill to the host-boys to finesse for the recruitment of patrons.

Admittedly, in my experience, when a gaijin woman approaches (without me engaging in some form of enticement) I tend to be startled. While it is a form of flattery, the ﾂ"directnessﾂ" is also a little unexpected and unsettling. But again- I am a man before I am Japanese and usually just entertain the situation with a polite smile--unless of course, if the woman is outfitted in a T-Shirt with the words ﾂ"I want a Japanese Boyfriendﾂ" proudly displayed over her chest. Besides the fact the large majority of those T-Shirts being grammatically incorrect, I am completely dismayed by how often I see them or even the version of (ﾂ"I want a Japanese girlfriend").

I am ashamed to admit, that there was one particular time when a young woman wore something equivalent and approached our group (we were getting drinks after work & I was already a wee bit pissed faced) and I believe I reacted in a cheeky snip of ﾂ"O' rite that's bloody rich dearie!ﾂ"
It honestly didn't help me feel the need to apologize when the chit then assumed I was some kind of anomaly with being Japanese and speaking with a British accent.

In Japan, go-kon is the most popular way too meet and form romantic partnerships. Typically this blind date is used to form at least some friendships between two groups that are each of a single sex. Generally, a friend (woman or man) organize the gōkon in advance with the help of another friend who is the opposite of sex and in turn invite eligible friends (usually 3 and 3). Usually there is an intended fix-up and the others are merely fillers for the occasion (even married friends will participate, even if their significant other is not attending). The venue is usually a restaurant, izakaya, or anywhere people can eat, drink and make a bit of noise. Generally speaking, gōkon are not primarily intended to result in one-night stands (something more associated with nanpa), but rather for making friends and possibly forming long-term relationships. Sometimes games are played to reduce tension and encourage a convivial atmosphere.

In the West, at least, it's not unusual for a guy and a girl to go out together for their first date for some cup of coffee. Contrary, in Japan going one-on-one with somebody is considered pretty serious and rarely done without the accompany of friends (unless of course it's a date arranged by parents).

I'll conclude that 窶愿ｺ窶怒窶堙坂?ｰﾃ披?堙ｦ窶堙ｨ窶冂ﾅｽq窶堋ｶ窶堙｡窶堙銀?堋ｦ – meaning that Japan is not Hana yori dango drama series. Japanese guys really aren't all that different-some are looking for a relationship to last, some are looking around to see what could work, some are just looking around, some are wankers.


**Not that it matters, and a bit personal to disclose – however, I am currently involved with an American girl. Sine this topic refers to Japanese men and Western women relations I'll share a bit......In our case, Kate and I met at a party, which a mutual friend was hoisting and were introduced. I found her attractive, but didn't display any interest and parted company at some point. Towards the end of the night Kate tapped me on the shoulder and said she was informed that my accent was as messed up as hers. Might I add, this was done in terrible Japanese and I absolutely had no idea what she said. Thankfully, she switched to English and that was when I realized she was British! Or so I thought. Then to my amusement she explained she only lived in the UK for a year, but accent she has resulted from living in the South (Georgia) and then having to move around from the East to West coast and eventually Hawaii. As a result, her accent was a Mid-Atlantic English accent and severely confused. As a Japanese who lived in the UK as a kid- I wholeheartedly understood what a confused accent meant. Needless to say- I was smitten.

And I am accurately aware that I ended my post with dating advice- which wasn't my intention at all

 

[Tamayo]

Has anyone considered the possibility that this may be a little deeper than individual preference? Obviously everything people have been saying has had to do entirely with the culture in one way or another, but this is something that I've also been giving some thought to, since I plan on living in Japan if I enjoy my initial visit(s). (Even though I'm not a woman)

Here's something I've been wondering -- I've noticed that a common underlying theme throughout my studies of Asian cultures is somewhat of a "primitive" situation for women by America's feminist standards. As I understand it, Japan is just starting to go through a mild version of the sort of feminist movement we had in America during the Civil Rights period. In China, many babies are given away or aborted because they're female. I don't know many specifics about other Asian countries, but it's no secret that they value their men far more. After all, the man carries the family name further down into the new generations, and that means a hell of a lot for the family's honor. It may not seem like it, but there's actually a tremendous amount of pressure on the men not only to produce children, but to carry on the family name by having boys. That's not the end of it, either -- If a man is "unlucky" enough to have a girl, there's a lot of pressure to keep having children until he has boys. Having several boys also increases the likelihood that this family will never run out of roots that split each generation, and so on (like a family tree).

