marrying & muslim...What do I do now!?

[Yon]

Hello everyone/selamun aleykum/ konbanwa!

I'm a turkish guy living in holland, I have a problem, my time has already come to marry because many cousins of my family are already married. The exact problem is I don't want to marry a turkish girl, why? because it is boring and I'm not addicted and interested, I don't want to see Turkish and turkish, but also turkish and other origin.
I wants to marry a japanese girl,I'm already 24 and interested in japan when I turned 12 since then my passion for japan has become stronger...and even japanese girls are energic and nice...and their appearance are totally my type.
I have been in japan last year, my goal was finding a nice japanese (muslim) girl to marry.
But it is hard to find and what do I do now? My parents patient is almost up and they gave me last chance to find a girl before i turn 25 and that is next year in augustus so.
I feel kind of hopeless and it is not they are forcing me but if i don't marry i will dissapoint my parents...and that is my weakness...i have already declined 4 turkish families in turkey that offered their daughter....they were all cute and attractive but that wasn't my aim...i love japanese...if I marry with a turkish then my bond for japan will surely break....
can somebody (muslim brothers) tell me what to do!? where can i find or is there a cupido that can bound me with a nice girl?
I'm not ugly nor handsome (I had last year a girl named kanami that i dated but i lost her contact....)

greets hopeless dreamer Yusuf from holland

 

[Mikawa Ossan]

I am sorryﾂ I am not Muslim, but as a fellow human being, please let me say that marrying someone just for their race (Japanese) is a recipe for an unhappy marriage.

 

[ChrisGR]

I am sorry I am not Muslim, but as a fellow human being, please let me say that marrying someone just for their race (Japanese) is a recipe for an unhappy marriage.

Its kinda irrelevant for me but the great majority of people of one country happens to marry people from the same country, only BECAUSE they are from the same country. so how about that?
i dont think that thats sufficient for the recipe for an unsuccessful marriage... look around you and you will see the real reasons of divorcing or unhappiness in some marriages.
http://www.ultimate-self.com/unhappy-marriage-statistics/

and about this guy, he shows that he wont be too happy if he marries a turkish girl anyway.
Maybe i am wrong but its not my business anyway, i just wanted to answer to your post .

of course i dont agree with the poster's opinion either (i said that cuz there may be people who misunderstand pretty easily, i know from past experiences).

 

[Haruspex]

look around you and you will see the real reasons of divorcing or unhappiness in some marriages.

Trust me, its because of all the miscarriages when unsuspecting women learn about your existence. That despair is screwing marriages.

 

[Hezam]

hmm...my Japanese friend is Muslim and he is looking for Muslim Japanese girl,he is almost 23 age.

 

[Haruspex]

hmm...my Japanese friend is Muslim and he is looking for Muslim Japanese girl,he is almost 23 age.

And did it not dawn to him yet that only pr*cks marry in such a discriminatory way?

 

[Hezam]

I told him he may marry Christian Japanese girl !
Actually we can not marry atheist,so we must marry to Christian or Jewish only.

 

[ChrisGR]

Trust me, its because of all the miscarriages when unsuspecting women learn about your existence. That despair is screwing marriages.

explain in some earth's language plz. (prefferably english thx)

 

[master-ling]

Thanks for feeding the troll guys!

 

[Dogen Z]

Moderator!

Thanks for feeding the troll guys!

Agree with above, and I vote to move this thread because it has more to do with international relationships than religion in Japan.

Moderator, please move this thread to topic "International Relations" or "Serious Discussions." Onegai shimasu.

 

[Eugeniu]

I told him he may marry Christian Japanese girl !
Actually we can not marry atheist,so we must marry to Christian or Jewish only.

I personally would like to have this explained in some sort of Earth language.

 

[Nichiren]

Hello everyone/selamun aleykum/ konbanwa!
I'm a turkish guy living in holland, I have a problem, my time has already come to marry because many cousins of my family are already married. The exact problem is I don't want to marry a turkish girl, why? because it is boring and I'm not addicted and interested, I don't want to see Turkish and turkish, but also turkish and other origin.
I wants to marry a japanese girl,I'm already 24 and interested in japan when I turned 12 since then my passion for japan has become stronger...and even japanese girls are energic and nice...and their appearance are totally my type.
I have been in japan last year, my goal was finding a nice japanese (muslim) girl to marry.
But it is hard to find and what do I do now? My parents patient is almost up and they gave me last chance to find a girl before i turn 25 and that is next year in augustus so.
I feel kind of hopeless and it is not they are forcing me but if i don't marry i will dissapoint my parents...and that is my weakness...i have already declined 4 turkish families in turkey that offered their daughter....they were all cute and attractive but that wasn't my aim...i love japanese...if I marry with a turkish then my bond for japan will surely break....
can somebody (muslim brothers) tell me what to do!? where can i find or is there a cupido that can bound me with a nice girl?
I'm not ugly nor handsome (I had last year a girl named kanami that i dated but i lost her contact....)
greets hopeless dreamer Yusuf from holland

My mentor Dr. Daisaku Ikeda, japanese educator and SGI buddhist leader, always emphasize on Youth to be the time to build the foundation of our future. He always encourage that Youth must be the time to develop themselves and on their studies and become great leader in the society in the fields they are into. According to Dr. Ikeda, There's a time for everything. There's no need for rush.

