Sorry to inform this, but both her given name "Aiko" and family name "Kobayashi" are quite common ones (it's said that Kobayashi is the 9th most common name with over one million people in Japan, and over 90 thousand in Saitama prefecture), so even if you knew her kanji name, it would be quite hard to reach her. Plus, it's highly possible that her name was changed after she married...