Could it be that there's a sort of unspoken cultural discouragement specifically on Japanese men dating foreign women? After all, it seems that most Asian countries are very focused on continuing the family line, or just want to avoid "tainting" their culture or honor altogether. I've watched a lot of videos where both Japanese men and women are interviewed about their thoughts on having foreign boy/girlfriends and even spouses. Most of the people who were interviewed said that they wouldn't mind having a boyfriend or girlfriend because they were interested in the culture, they wanted to learn more of an important target language, or they liked the simple novelty of dating a foreigner. However, when they were asked about marrying a foreigner, a lot of them hesitated.

Quick note here: I'm assuming that a lot of the people who said yes to marrying a foreigner only answered the way they did because they didn't want to offend the gaijin who was interviewing them. A few of them even apologized after managing to admit that they wouldn't want a foreign spouse.

Most of the Japanese who didn't really hesitate to openly reject the idea of marrying a foreigner said that their family would disapprove, which is clearly a huge taboo in Japan, as well as China (doing anything to gain negative attention for, or within a family, that is). I also know that a lot of Korea is very intent on saving face and living honorably. Could it simply be a taboo for a Japanese man, who holds more importance in his family's continued lineage than a woman, to "taint" it with being married to a foreigner? It seems a little ridiculous at first, but when you consider the fact that a lot of families are proud to be able to trace their ancestors back thousands of years, it is a little weird to imagine a foreigner being caught up in the mix. This is something I'd really only imagine to be an issue in a country as traditional as Japan, but it really makes sense to me that the average proud, traditional family would want to remain culturally "pure". Imagine the gravity of making the decision to break the "purity" of a potentially thousand year-old family line of pure Japanese. Especially for the dictator-brand traditionalists in Japan (Or almost any country, for that matter), marrying outside of your own culture tends to be heavily looked down upon (more-so for the men than the women).

I haven't really read much on this issue specifically, but this is what I figure contributes to it the most.

 

[FinancialWar]

Has anyone considered the possibility that this may be a little deeper than individual preference? Obviously everything people have been saying has had to do entirely with the culture in one way or another, but this is something that I've also been giving some thought to, since I plan on living in Japan if I enjoy my initial visit(s). (Even though I'm not a woman)

Here's something I've been wondering -- I've noticed that a common underlying theme throughout my studies of Asian cultures is somewhat of a "primitive" situation for women by America's feminist standards. As I understand it, Japan is just starting to go through a mild version of the sort of feminist movement we had in America during the Civil Rights period. In China, many babies are given away or aborted because they're female. I don't know many specifics about other Asian countries, but it's no secret that they value their men far more. After all, the man carries the family name further down into the new generations, and that means a hell of a lot for the family's honor. It may not seem like it, but there's actually a tremendous amount of pressure on the men not only to produce children, but to carry on the family name by having boys. That's not the end of it, either -- If a man is "unlucky" enough to have a girl, there's a lot of pressure to keep having children until he has boys. Having several boys also increases the likelihood that this family will never run out of roots that split each generation, and so on (like a family tree).

Could it be that there's a sort of unspoken cultural discouragement specifically on Japanese men dating foreign women? After all, it seems that most Asian countries are very focused on continuing the family line, or just want to avoid "tainting" their culture or honor altogether. I've watched a lot of videos where both Japanese men and women are interviewed about their thoughts on having foreign boy/girlfriends and even spouses. Most of the people who were interviewed said that they wouldn't mind having a boyfriend or girlfriend because they were interested in the culture, they wanted to learn more of an important target language, or they liked the simple novelty of dating a foreigner. However, when they were asked about marrying a foreigner, a lot of them hesitated.

Quick note here: I'm assuming that a lot of the people who said yes to marrying a foreigner only answered the way they did because they didn't want to offend the gaijin who was interviewing them. A few of them even apologized after managing to admit that they wouldn't want a foreign spouse.

Most of the Japanese who didn't really hesitate to openly reject the idea of marrying a foreigner said that their family would disapprove, which is clearly a huge taboo in Japan, as well as China (doing anything to gain negative attention for, or within a family, that is). I also know that a lot of Korea is very intent on saving face and living honorably. Could it simply be a taboo for a Japanese man, who holds more importance in his family's continued lineage than a woman, to "taint" it with being married to a foreigner? It seems a little ridiculous at first, but when you consider the fact that a lot of families are proud to be able to trace their ancestors back thousands of years, it is a little weird to imagine a foreigner being caught up in the mix. This is something I'd really only imagine to be an issue in a country as traditional as Japan, but it really makes sense to me that the average proud, traditional family would want to remain culturally "pure". Imagine the gravity of making the decision to break the "purity" of a potentially thousand year-old family line of pure Japanese. Especially for the dictator-brand traditionalists in Japan (Or almost any country, for that matter), marrying outside of your own culture tends to be heavily looked down upon (more-so for the men than the women).

