Ladies: What works for you?

[Tuffy]

That brief tale...

Hey, good luck to ya! I'll be checkin' for the results.

I actually do enjoy sometimes taking the time to get the feel from a person i'm interested in...

Geez. Kinda makes me wanna go out with you.

 

[Duo]

hehe, I knew that would work one someone eventually

 

[jieshi]

I agree with Duo. I would rahter get to know a girl first, rather than going straight in for the kill with a kiss lol. I do think that men are portrayed as being ravenous dogs, and to be honest I am not like that at all and girls get very suprised by this. I would rather kiss someone that I intend on dating/ am dating then someone I have just met in a bar or at a party

 

[Duo]

yeah jieshi, alrite back me up. It's time us nice guys came back with a bang. Too long has our image been bastardized by tv and by a few minority out there out to ruin it for the all of us. Ladies, next time you meet a guy that looks nice and polite, don't shy away, don't assume the worst, but be a little daring, give him a little confidence, take a chance, don't think too much about it, just get into the situation, give it a try, that's what life is all about

 

[jieshi]

Damn straight Duo!!!!! we got this thing going! lol down with tv images of men (though ladies be aware many times will you find this stereo type to be true. Use your judgement)

 

[TwistedMac]

yeah. it's no good to go instantly for the kiss.
It might ruin your chances of getting some later in the evening! snoogans!

(okok, I admit it, this macho "let's go smoke a bowl" attitude is just a front. I really hyperventilate and faint when pretty girls talk to me.)

 

[Duo]

hey, don't be hard on yourself, that's just your way of lettin them know you like them
they mite think it's cute

 

[Brooker]

I would rahter get to know a girl first, rather than going straight in for the kill with a kiss lol. I do think that men are portrayed as being ravenous dogs, and to be honest I am not like that at all and girls get very suprised by this. I would rather kiss someone that I intend on dating/ am dating then someone I have just met in a bar or at a party

I agree. Unfortunately, the reason there are so many jerks in the world is because being a jerk is rewarded. Girls respond to it because it seems exciting, entertaining, confident... How many nice guys have eventually gotten tired of finishing last and decided to do something about it? I'll admit, I've had my moments, but it always felt fake. Even if they like you for being a "bad boy" eventually you'll get tired of being a bad boy OR she'll figure out that you aren't. But I've decided that I want to be with someone who appreciates my "softer side" because I like that side of me and think it needs a little more attention.

P.S. I called and got an answering machine (of course). Left a message saying it was nice to meet her, just calling to say hi, will try again.

 

[Apollo]

I agree. Unfortunately, the reason there are so many jerks in the world is because being a jerk is rewarded. Girls respond to it because it seems exciting, entertaining, confident... How many nice guys have eventually gotten tired of finishing last and decided to do something about it? I'll admit, I've had my moments, but it always felt fake. Even if they like you for being a "bad boy" eventually you'll get tired of being a bad boy OR she'll figure out that you aren't. But I've decided that I want to be with someone who appreciates my "softer side" because I like that side of me and think it needs a little more attention.

P.S. I called and got an answering machine (of course). Left a message saying it was nice to meet her, just calling to say hi, will try again.

I never liked the "bad boys", it depends on the girl I think. If a "nice" boy pretends to be a bad boy, it is not honest, and both are fooled. Better be yourself!

Good luck with the date Brooker, when you get hold of her on the phone!

 

[kirei_na_me]

I never really liked 'bad boys' either, by the way. I appreciate a 'softer' side.

Did you leave a number where this girl could reach you if she wanted to return your call, or is that a no-no? I think by doing that, you would leave the ball in her court, and if she didn't call back, that would mean she isn't interested.

 

[Bob in Iowa]

I've had my moments, but it always felt fake. Even if they like you for being a "bad boy" eventually you'll get tired of being a bad boy OR she'll figure out that you aren't. But I've decided that I want to be with someone who appreciates my "softer side" because I like that side of me and think it needs a little more attention.

Dating is something in the distant past for me, but in any interaction between people, I think that it is best to be honest and be yourself. That way, there is no need to 'play it' one way or another, because no one is pretending. Also, if a friendship or relationship develops, and it is based on honesty and trust, then it has a strong foundation.

Best of luck Brooker,

--Bob

 

[EscaFlowne]

Hey guys i'm back from vacation!!

