Why I don't participate....

Mike Cash

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The reason I don't participate in the Member's Introduction forum is that I don't wish to be be the cause of making other people's screens look like this:

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hehe, you got a point there Mike ! :D Hmm, I think there should be done something about it ^^"
 
Yes! That's why I don't participate there anymore. The only reason I did today, was because a friend of mine joined.

Oh, and thank you for the consideration...
 
That's funny.

Well, smurf seems like a nice boy though.
At least, he posts for other threads too.
 
That's the reason why I don't participate on these forums much at all really.

Doc
 
Its not that difficult to scroll down the page.
When I first read this I thought 'hahah yeah...', but really, its nice to welcome newbies. It encourages them to post more.
Good on Smurf for posting for the rest of us, that dont do that anymore. Someone has to do it.
 
There's nothing in particular wrong with Smurf. Nor is there anything in particular wrong with greeting new people to the forums. It's very neighborly. The problem comes when someone goes through and in rapid succession catches up on a backlog of new members they haven't welcomed yet.
 
smurf was reading my post of *1000 post* and thought this would be the fastest way to do that.. LOL
 
I Think It's Nice As A New Person On The Forum To Be Welcomed !

This was the first Forum I had anything to do with and I sure appreciated people being nice to me. As far as I'm concerned, young & old, J-Rockers or history/language/culture buffs should all be treated politely and with patience and understanding. I do tend to hate Japan bashers who seem to hate Japan for past history events and would like them to go to Forums for people who dislike Japan, BUT I keep my mouth shut and allow them their freedom of speech & thought. Sure, there are young people here on the Forum who can grate on the nerves a little, but that's life everywhere. I try to understand where they are coming from and treat them with respect; I feel better knowing what's on younger people's minds and know they are the world's future. The reason I spend so much of my time here is this Forum seems so special and almost always leaves me feeling good. The owners and admin work REAL hard to make this Forum interesting and peaceful. It would be easy after being here for a while to feel dominant and be a mean P***k to new people or younger members; I think it's a sign of patience and maturity to sit on your hands and avoid the nasty comments, why spread hate & discontent ? I don't know, maybe trying to be nice is a dying art in the modern world?

Frank

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I'm sorry you guys. I honestly didn't know that it bothered anybody. The reason I post like that is because I don't log onto the forums on the weekdays much. When I log on I see all these new people who have joined over the week so I say hello to them. I'll stop if it really bothers you that much.
 
Dont be silly, like I said earlier, its not hard to scroll down.
It makes it easier for other nice 'welcoming' people like yourself to do likewise, if they too havent been on the computer during the week.
You have a kind heart, keep it up. Seeing as it only happens once a week, we really cant complain, worse things could happen.
 
I don't mean to pick on Smurf by any means. Nor do I mean to say that people should not be welcomed. But looking at the time stamps on the posts, I have to wonder if there was time to actually read the self-introduction of each new member who got welcomed. If not, it is the online equivalent of the perfunctory, spiritless "Irasshaimase" that we wonder why the clerks in stores say without even bothering to look up to see who it is who has entered.
 
mikecash said:
I don't mean to pick on Smurf by any means. Nor do I mean to say that people should not be welcomed. But looking at the time stamps on the posts, I have to wonder if there was time to actually read the self-introduction of each new member who got welcomed. If not, it is the online equivalent of the perfunctory, spiritless "Irasshaimase" that we wonder why the clerks in stores say without even bothering to look up to see who it is who has entered.

....and how, I ask ... would you feel ... and what would you possibly say ... if the clerk ignored you completely?

I would suggest that possibly, that wouldn't be acceptable, either...?

Sadly ... the world is not .... perfect....

Just a thought ...

ニ淡ニ停?。ニ停?
 
Reconsider your question in light of the fact that I'm doing the equivalent of the clerk ignoring someone completely by not participating in the new members' introduction forum. I'd rather be ignored than have a greeting from an automaton. So, yes, that would be perfectly acceptable to me.
 
mikecash said:
Reconsider your question in light of the fact that I'm doing the equivalent of the clerk ignoring someone completely by not participating in the new members' introduction forum. I'd rather be ignored than have a greeting from an automaton. So, yes, that would be perfectly acceptable to me.

I don't have to reconsider my question at all!

Surely, if you do not wish to participate - then, do not. That's all!

Why do you find it so necessary to go to the trouble of broadcasting that you do not so wish?

This is not the behaviour of someone who wants to ignore, and wants to be ignored completely ... it is the total reverse.... a quest for recognition.

ニ淡ニ停?。ニ停?
 
Sensuikan San said:
I don't have to reconsider my question at all!

You seem to have misunderstood what I meant by suggesting you reconsider your question. I meant that the answer was obvious, and then pointed out why. I grieve that you still missed it.

Surely, if you do not wish to participate - then, do not. That's all!

Why do you find it so necessary to go to the trouble of broadcasting that you do not so wish?

In the futile hope that people who dash through backlogs of new member introductions at breakneck speeds indicating they very likely didn't even take the time to read the threads would slow down and actually take the time to interact with the OP on those threads in a more human, less automaton-like way. And perhaps avoid those irritating lists of new posts such as appear in the image I posted.

Why do you find it necessary to take issue with my taking issue with this?

This is not the behaviour of someone who wants to ignore, and wants to be ignored completely ... it is the total reverse.... a quest for recognition.

ニ淡ニ停?。ニ停?彈/QUOTE]

Congratulations on missing the point entirely. Did you miss the original post or something?
 
smurf said:
I'm sorry you guys. I honestly didn't know that it bothered anybody. The reason I post like that is because I don't log onto the forums on the weekdays much. When I log on I see all these new people who have joined over the week so I say hello to them. I'll stop if it really bothers you that much.


doesnt bother me iether, just looks funny.. Last posted: Smurf Smurf Smurf hihi.. no worries mate , you arnt they only one 😊

 
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mikecash said:
The reason I don't participate in the Member's Introduction forum is that I don't wish to be be the cause of making other people's screens look like this:


we understand what you mean ... hahahahaha
 
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This is tough. On the one hand, it is very nice and neighborly to say hi to all the new people. On the other, if we all did that (thank you mikecash for tasting the "dark side" :p ), the forum would become deluged with hello messages and it would be hard to pick out the non-hello threads after a while. There must be some kind of balance somewhere... :?
 
dutch baka said:
we understand what you mean ... hahahahaha

Now that I know that this is acceptable posting behavior, I have to work hard to clear up a huge backlog of new members I haven't warmly welcomed with a ctrl+v greeting yet.
 
Mikecash, you really crack me up! :LOL: Just "catching up" I see!
🎈 🙂
 
mmm i think there should be a rule.. that every member, should say hello to another member...... isnt great to became a member of jref, and get like 100 people saying Welcome...

just kiding
 
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