comorbid
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- 29 Mar 2005
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Anyone who can read English can clearly see that I've responded to other questions of yours with answers.
Inter-racial Relationships
- Thread starter kusojiji
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Anyone who can read English can clearly see that I've responded to other questions of yours with answers.
comorbid
後輩
- 29 Mar 2005
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No, because that last post, along with this post are both answers to your questions.
comorbid
後輩
- 29 Mar 2005
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No, I was responding to someone who originally stated an opinion based on personal experience trying to make someone else who presented their own personal experience prove that their personal experience held any sort of weight by providing what you consider to be "facts." You didn't do that in your original post, and I felt that since you previously didn't respect another user's personal life experience, it probably wasn't necessary to present mine.
Sure enough, you're still accusing me of speculation because I "don't" have any facts to back it up. So, considering your previous actions, as well as how you're going about handling my response to your previous actions, I don't think I'm obligated to tell you anything. You've riddled this thread with fallacies, and at this point it's ceased to be a serious discussion.
If you're bent on dissecting my personal experience to point out how it couldn't possibly have happened, then just say so. If that's not the case, you'll need to tell me why you want to know what it was in the first place.
comorbid
後輩
- 29 Mar 2005
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Well, then perhaps you shouldn't have bothered asking the question to begin with.
comorbid
後輩
- 29 Mar 2005
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I'm thinking more along the lines of you shouldn't have bothered even starting the thread, all things considered.
comorbid
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- 29 Mar 2005
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No you don't, because you still haven't done it.
EDIT: I totally misread that, and thought you were referring to my requesting you tell me why you wanted to know about my experiences.
Putrefaction
不幸中の幸い. . . がない.
- 7 Nov 2008
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kusojiji you must be really ******* stupid in real life. i consider myself really stupid but holy **** in this thread alone you come off as a huge stupid dick. you are in this thread as stupid as
who is it bad for? society. they're the only ones who have "problems" in interracial relationships. that was the whole point of this topic, and though you started it, somehow you missed the entire point.
(side note: when i read that i loled so hard, sounds like someone didnt read about LCA)
who is it bad for? society. they're the only ones who have "problems" in interracial relationships. that was the whole point of this topic, and though you started it, somehow you missed the entire point.
Putrefaction
不幸中の幸い. . . がない.
- 7 Nov 2008
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And I would think you mean the country's society.
Because they and they alone would have a problem with it.
RavenRockstar
I'm a whale. Bawwwoooo!
- 23 May 2009
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haha kusojiji is making me laugh pretty damn hard.
I've come to the conclusion that you just love to argue (no prob there, I do as well)
but i generally makes the argument more enjoyable if both parties are civil and try not to stray too far from provable facts to outright opinions
(look! look! i WAS paying attention in debate class =])
I've come to the conclusion that you just love to argue (no prob there, I do as well)
but i generally makes the argument more enjoyable if both parties are civil and try not to stray too far from provable facts to outright opinions
(look! look! i WAS paying attention in debate class =])
comorbid
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- 29 Mar 2005
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I thought it was especially funny when he suggested that people in Washington wouldn't show any sort of racist sentiment towards a bi-racial individual, as if "knuckle draggers" didn't exist in that part of the US.
RavenRockstar
I'm a whale. Bawwwoooo!
- 23 May 2009
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yup
and it seems like he cant decide which side of the debate he agrres with, so he contents himself with arguing with eveyone
- 15 May 2008
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I've seen plenty of romantic forays in the inaka between Japanese and (white) Westerners, although who knows... Maybe someone brown has also found someone...I didn't. The only people I dated or liked in Japan were Japanese, so there's that, too. Never found anyone worth forming a relationship with. I came across one guy who I'm quite sure just had a black woman fetish (in Korea, too). In the city (half a mil) in Japan, there were BM/JW pairs.
In Korea, it's about the same...but not exactly. I've been stuck in the inaka of Korea twice, and it's proven impossible for me to find anyone who isn't already married or just plain wary (or consumed with exotifying occidentalism) of getting involved with a black woman.
No matter where you are, it depends on what you're looking for whether or not you'll be happy.
As for discrimination or getting looks, bah. It's Asia and not everyone has had exposure or knowledge. Walking with my WM friend in the market, he exclaimed about how people were stopping to stare at us - or in particular, me, something he's not used to because he's just another whitey who gets the glance or pause. "Yeah, well, welcome to my world." No matter how pretty they say my skin is, 99% of these people would kill their sons rather than have me seduce them away to ebil industrialized America.
In Korea, it's about the same...but not exactly. I've been stuck in the inaka of Korea twice, and it's proven impossible for me to find anyone who isn't already married or just plain wary (or consumed with exotifying occidentalism) of getting involved with a black woman.
No matter where you are, it depends on what you're looking for whether or not you'll be happy.
As for discrimination or getting looks, bah. It's Asia and not everyone has had exposure or knowledge. Walking with my WM friend in the market, he exclaimed about how people were stopping to stare at us - or in particular, me, something he's not used to because he's just another whitey who gets the glance or pause. "Yeah, well, welcome to my world." No matter how pretty they say my skin is, 99% of these people would kill their sons rather than have me seduce them away to ebil industrialized America.
Is this a joke? I cannot begin to fathom someone actually saying that and meaning it. How can you say that the love I have for my wife is shameful? No love is shameful.