I like to share this quote a passage from him:

"Ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people. It is the inner struggle to polish these attributes that is the key. ... Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality..."

If u like to read his writings and his philosophy on life, you can visit this site: http://www.ikedaquotes.org/

 

[ChrisGR]

My mentor Dr. Daisaku Ikeda, japanese educator and SGI buddhist leader, always emphasize on Youth to be the time to build the foundation of our future. He always encourage that Youth must be the time to develop themselves and on their studies and become great leader in the society in the fields they are into. According to Dr. Ikeda, There's a time for everything. There's no need for rush.
I like to share this quote a passage from him:
"Ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people. It is the inner struggle to polish these attributes that is the key. ... Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality..."
If u like to read his writings and his philosophy on life, you can visit this site: http://www.ikedaquotes.org/

Pretty nice and smart quotes, some of them are my own beliefs too, thanks for sharing.

 

[Haruspex]

explain in some earth's language plz. (prefferably english thx)

I have made accusations to the extent that you are guilty of being the cause of miscarriages worldwide, and that this is causing mass divorce.

I must say though, I have used English the other time as well. Its funny how you accuse me of flawed speech yet only your above writing contains 5 errors.

 

[Hezam]

I personally would like to have this explained in some sort of Earth language.

Do you want me to explain it in Arabic ? i think it's very clear !
Can you explain what you dont understand ?

 

[Mycernius]

I personally would like to have this explained in some sort of Earth language.

There is no need for that. Hezam's first language is not english, but he does fairly well on this forum is making himself understood. I would like to see how good your arabic is?

I told him he may marry Christian Japanese girl !
Actually we can not marry atheist,so we must marry to Christian or Jewish only.

Why not marry an atheist? We are not some sort of anti-moralistic, god hating, baby eating deviants that preachers like to portray us as. Mind you I would love to know what your parents would say to you if you married a jewish girl.

 

[Mycernius]

Agree with above, and I vote to move this thread because it has more to do with international relationships than religion in Japan.
Moderator, please move this thread to topic "International Relations" or "Serious Discussions." Onegai shimasu.

Noted and moved to Chit chat subforum Love and relationships

 

[Hezam]

Why not marry an atheist? We are not some sort of anti-moralistic, god hating, baby eating deviants that preachers like to portray us as. Mind you I would love to know what your parents would say to you if you married a jewish girl.

Actually i am not against marry atheist,i see No difference but you know this is a religious reason...
If i married a jewish girl,Initially they will oppose this marriage because what the jewish do but for a stronger reason (Islamic) they will accept it.
Actually,my uncle married to American atheist woman.also two of my cousins.
it's not that big problem as some people think ^^

 

[Nichiren]

Actually i am not against marry atheist,i see No difference but you know this is a religious reason...

You are not against with it but your religious law forbidden it...which one do u follow your religion or your conscience? aren't they contradicting?

 

[Haruspex]

You are not against with it but your religious law forbidden it...which one do u follow your religion or your conscience? aren't they contradicting?

That contradiction is a ray of hope for him lol. We may yet see an atheist Hezam. Hahaha.

 

[Hezam]

That contradiction is a ray of hope for him lol. We may yet see an atheist Hezam. Hahaha.

atheist !! lol you cam say "Married an atheist woman" but not converted to atheist....

 

[Haruspex]

atheist !! lol you cam say "Married an atheist woman" but not converted to atheist....

Trust me mate, the best is yet to come. Marry an atheist woman, and you'll have the seeds of corruption planted in you, and hell, they will sprout. Also, you can't convert to atheism, you just cease being a theist, which you will, which you will... mwahaha.

 

[Hezam]

lol,so no need for converting programs ?

Trust me mate, the best is yet to come. Marry an atheist woman, and you'll have the seeds of corruption planted in you, and hell, they will sprout. Also, you can't convert to atheism, you just cease being a theist, which you will, which you will... mwahaha.

 

[Haruspex]

lol,so no need for converting programs ?

No, of course not. You wouldn't 'convert' a person with a cold, would you? Consider it a healing process.

 

[ChrisGR]

I have made accusations to the extent that you are guilty of being the cause of miscarriages worldwide, and that this is causing mass divorce.

I must say though, I have used English the other time as well. Its funny how you accuse me of flawed speech yet only your above writing contains 5 errors.

I dont see why you have all this "reputation" in this forum when you write **** like that.