Well, my last relationship question...

[VictorDelacroix]

Sorry to bother again, but as a late birthday present for my girlfriend, I'm giving her her first kiss...and well, frankly, I've never truely been kissed myself. Quick pecks on the lips don't count to either of us, so I was wondering if anyone here had some advice. Anything besides a quick peck is okay, probably...like, she said a true kiss is a 5-30 second deal. The reason I'm asking here is because you guys are so nice and stuff...so, please, help me out...>.<

By the way, I'm 15, she's 14...)

 

[MajideSaiaku]

It will probably seem pretty poor advice but just go for it, i would advice however not to force yourself on her too much and try and be a bit subtle if you must use tongue.

I would also advise not to just stand there lips together and doing nothing but that.

Its great you have yet to experience your first kiss, at that time where the first time for everythnig seems special, but my advice is, go for it, try and think what would make it special and kiss that way, you dont sound like you would just dive right into it.

I suggest you start off with a gentle affectionate peck of the lips and slowly move into a more embraced snog.

So yeah, take your time, do it the way that you feel makes it special and enjoy

 

[isayhello]

Yeah, and no 'attack-kiss' - go gently. Start off with a peck, it's always the best. And try not to be all to nervous and serious about it. A kiss should be fun, too, ne? Even if it's your first, you'll have lots of time for practise after that one; It can only get better from now on, right?

 

[MajideSaiaku]

Ne is used at its best by japanese girls....anyone else using it is just wrong XD

And what isayhello said, sound advice.

 

[Tsuyoiko]

Ne is used at its best by japanese girls

Lots of people here say ne, ne? It is nice and succinct, better than the nearest English like "don't you think?" or whatever. I like it!

Anyway, good luck Victor, I feel kind of envious. I remember my first kiss, but he had kissed lots of girls. He was kind to me though. It is nice that it is the first time for both of you. The advice here is good - start with a peck on the lips, and I'm sure it will come naturally.

 

[Duo]

nahhh, don't listen to these romantic advices, i say this is ur first kiss, who knows if she will want more, i say go all out, charge in there, rough and tough, don't be stopped by her blokade, use ur arms and touch places as well, like below the back, let ur tongue roam free in her mouth, i mean youngsters must explore at one point, just be pretend like ur gonna go nice n easy and soon as she closes her eyes, bammmmm, surprise her, her young adolescent instcints will fire up maybe she'll get get hyped up on those new hormones that will drug her brain like crazy, her belly will have butterflies, her brain will black out so she mite allow other concesions, i mean why does it have to be just the first kiss, go and see how far the wind will take u until the storm rises. We don't live in no Victorian era of romance and sweet nothings and whatever, fact remains prolly one of u may be dissapointed from this first kiss as it happens to many who have played sweet n soft, but i'll always remember my first kiss, it was with a girl older than me who had not such a good reputation but she went all out on me and it was really pleasurful and my insticnts from there just took over responding to her rawness. We are all animals inside, let your inner anima loose young one..... a lotta girls say they prefer sweet guys and nice guys and what not, but why are those girls with bad boys a**hole type of guys ? I'm not tellin u to be one, just don't be like this ultra sweet sentive guy else u may end up bein the p***y in the relationship, so be sweet and caring yes but take a bit charge when it comes to bodily xchanges don't just be passive like her, let her have it, in a matter of speaking of course.

Ok, i was kidding sorry, don't nobody reach for the negative rep yet, damm, just waitin for the moment to punish me, eh ? anyways, good luck whatever u do vic, just one really important advice, don't listen to anyone here, just follow your instinct, things like this are different for everyone, don't worry about it and just do it, it will naturally come to you like walkin or speaking. Yes, practice does make perfect, but at first just follow ur instincts and u can't go wrong

 

[isayhello]

Ne is used at its best by japanese girls....anyone else using it is just wrong XD

... I just can't help using it. It's a good litte word... I like it!

Duo: That sounds more like a combat strategy Said before, NO attack... (Although you were joking XD ) Just because a guy kisses soft, doesn't mean he's a soft, boring guy now, does it?

 

[Duo]

... I just can't help using it. It's a good litte word... I like it!

Duo: That sounds more like a combat strategy Said before, NO attack... (Although you were joking XD ) Just because a guy kisses soft, doesn't mean he's a soft, boring guy now, does it?

nope not at all, but tell me this, do u always like guys kissin u soflty and sweetly or do you get also smtimes the need for some more primal xhanges of affection

 

[Tsuyoiko]

nope not at all, but tell me this, do u always like guys kissin u soflty and sweetly or do you get also smtimes the need for some more primal xhanges of affection

Now maybe, but not when I was 14, like Victor's girlfriend!

 

[isayhello]

nope not at all, but tell me this, do u always like guys kissin u soflty and sweetly or do you get also smtimes the need for some more primal xhanges of affection

... well, yes, off course I do, very much so. But... I sure know I'd never want my first kiss to be that way.. My first kiss was scary enough without the guy pouncing down on me... It was nervous-scary, sort of.