Getting back to the question, where I'm from, it seems about half of all couples I see in the city centre are interracial. However, I had a problem with the manager of a school where I was working in Japan. I won't go into details, but Japan is still in the dark ages sometimes when it comes to foreigners.
MadamePapillon
Fear my Niftyness
- 1 Jul 2007
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Well, depends really. There's some people who for them love knows no race, in that case, inter-racial relationships are a great thing.
Then you get people who are just 'going inter-racial' because they can't look past their race (looking at several people on this forum). In that case, no, it's not a good thing.
Basically what I'm saying is loving someone for who they are and looking past the exterior is beautiful. Loving someone solely because of their exterior ... not so much.
Wow, hope that came out right.
Then you get people who are just 'going inter-racial' because they can't look past their race (looking at several people on this forum). In that case, no, it's not a good thing.
Basically what I'm saying is loving someone for who they are and looking past the exterior is beautiful. Loving someone solely because of their exterior ... not so much.
Wow, hope that came out right.
Putrefaction
不幸中の幸い. . . がない.
- 7 Nov 2008
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For some people, it starts on the exterior and moves inward.
Elizabeth
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Not to carry the stereotyping here too far, but from a woman's perspective I totally emphathize with Japanese women's interest in foreign men.
Mostly because of how Japanese Guys are not very (hardly at all..) other-directed compared to Japanese women. And that it isn't just my situation. Especially the older ones tend not to ask woman about their disposition, feelings, or opinions about anything
.....As a general rule, being raised in a culture which puts men first and foremost can't help but end up feeling that he's at the top of the heap....
Not good but at least to all of who envy the ability of Western men to understand a woman's perspective, you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about...you're not alone.
haha...
Mostly because of how Japanese Guys are not very (hardly at all..) other-directed compared to Japanese women. And that it isn't just my situation. Especially the older ones tend not to ask woman about their disposition, feelings, or opinions about anything
.....As a general rule, being raised in a culture which puts men first and foremost can't help but end up feeling that he's at the top of the heap....Not good but at least to all of who envy the ability of Western men to understand a woman's perspective, you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about...you're not alone.
haha...
MadamePapillon
Fear my Niftyness
- 1 Jul 2007
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I think you misunderstood me. I meant if you're only attracted to a man because he's black. Or you're only attracted to a woman because she happens to be Asian.
Then it's a bad thing because you're not really seeing the person behind the face. If you build a relationships solely on race it's not a real relationship.
Putrefaction
不幸中の幸い. . . がない.
- 7 Nov 2008
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Especially the older ones tend not to ask woman about their disposition, feelings, or opinions about anything
Well, I think this is common wherever you go. The first part, that is. I think it's not very needed when you get older and have spent time with someone, you can "read" them, right? At least in sitcoms. Which is dangerous, to base your opinions on TV. Which I'm doing. ☝
ShadowSpirit
normal is so passe
- 3 Dec 2008
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I believe this topic weeds out individuals that haven't adapted their perspective towards humanity beyond their confined upbringing. We are taught certain morals and beliefs for better or worse, then hopefully take the initiative to seek out knowledge in our aging time. Some choose to group themselves amongst like-minded individuals while staying content with what they're accustomed to. Others explore the possibilities without fear of encountering answers that may upset or contradict what they once preached as truth.
inter-cultural relationships is a divide that deserves a worthy mention amongst other communication barriers such as vast age differences; only if to help understand the complications that may arise in such a union.
Yet for inter-racial, that alone is a moot point that builds only on the differences of stereotypes alone. I have a Haitian friend who doesn't fit into the molded image that American black hip hop artists have created. He prefers rock music, his favorite sport is soccer (football for you European readers,) and his accent is reminiscent of a cliche American suburb. He's a really friendly guy and I would find it hard-pressed for a woman with similar interests not to enjoy his company even if she isn't Haitian or black.
As for the inter-racial fetish perspective...
For some, different race can be an exciting thing too. Not necessarily on the level of a fetish. Though much for the change-of-pace aspect of it. It's like if all you date are short people, then someone tall starts flirting with you. The appeal and curiosity factor could trigger to that. Same for someone who are: thin vs chubby, long hair vs short hair, blond vs black, aggressive vs timid. Physical attraction towards inter-racial relationships is typical by our natural curosity. Making it a fetish or disregarding a person's other attributes is considerably an unhealthy approach.
inter-cultural relationships is a divide that deserves a worthy mention amongst other communication barriers such as vast age differences; only if to help understand the complications that may arise in such a union.
Yet for inter-racial, that alone is a moot point that builds only on the differences of stereotypes alone. I have a Haitian friend who doesn't fit into the molded image that American black hip hop artists have created. He prefers rock music, his favorite sport is soccer (football for you European readers,) and his accent is reminiscent of a cliche American suburb. He's a really friendly guy and I would find it hard-pressed for a woman with similar interests not to enjoy his company even if she isn't Haitian or black.
As for the inter-racial fetish perspective...
For some, different race can be an exciting thing too. Not necessarily on the level of a fetish. Though much for the change-of-pace aspect of it. It's like if all you date are short people, then someone tall starts flirting with you. The appeal and curiosity factor could trigger to that. Same for someone who are: thin vs chubby, long hair vs short hair, blond vs black, aggressive vs timid. Physical attraction towards inter-racial relationships is typical by our natural curosity. Making it a fetish or disregarding a person's other attributes is considerably an unhealthy approach.