I haven't really read much on this issue specifically, but this is what I figure contributes to it the most.

posting in blue.. can't even reading it properly on tapatalk...

 

[Tamayo]

posting in blue.. can't even reading it properly on tapatalk...

Fixed. I'm not too sure why, but everything I was typing ended up being blue for a while. I think I may have had a vBulletin addon for Firefox that I didn't know about.

 

[ejay1]

This is kind of a funny post for me to post on since it's my first one. Sort of ended on this thread by mistake-but nonetheless thought it to be a interesting post (in that the original asker is writing a thesis regarding this issue or at least one similar to it). Not sure if I should respond as while I am Japanese and male, I also was raised in the UK when I was really young (either way- I consider myself male before Japanese and nationally I consider myself Japanese before British or Britanese...not that it matters).

What type of class of you writing this paper for (sociology, psychology) and what exactly are you hoping to illustrate? It would seem to be a very difficult topic to cover thoroughly given lack of empirical data/research. Unless of course you mean to conduct your own study-groups or pull from your own censes.

One poster correctly identified that there are more non-Japanese men (referring to westerners as it seems to be the targeted group under discussion) then non-Japanese women in Japan. In my subjective opinion, this is primarily due to the fact western women are less likely to relocate for jobs. Western men are the largest group of transferees, comprising of those who make permanent moves, of those who take short-term assignments requiring relocation, and of those who take assignments that require long-distance commutes. Single women are more likely than married women to take on short-term assignments, but no more likely to relocate permanently.

Consequently, western women are not necessarily viewed as a serious partner to whom Japanese men (such as I) would commit to a meaningful relationship. This may explain why non-Japanese women sometimes express distain at being viewed as a "sexual" partner rather then a "prospective" relationship material. The reason for is as simple as that it is often assumed the western woman would return home to her country (unless otherwise specified).

Japanese men rarely would relocate and leave their company for a partner. We are more committed to our companies until retirement then our Western counterparts. In my experience, many of my non-Japanese colleagues incorrectly assume someone educated overseas would not fit that mold. Honestly, that's absorb.

Fact is, notoriously insular, corporate Japan has long been wary of embracing Western-educated compatriots who return home. I went to King's London College and I can recall being treated with suspicion by Japanese recruiters, who referred to me openly as "over spec" ― too elite to fit in, too eager to get ahead and too likely to be poached or to switch employers before long. Even among top companies with more than a thousand employees, less than 40 percent want to hire Japanese with overseas education. In Japan, taking the time to study overseas sets you back in the shukatsu* race (refers to the system in which Japanese companies typically hire the bulk of their workers straight from college and expect them to stay until retirement).

My point being- even someone who lived overseas and went to college abroad is not any more likely to leave their company in search of a different avenue someplace else. It is literally drilled into our heads that leaving our company would be dishonorable and risk loosing face.

The other idea that is considered is if western women are perceived as more aggressive than Japanese and therefore considered intimidating? This idea is simply based on stereotypes and generalizations, which admittedly Japanese often rely on. However, I can recall several incidents where Japanese women were rather forward and therefore I personally don't attribute 'aggressiveness' based on nationality but rather personality.

At social events, western men are more inclined to approach women that have captured their fancy and engage in conversations than Japanese men. Japanese men rarely implement such an approach, especially with gaijin women. For such women, I would not expect なんぱ/nanpa (picking-up dates in public) and I honestly, leave that skill to the host-boys to finesse for the recruitment of patrons.

Admittedly, in my experience, when a gaijin woman approaches (without me engaging in some form of enticement) I tend to be startled. While it is a form of flattery, the "directness" is also a little unexpected and unsettling. But again- I am a man before I am Japanese and usually just entertain the situation with a polite smile--unless of course, if the woman is outfitted in a T-Shirt with the words "I want a Japanese Boyfriend" proudly displayed over her chest. Besides the fact the large majority of those T-Shirts being grammatically incorrect, I am completely dismayed by how often I see them or even the version of ("I want a Japanese girlfriend").

