What is love?

StarlitDreemz said:
this is tough.. especially in my situation.. i've been w/ the same person since i was 16 i'm 19 now and we have a child together.. i love him but i dont think i'm "IN LOVE" with him (if that makes any sense???) i feel like i'm just used to the feeling of him being around, i've found that we have NOTHING in common.. and i can kinda tell that he feels the same way. i dont really even know why were wasting each others time maybe for the sake of our child.. but i've heard from alot of ppl that 2 ppl shouldnt say together for a child, they can still raise & love him/her being apart. and now i find myself questioning if i was ever really "In Love" or were my feelings just me (Wanting) to find love, what is love really??
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I don't really buy the difference between loving someone and being in love with them. If you love him and have a child together, I think that is enough reason to try to make it work. It might not be 'exciting', but I don't think excitement often lasts anyway - after a couple of years you have to work to keep the excitement there. If you are always arguing or you feel like you don't want him around, that's good reason to think about splitting up. But I don't think being bored is reason enough - you have to make the effort to make it interesting. And you do have something in common - your child. That sounds like a pretty good starting point for you to find other things to share together. Try to see the positive side of how you're used to him being around - it's comfortable, neither of you has to pretend or try to impress the other. I'd prefer that over trying to get to know someone new any day.
 
Love is waiting for someone by the phone and email, all night the day before they are suppoused to get on a plane to cross the world to meet them, even though they have a fear of planes, after a huge break-up fight, on the chance they will give me one conrete sign they will be waiting for me at the other end.
Also sending tons of emails willing the little woman to get off her *** and respond.
 
Love is disowning your own father for ignoring your desperate emails for him to give the go-ahead to stay longer in japan, because the thought of leaving it and your girlfriend behind to return to the crappy depressing non-existance of your poxy little home-town in the blasted chill-wastes of scotland feels you with so much sorrow and misery, you even entertain for a split second the thought of running away into the mountains for a while where immigration authorities cant find you.


Yes, love makes idiots out of the most mature of us....

Suffice to say i have no father....
 
"love is when one feels that anothers soul is entwined and that the other feels the same way so you promise eachother to give all and eternally be close and intimate for one will give anything for the other"

.."The once great poet in me's pretty much dead....no..I just can't remember how I usually describe it >_>"

'We said it before and I will always say it..the hearts just pumps blood trough your body,for the rest it doesn't do spoon"
 
Love is so happy your dad managed to sor you out so you could stay for longer in japan with your girlfriend that if he was here you would kiss him, you danced and you offered him like, a kidney, half a liver, and a lung if he needs it because he is so fugaluging awsome, and your pretty sure that because this bloke who has brought you up has done such a great thing for you, you quite happy and ready to take a bullet or knife or something for him, at the least, he deserves a nice meal at a posh resturaunt.
 
well, love is like you have to sacrifise..your time, energy to be with your love ones. some of them willing to do this and some wont. it all depends on how much you love that person..
 
Love is cancer;at first you wanna enjoy life for the moment and all, then as time passes you begin to face reality; until finally it wittles you away.
 
What is love but another complex emotion of the human mind?
I say love is actually more simple than most people make it to be...
Love is simply liking something so much,it is impossible to let go of....
something you feel you won`t live with out....something you would die
for....that is love....that is the meaning of life,love.....
 
I love lamp?

What is Love you say? well love is an emotion that goes beyond caring. There!

But only you can define it to your own world.

I gotta go eat.....I love Pizza!
 
Haru-san`sTeiraa said:
What is love but another complex emotion of the human mind?
I say love is actually more simple than most people make it to be...
Love is simply liking something so much,it is impossible to let go of....
something you feel you won`t live with out....something you would die
for....that is love....that is the meaning of life,love.....
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I tend to believe it's just a chemical process.But as^most humans think they are superior to animals they give it a different name and a different description.But it's nothing more than an Instinkt to keep reproducing ,so the human race doesn't become exstinct.
 
moffeltoff said:
I tend to believe it's just a chemical process.But as^most humans think they are superior to animals they give it a different name and a different description.But it's nothing more than an Instinkt to keep reproducing ,so the human race doesn't become exstinct.
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Yes, the instinct to mate is odd in that it can make someone so gutted at being apart it makes them cry, depressed, not hungry or tired or anything.