Off course, there's no way of 'deciding' what the first kiss should be like. Some first kisses are unplanned, others have been waiting for the kiss to come for years (?), I'm sure some first kisses are violent, others are soft. However, whatever the first kiss is like, it should be something both the involved agree on. A first kiss should be something you want. Not forced.

 

[Duo]

Now maybe, but not when I was 14, like Victor's girlfriend!

Yes ok, but i was kidding about that

 

[Duo]

... well, yes, off course I do, very much so. But... I sure know I'd never want my first kiss to be that way.. My first kiss was scary enough without the guy pouncing down on me... It was nervous-scary, sort of.

Off course, there's no way of 'deciding' what the first kiss should be like. Some first kisses are unplanned, others have been waiting for the kiss to come for years (?), I'm sure some first kisses are violent, others are soft. However, whatever the first kiss is like, it should be something both the involved agree on. A first kiss should be something you want. Not forced.

ja ja I agree, i was just being silly since everyone was being so sweet and all, just sayin that there is another side to human interactions in romance that is a bit more primal....

 

[Kinsao]

:winklove: ........ I liked your post, Duo.

 

[jovial_jon]

Just don't think about it while it's happening. Once the moment starts all this advice will go out of your head and you'll just go, as the others have said, with your instincts. I have to say, my first kiss was, as Duo says, 'primal'. And that was no bad thing. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's better to be soft.

 

[Tsuyoiko]

So what about your first kisses guys? Mine was when I was 12, with a boy called Matthew at lunchtime on the school field. Matthew was tall and chubby, with spiky red hair, light brown eyes and lots of freckles. He had kissed lots of girls. I puckered up, then he said, 'try opening your mouth', so I did and it was nice. He wanted to be a DJ. I wonder what he's doing now?

 

[jovial_jon]

I had to wait slightly longer for mine. It happened on January 2nd of this year, in slightly slutty circumstances which I shalln't go into here, we became boyfriends 2 weeks later and things are still going great.

All together now: "Awwwww."

 

[Duo]

Duo : awwwwwwwwwwwwwww, jon that's sweet, now tell the truth, who took advantage of whom that day ?



well i already describe mine....i thought it was very nice, to this day there has only been another girl that was as good as my first, I wonder what we're gonna discuss next, our first times maybe

 

[Tsuyoiko]

I had to wait slightly longer for mine. It happened on January 2nd of this year, in slightly slutty circumstances which I shalln't go into here, we became boyfriends 2 weeks later and things are still going great.

All together now: "Awwwww."

Awwwww! I saw your pic - you make a nice couple!

 

[duff_o_josh]

make sure your lips are not dry! i say go slow also and make sure its wet, wet is good, but not soaking.

 

[kirei_na_me]

Is there some kind of copyright on "ne"?

Granted, I think it sounds a little silly for a foreigner to just go around saying it while using a language other than Japanese, but well, to each his/her own...

 

[isayhello]

I know, it might sound silly... but I'm still gonna use it, cause it's stuck with me. There'll always be certain words or phrases that people will use hella lot and others will dislike. Japan has it's share of those types of words. Same with the 'kawaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!' word... ne?

My first kiss was when I was 14. We were alone, and I thought he was gonna hug me only, but instead when out faces got close, he kissed me. We weren't going out or anything. I was totally stunned, but tried to take it easy anyways. I felt stupid. But it was still sort of nice.

 

[Kinsao]

lol, I'm slightly puzzled that my first emoticon from my last post seems to have disappeared. Was I treading too close to the line?

I can't remember how old I was at my first kiss. I only remember I was in a club and it was with a total stranger.

 

[kirei_na_me]

At what age do kisses start to count? I mean, when you kiss at age 7, what is that? Does that count as a first kiss? Is there some rule about first kisses? I'm 29 and I don't know! ☝

 

[isayhello]

Nah, I think, there's no special age 'when kisses start to count'... but 7 is a bit small..? I think, if there's love and emotion behind the kiss, the it's a kiss. But not the 'I kissed George cause he's my best friend!' - 7 year old kind of talk... and not the 'I kissed mom cause I looove her!' either

It's the.. love... feeling.. the sort of love you feel for a boyfriend/girlfriend

 

[Davey]

first of all i am happy to read this, first love.. and the first kiss. * looks a long time ago that i had my first kiss.. i wont tell you how hahahah*

kissing isnt that difficult.... but there are some things that you just shouldn't do... most important one, i think is: DONT TURN YOUR TONQEU LIKE A WASHING MACHINE!!!!!!!!... you can do this, when you are horney and later on.. but on the first kiss.. please dont....

secondly.. brush your tooth... or use some Fresh (no bubble) gum.

the moment of when to kiss.. yeah.. this is hard!!! as you will be thinking of it a lott. and have like.. should i do it now? no i wait... dont wait until the last moment,,, because you might want to kiss more... so do it in the middle of the time * i dont know what you will do.. maybe a movie, or have a walk...


what i remember as advice is.. try it on your arm.. put your lips on your arm, and kiss it .. use your tonqeu a bit.. you will feel what is nice and what isn't nice

GOODLUCK....

NE NE NE NE NE NE NE * love the NE*