Kinsao
Horizon Rider
- 8 May 2005
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An interesting topic, thanks for bumping it back up, Frank! :joyful:
My view of the internet and relationships (that is any kind of relationships, whether it is friendship, romance, love and even enemyship! XD), is that the internet can be used to progress a relationship in a very similar way to how it happens in real life.
But it depends on the way you use it. I mean, some people can get kind of weird, and become extremely attached to someone they know only from the internet, in a short time, and never having met them for real.
In my view, it's important always to keep a sense of proportion and see the internet for what it is - a communication tool.
Via the internet, you can write with people who have similar interests to you, and in that way you can get to know people, and make some friends online - and of course, there is always the chance that one of your friends might become more than 'just a friend' but a love interest as well. ^^ In my view it's quite natural to 'meet' people in that way, even though you don't actually 'meet' in real.
But it's important, I think, to bear in mind if you haven't met someone in real, that they could be deceiving you about many things. I know it feels like you can get a good idea of someone's personality over the net, and honestly I think that's mostly the case (because to build up a whole 'false personality' is actually very difficult and takes lots of energy and consideration!), but it could be a sham and you can't know for real until you meet the person.
I think there's nothing at all wrong with using the internet to get to know people and make friends and communicate, but in the case of 'love' or some kind of romantic relationship, I say, don't think of a relationship at all like that until you have met the person in real (of course, once you met them, if you have a long-distance relationship the internet is good for keeping in touch ^^). It's not just a 'safety' thing that I say that, but rather, it's a 'normal' relationship to meet someone. It's honestly not healthy to get hung-up on a person you've never met in real. ☝ But like I say, to use the net to arrange to meet, that can be a useful thing!
My view of the internet and relationships (that is any kind of relationships, whether it is friendship, romance, love and even enemyship! XD), is that the internet can be used to progress a relationship in a very similar way to how it happens in real life.
But it depends on the way you use it. I mean, some people can get kind of weird, and become extremely attached to someone they know only from the internet, in a short time, and never having met them for real.
In my view, it's important always to keep a sense of proportion and see the internet for what it is - a communication tool.
Via the internet, you can write with people who have similar interests to you, and in that way you can get to know people, and make some friends online - and of course, there is always the chance that one of your friends might become more than 'just a friend' but a love interest as well. ^^ In my view it's quite natural to 'meet' people in that way, even though you don't actually 'meet' in real.
But it's important, I think, to bear in mind if you haven't met someone in real, that they could be deceiving you about many things. I know it feels like you can get a good idea of someone's personality over the net, and honestly I think that's mostly the case (because to build up a whole 'false personality' is actually very difficult and takes lots of energy and consideration!), but it could be a sham and you can't know for real until you meet the person.
I think there's nothing at all wrong with using the internet to get to know people and make friends and communicate, but in the case of 'love' or some kind of romantic relationship, I say, don't think of a relationship at all like that until you have met the person in real (of course, once you met them, if you have a long-distance relationship the internet is good for keeping in touch ^^). It's not just a 'safety' thing that I say that, but rather, it's a 'normal' relationship to meet someone. It's honestly not healthy to get hung-up on a person you've never met in real. ☝ But like I say, to use the net to arrange to meet, that can be a useful thing!