Not disagreeing with you, but love is definately more then the urge to have sex, if that was the case i would be going willy nilly with every chick in my city.
 
"Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.
Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.
Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.
Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved."--"Love" by John Lennon

I think love is much more then just a word or the instinct to mate. If all it is, is the need to reproduce then how do you explain gay animals? Love is an emotion felt by all creatures and although it can tie into having children that is not, to me, what it is at its core. I believe all beings can feel the emotion of love, of attachment to another being.
I think it is hard to pin an exact definition on love because it's one of the most complex emotions. But I think the best way to put it is the lyrics I posted above.
 
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nurizeko said:
Yes, the instinct to mate is odd in that it can make someone so gutted at being apart it makes them cry, depressed, not hungry or tired or anything.
Not disagreeing with you, but love is definately more then the urge to have sex, if that was the case i would be going willy nilly with every chick in my city.
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No humans and a few other animals are more ore less monogam animals ,until their offspring reaches an age ,from which on it can take care of itsself ,and this is the reason why most humans live in a partnership.
Well except from the fact that quite a lot of people are afraid of beeing alone.It is no grater force or whatever you want to call it ,but thats just my opinion.:p
 
Hyde_is_my_anti-drug said:
"Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.
Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.
Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.
Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved."--"Love" by John Lennon
I think love is much more then just a word or the instinct to mate. If all it is, is the need to reproduce then how do you explain gay animals? Love is an emotion felt by all creatures and although it can tie into having children that is not, to me, what it is at its core. I believe all beings can feel the emotion of love, of attachment to another being.
I think it is hard to pin an exact definition on love because it's one of the most complex emotions. But I think the best way to put it is the lyrics I posted above.
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Gay animals =gendefect?😌
 
Wow, you're unromantic. ☝

I still believe that all beings feel love and that love and the instinct to mate are not the same thing exactly.
 
Hyde_is_my_anti-drug said:
Wow, you're unromantic. ☝
I still believe that all beings feel love and that love and the instinct to mate are not the same thing exactly.
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Well beeing romantic is just trying to impress the person you feel attracted to.
I dont want to force you to believe in what I think it's just my opinion not the ultimate truth.
 
Awww *pet*pet* Yeah, getting one's heart busted is no fun. And that's another reason I think love is different from just mating; if it was just for the purpose of sex how come we can get our hearts ripped out so easily turning them into pulping masses of emotional devastation? If real emotion has nothing to do with it then how do you explain the pain?
 
Thats fair enough moff, but i guess it takes really having someone special to appriciate that love, at least for humans, is a bit more then basic instincts.

Its not scared of being alone that makes me fear a breakup, its being without HER that fills me with absolute horror, i dont miss the sex, if im that horney i could resort to self-service, its being with HER i miss.


I dont disagree alot of peoples relationships are guided by their instincts to mate, not wanting to be alone, but, how does one explain the old couple who couldnt emagine spending more then one night apart, or the stupid guys with funny alias like "nurizeko" spend so much time and money and effort, and getting on 12 hour flights, when he thinks planes are effectively asking to be smoten by an angry god, just to spend even a pathetic 2 weeks with her, and this type of relationship has lasted for over 3 years?, when if it was anyone else he woulda said "hey, this sh** just isnt cool, im bailing, seeya around", or the people who generally seem to act in ways that indicate its more then basic courting instincts driving their relationship decisions?

I dunno, maybe it is in the end just uninspired human instinct, but...when you love someone like i do or how any given person loves the woman they will be with the rest of their life, and it just works, its hard to emagine all this feeling is over a few hormones.
 

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