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Please tell us the truth if you are lying. Also, where did you get this information from?
the application for a return order under the Hague Convention is not retroactive. So cases such as his, which occurred in the past, and in which the children are already 13 years old, are not covered under any of the provisions of this treaty
Please tell us the truth if you are lying. Also, where did you get this information from?
Assistance in Visitation or Contacts with Child in Japan ｜ Ministry of Foreign Affairs of JapanThe child pertaining to the application has attained the age of 16.
You should have read the link I provided, so you can easily find the information you got is obviously wrong.
For instance;
Assistance in Visitation or Contacts with Child in Japan ｜ Ministry of Foreign Affairs of Japan
Sometimes we need to start with what we can get and then work towards what we want.
If your son truly wants a relationship with his daughter he will take the opportunity which is available and work to prove that he deserves more.
Serious advice: A return order, are you for real? After seven years and given the fact that she is now a teenager and apparently monolingual Japanese? Would you really force her to move halfway across the world against her will?
She's 13, which is old enough to have her own say. What her father wants is really not the most important thing here. Do you want a court to say you're right, or do you want her to still be talking to you in ten years time?
You have a line of communication, for the moment. Try using it to listen to her.
How many teenagers do you know that you think a legal ruling will change her mind?
Can you imagine being thirteen and being told to leave your mother, your home, all your friends, go to another country where you don't speak the language, and live with "family" who you barely know? Of course she doesn't want to.
There's no easy answer. The best you can do is try to keep this line of communication open and find out what she wants, which is the most important thing. Nothing overrules that. I don't care what you want, or what her father wants, or what her mother wants - children are not the property of their parents.
I'm sure it's hard for you. The problem is that you seem to have no awareness of how much harder it must be for her.
There is also the possibility that the mother taking the child and escaping with her back to Japan was in the child's best interest.
Ah yes. The option so often not mentioned out of misguided sentiment, such as being nice or some sort of nationalism. I have seen several cases where where everyone was supporting the "gaijin". I always took these case by case, looking at facts and probabilities. I am still amazed how many supported Chris Savoie. I smelled a rat with that guy instantly. And I found several upon inspection.
I have no idea what is going on in this thread. Where is the other thread that led to this lambasting of the OP?
You can see all the messages the member posted in this form just to click the number under the messages icon, or at the very beginning of this thread for the specific ones you want to know.I have no idea what is going on in this thread. Where is the other thread that led to this lambasting of the OP?
Where did you get that information from?Japan hasn't signed the Hague Agreement
Ok. I remember 7 years ago people going on about this. I see its changed. Thanks. I guess Japanese women cant get away with abducting their child from the foreign parent anymore or a foreign child with one parent working in Japan. Well done Japan.
They signed it but that doesn't mean they will enforce it.