You should be banned because you have a good point! Is the way I want her to be absolute or relative? For if she was not who she is now, she would be different, but I would never know it, for the different her would then become the reference point unless somehow I used the real her as a reference. However, that would mean using someone other than the her that I would know instead of the doppleganger her for that reference point. But then could it be said that I wanted her to be her or like someone else? Hearty food for thought, that is...