a question, if you will.

[MajideSaiaku]

Your girlfriend hasnt emailed, MSN'ed, or in any way contacted you for 4 days over a weekend.....hypothetical situation.


Am i to assume a silent take on the dear john letter?.


-Nuri worried about his girlfriends lack of correspondance

 

[Rich303]

Hard to say. Could be technological reasons - has it happened before?

by the time my lady friend gets her new net line up and running, nearly a month would have passed without us chatting on MSN, partly because I went to Wales (although we are emailing).

When this happened before (last time she moved, and her kid was sick) I really thought it was all over, but it wasn't at all. This time I'm not going to let it bother me. She can get on with things and what ever 'business' she has is up to her.
It has been hard for me to accept the casual nature of the relationship, but I have. I was alone for quite a few years before her, so to suddenly meet your dream lady can play havoc with your feelings. I was very emotional about her in the beginning.

I feel like she stopped seriously fancying me a while back, so I find it confusing that she wants to keep the relationship going. At least now I know not to take it too seriously anymore.

 

[Tsuyoiko]

Four days doesn't sound like a very long time ...

(says the lady who panics if she doesn't hear from her husband in four hours )

 

[kirei_na_me]

Yeah, four days isn't long. I wouldn't worry too much yet.

Can you phone her? You know, with the excuse of just seeing if she's ok?

 

[MajideSaiaku]

4 days is a long time for us.

 

[ArmandV]

It was a holiday last week, so I wouldn't put too much stock into it. She was probably busy with family and other things.

 

[nice gaijin]

Armand makes a good point; it could be just that simple. It's best not to come to any conclusions until after you actually hear from her; cause right now you're just torturing yourself!

 

[MajideSaiaku]

I talked to her today but she does this annoying thing, its like apathy but worse because it still makes YOU care.....its so utterly annoying i watch to scream and break something....i hate that crap women do, that special type of not caring, apathy, that somehow seems to totaly just piss you off and annoy the hell out of you by somehow making you care.

Ugh, its like a stone-wall im telling you......wheres that girl i met so long ago that seemed so nice to me and showed her affection rather then bottle it away behind a wall of aggrivating apathy.

Whats worse is its making me feel like a bad person for getting annoying and stuff, i feel like im going to explode if i dont get the kind of affection and love your suppoused to get in a relationship, even its just a positive attitude for a change....

LMAO im starting to sound like Wally. :S

 

[kirei_na_me]

LMAO im starting to sound like Wally. :S

Nah, not quite.

We'll promise to knock you over the head if you begin to do that...

 

[ArmandV]

LMAO im starting to sound like Wally. :S

Welcome to Wally World!

I made the mistake last year with a J-ladyfriend about raising hell about her not calling or emailing me. She had a simple and logical explanation and made me feel like Homer Simpson (D'oh!).

All was well and we had a good time in Tokyo together last month.

The secret is: Don't jump to conclusions! (I learned it the hard way!)

 

[yukio_michael]

I wouldn't stress about it until you know what's going on with her. She may just not be communicative. Are you two having troubles that would lead you to believe she's singing enka down at karaoke w/ that yanki guy who delivers the Asahi Shimbun? Make it a point for you to ask her how she's doing, in a casual way, I suppose... send her messeges now and again on her keitai.

...then if all else fails, stalk her repeatedly until she repents. Remember, persistance is the key!

 

[MajideSaiaku]

I know deep down she's too addicted to my body and kawaii to ever go astray, but the mind plays tricks.

Seriously, i have to fight ladies off im just soooooooo awsomely hot.

☝

 

[godppgo]

4 days sounds long to me. Of the four years(2yr long-D) me and my gh have been together, there's only one time we did not have any contact for more than 24hrs. It was when she was deep in some mountains in northern Alberta, Canada and there was no cell phone service and no internet access.

Nuri, I think you have all the right to explode. I mean how much effort and time does it take to make a simple 3 minutes phone call? Or if circumstances do not permit, at least drop off a msn msg or email.

 

[RockLee]

I found out that's a common trade some Japanese girls have, they just don't call you or let anything know when they're busy. 4 days is nothing, I don't even bother evenmore Us westerners are ofcourse mighty pissed off because of it. But that's different culture for ya! You either accept it, of you don't.

ps: why do you talk about yourself in 3rd person?

 

[MajideSaiaku]

I found out that's a common trade some Japanese girls have, they just don't call you or let anything know when they're busy. 4 days is nothing, I don't even bother evenmore Us westerners are ofcourse mighty pissed off because of it. But that's different culture for ya! You either accept it, of you don't.
ps: why do you talk about yourself in 3rd person?

I have the emotional and mental depth of a great literature master, an author of the human soul if you will, 3rd person narritive is simply one way my philosophical depth shows itself.