I am ashamed to admit, that there was one particular time when a young woman wore something equivalent and approached our group (we were getting drinks after work & I was already a wee bit pissed faced) and I believe I reacted in a cheeky snip of "O' rite that's bloody rich dearie!"
It honestly didn't help me feel the need to apologize when the chit then assumed I was some kind of anomaly with being Japanese and speaking with a British accent.

In Japan, go-kon is the most popular way too meet and form romantic partnerships. Typically this blind date is used to form at least some friendships between two groups that are each of a single sex. Generally, a friend (woman or man) organize the gōkon in advance with the help of another friend who is the opposite of sex and in turn invite eligible friends (usually 3 and 3). Usually there is an intended fix-up and the others are merely fillers for the occasion (even married friends will participate, even if their significant other is not attending). The venue is usually a restaurant, izakaya, or anywhere people can eat, drink and make a bit of noise. Generally speaking, gōkon are not primarily intended to result in one-night stands (something more associated with nanpa), but rather for making friends and possibly forming long-term relationships. Sometimes games are played to reduce tension and encourage a convivial atmosphere.

In the West, at least, it's not unusual for a guy and a girl to go out together for their first date for some cup of coffee. Contrary, in Japan going one-on-one with somebody is considered pretty serious and rarely done without the accompany of friends (unless of course it's a date arranged by parents).

I'll conclude that 日本は花より団子じゃねえ – meaning that Japan is not Hana yori dango drama series. Japanese guys really aren't all that different-some are looking for a relationship to last, some are looking around to see what could work, some are just looking around, some are wankers.


**Not that it matters, and a bit personal to disclose – however, I am currently involved with an American girl. Sine this topic refers to Japanese men and Western women relations I'll share a bit......In our case, Kate and I met at a party, which a mutual friend was hoisting and were introduced. I found her attractive, but didn't display any interest and parted company at some point. Towards the end of the night Kate tapped me on the shoulder and said she was informed that my accent was as messed up as hers. Might I add, this was done in terrible Japanese and I absolutely had no idea what she said. Thankfully, she switched to English and that was when I realized she was British! Or so I thought. Then to my amusement she explained she only lived in the UK for a year, but accent she has resulted from living in the South (Georgia) and then having to move around from the East to West coast and eventually Hawaii. As a result, her accent was a Mid-Atlantic English accent and severely confused. As a Japanese who lived in the UK as a kid- I wholeheartedly understood what a confused accent meant. Needless to say- I was smitten.

And I am accurately aware that I ended my post with dating advice- which wasn't my intention at all

problem solved...just have western women who are looking for a japaanese partner to wear a "i want a japanese boyfriend" shirt written in japanese

 

[Apotheke]

I am a Japanese guy. But I never had a japanese girl friend.
I always feel connection to european women

I guess you have to go to a right place to find a guy like me

 

[zoomingjapan]

I interviewed young foreign women in Japan who are either dating a Japanese man or are married to one.
Maybe the interviews might be interesting for some of you.

 

[Mark of Zorro]

I interviewed young foreign women in Japan who are either dating a Japanese man or are married to one.
Maybe the interviews might be interesting for some of you.

Six women were interviewed. Four were married and two were not. The article and interviews talk too much about marriage when it is supposed to be about dating.

And that seems to me to be a primary problem with women and dating; too much focus on the end game of marriage.

I think if you are going to call an article "All You Ever Wanted To Know About Dating Japanese Men", you should stick to dating and avoid talk about marriage. In fact, I think the advice and insights of married people about dating are fairly skewed, because the dating aspect of their relationship has been overshadowed by their marriage. They are out of the dating game and we can say their information is, ahem, dated. To get more accurate information about dating, you should stick to people who are only dating and firmly in the dating game. In fact, those who have just broken up are probably going to provide more valuable info than those currently married. Breaking up is a part of dating!

But hey, pretty much every damned article I ever read that was directed at women on any related subject went with this scatter-brained approach and the women never complain about it. But I think it does the readers a serious disservice. When they read an article with a title like that , I am sure a key question they have in mind is "How can I meet a Japanese guy to date?" But that question was not really answered.

On the other hand, they don't complain about their somewhat wasted 10 minutes and in fact, it does seem to be an effective tactic for keeping readers; never actually answer the questions you bring up, resulting in a never-ending cliff hanger, and they just keep coming back for more run-around.

I will say that to me it was an interesting read, but it might be my maleness talking, but the lack of focus I find rather annoying. Could explain why so few men read women's magazines.