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, Well honestly i don't believe that she was that tipsy or whateva because you guys had a conversation and you could understand so she came over to you for a reason. Now on the phone call thing....don't go by that "swingers" mess...just give her a call, tell your the guy from the night and wanted to hear from her. leave your name and number. She should call back but don't hound the girl remember you guys just met.

awwwwwwww, but i gotta go. i should come back and finish..

 

[Brooker]

I never really liked 'bad boys' either

Maybe a lot of girls don't, but the "bad boys" still are the ones getting "rewarded" the most by getting the most attention from da ladies. On the other hand, it's the bad girls who get the most attention from the guys, but I don't really care about that because I don't go for those kinds of girls anyways.

Did you leave a number where this girl could reach you if she wanted to return your call, or is that a no-no? I think by doing that, you would leave the ball in her court, and if she didn't call back, that would mean she isn't interested.[/

I didn't leave my number. I'll try her again in a day or two, leave my number, and if I never hear from her again, that's that.

 

[StarCrap]

I didn't leave my number. I'll try her again in a day or two, leave my number, and if I never hear from her again, that's that.

You didn't leave your number?? Your suppose to leave your number. >_<

 

[EscaFlowne]

WEll, since you have made up your mind and all...told you to leave a number though. HEy if it really comes down to it, lady luck will flash some cards and you will the club again and she will be there

 

[StarCrap]

(okok, I admit it, this macho "let's go smoke a bowl" attitude is just a front. I really hyperventilate and faint when pretty girls talk to me.)

Haha, thats funny. Oh wait....thats a bad thing right?

 

[misa.j]

Hey Brooker,

From the tales you have given us, she definitely seems interested in you. She had kept making an eye contact before you approached her and told you that you had beautiful eyes.

When you call her next time, how about invinting her to your band practice, offer her drinks so she can relax, and you can chit chat w/ her afterwords.

And yes, you should leave your number if you get the answearing machine.

Good luck!!

 

[jieshi]

brooker man, as much pain as it causes (you know "oh is she interested?") you are a very lucky man to have a girl who is as good looking as you say she is show interest lol. I think she is definitely interested! though if you do do the band pratice thing be careful because you could feel like you need to give her all your attention and not your band.

Not that giving her attention is bad but you are there to practice with your band at that stage (and sound really good lol)

ganbate!

 

[Brooker]

Most of you were telling me not to leave my number at first, but to try her a few times and then leave my number if I couldn't get ahold of her. So, the second time I called I got her machine again and left my number. That was yesterday. I'm not really expecting a call, but it doesn't matter too much. You can't really get your hopes up too much after just getting a number. I'm not too worried about this particular situation. I just want to get my "technique" down so I don't "scare off a beautiful baby who's ready to party" (quote from the movie Swingers) in the future.

 

[StarCrap]

I want to say, just forget about the women...since it's been a week now. But do whatever.

 

[Brooker]

So she called today and left a message FOUR DAYS after I left her a message. What's up with that? She said she's been really busy, but still... I'd pretty much forgotten about her after that long. Haven't decided if I'll bother to try her again.

 

[Duo]

They are always busy
They say they wanna go out but are still busy.......
I've seen this quite a few times, even now actually, what's up with that :?
Are they still thinking about it and saying they're busy as a cover to still give them time to decide ?

 

[Brooker]

Hell, I'm busy too, but if I'm interested in someone I'll somehow find a way to get a hold of them. That seems like a really lame excuse to me. And even if it's true, it sure doesn't make the person you're telling it to feel very important.

 

[Duo]

Hell, I'm busy too, but if I'm interested in someone I'll somehow find a way to get a hold of them. That seems like a really lame excuse to me. And even if it's true, it sure doesn't make the person you're telling it to feel very important.

My sentiments exactly. What's up with that ? I hate no way out situations like this.

 

[ragedaddy]

Hell, I'm busy too, but if I'm interested in someone I'll somehow find a way to get a hold of them. That seems like a really lame excuse to me. And even if it's true, it sure doesn't make the person you're telling it to feel very important.

That's right brotha, there are 24 hours in a day, and if someone had an interest in a person you think that would have priority over something like reorganizing your cds for the third time. Forget about it, girls come, girls go, plus if you're in a band, man those are the dudes that get all the chicks. Don't become depressed, or get down on yourself, just keep saying to yourself, "Mikey you're so f*ckin' money, you don't even know." Except you might want to put your name in for Mikey.....