 

[pauro12]

Well most Asian do think of true love (marriage) which they value that is why most of the time they end up falling in love with those they are dating. Here in the Phils. it's quite the same, people whom you are dating will most likely become your girlfriend or boyfriend and most of the time this both will think about future marriage.

 

[Raven Bo]

I think most Japanese men like white women.
Most white women probably does not. They probably have bigger vagina and want none asian.

 

[nahadef]

I think most Japanese men like white women.
Most white women probably does not. They probably have bigger vagina and want none asian.

So you're saying your understanding of the world comes from old Western movies, and not from actual human interaction. Please interact with us all more after you get some real experience in the world. Until then, feel lucky there is no 'unlike' button for members to use.

 

[Raven Bo]

So you're saying your understanding of the world comes from old Western movies, and not from actual human interaction. Please interact with us all more after you get some real experience in the world. Until then, feel lucky there is no 'unlike' button for members to use.

I had sex with white, black, japanese, filipino, laosian, korean, etc.
Part of reason some shot stubby girls like tall men is because they like big penis.
Things like "size does not matter" is a lie to some extend.
And "once you go black you never go back" is true to some extent.

My factual logical statement come from observation and hearing it dozens of times from girls in person. Of course there is some bias and girls that talk vulgar might be more likely to talk and does not represent actual female population.

 

[nahadef]

I had sex with white, black, japanese, filipino, laosian, korean, etc.
Part of reason some shot stubby girls like tall men is because they like big penis.
Things like "size does not matter" is a lie to some extend.
And "once you go black you never go back" is true to some extent.

My factual logical statement come from observation and hearing it dozens of times from girls in person. Of course there is some bias and girls that talk vulgar might be more likely to talk and does not represent actual female population.

So, according to your logic, that Japanese have small penises, and white women have large vaginas, and you think Japanese men want white women, so.. You think men want big vaginas? "I want that big old vagina."

Nobody was taking your posts seriously in the first place, but your "factual logical" thinking is unlikely to convince anyone until you start to speak personally rather than speak generally about genders and ethnic groups using stereotypes. Don't know what your issue is with Japanese men, but it's probably not all that interesting.

 

[letianchen]

So, according to your logic, that Japanese have small penises, and white women have large vaginas, and you think Japanese men want white women, so.. You think men want big vaginas? "I want that big old vagina."

Nobody was taking your posts seriously in the first place, but your "factual logical" thinking is unlikely to convince anyone until you start to speak personally rather than speak generally about genders and ethnic groups using stereotypes. Don't know what your issue is with Japanese men, but it's probably not all that interesting.

No point reasoning. He's just messing around with you trollin and all'

 

[Raven Bo]

So, according to your logic, that Japanese have small penises, and white women have large vaginas, and you think Japanese men want white women, so.. You think men want big vaginas? "I want that big old vagina."

Nobody was taking your posts seriously in the first place, but your "factual logical" thinking is unlikely to convince anyone until you start to speak personally rather than speak generally about genders and ethnic groups using stereotypes. Don't know what your issue is with Japanese men, but it's probably not all that interesting.

You are clueless. Penis are way bigger than clit and it is very sensitive. Therefore men are easy to please.
Men are also more visual, so they can get turn on easier.
This is part of reason why it takes more effort for women to orgasm and complain about "minute man".

11 Random Findings In a Study of Penis Sizes Around the World - 11 Points
Actually, penis size does matter in bed, study says - NBC News.com

 

[nahadef]

No point reasoning. He's just messing around with you trollin and all'

I know, I know. Basically anyone joining a forum to tell us all about how all of X culture and X gender are is a joke. As I wrote, nobody was taking their posts seriously in the first place.

Their idea of dropping knowledge is that penises are bigger than clitorises. Really?

 

[letianchen]

I cant lie tho, trolling is pretty fun. Especially when you try to substantiate stuff with b.s lolol

 

[tinker83]

I think that it depends on the person im an american brought up to be very respectful of others no matter what their ethnicity is and to be nice to everyone not to say that i cant get loud or very out going at times but im usually shy and reserved to i dont act like a VIP im just a normal person like every one else its all how you are raised. I make friends with everyone im just that nice of a person. Its just how you decide to treat everyone i meet. So anyways though, if a person like me wanted to make friends with some individuals from Japan because id love to visit there one day, how would someone introduce themselves the proper way is it different between females and males in ways to be proper i guess is how i would like to ask?