Kindly advise - wife and son in Japan!

[CLCK]

Dear all,...

I have a story here, a true story,... and I am hoping for some advice from the good people here.

I have a wife and a son in Japan,... son is 13 year-old, we were married since 1996, but due to some unfortunate events, we are living apart now. I have built my life all these years in Kuala Lumpur and Singapore, whilst my wife and son have been living in Yokohama, Japan.

My wife will give me a tongue-lashing, every now and then, and refuses to speak with me. My son, however, talks to me quite consistently. I have sent them money all these years, and kept in touch with them.

How should I go from here please ? I will be happy to provide more information of my situation,.... kindly advise me please,.....

 

[Red5]

the best way is to combine your family and to live together . otherwise, you've to look for new life with new relationship

 

[Larry Battle]

If 70 percent is good, then try to stay. But if there are too many problems then just start a new relationship.
Life is too short to not have fun.

 

[CLCK]

the best way is to combine your family and to live together . otherwise, you've to look for new life with new relationship

..iceman,... thank you,.. but I have a son there, whatever it is, she has borne me a son, the very least I could do is to try to take care of her, right ? IN the course of doing that, of course, I need to win her back first.

And of course, not to mention my son too. Every man loves his children,.....

If 70 percent is good, then try to stay. But if there are too many problems then just start a new relationship.
Life is too short to not have fun.

Yes, agreed, but we are not talking about fun here anymore, it's family, and I have a son there. If my (ex) wife does not want me anymore, I understand,... but my son,... how do i go about it ?:?

 

[Red5]

..iceman,... thank you,.. but I have a son there, whatever it is, she has borne me a son, the very least I could do is to try to take care of her, right ? IN the course of doing that, of course, I need to win her back first.

And of course, not to mention my son too. Every man loves his children,.....

I think you've to live with your wife and your son , either in your country or Japan ..

 

[CLCK]

I think you've to live with your wife and your son , either in your country or Japan ..

Thank you, iceman,... I wanted to propose this to her, and to invite her to come stay with me in SG, and if she refused, we can talk about me going to Japan. I am willing to do that.

But the problem now is : she is not talking to me, and refused to talk with me. But she is not stopping me from talking to my son. I have asked if she has remarried, to which if she replies with a yes, I will settle my heart and look forward to plans with my son ONLY. However, she has not replied to me if she has remarried. So, I am sort of dangling now - and do not know if I should win her back, or well,... just drop her but only focus on my son. How do I go from here, Sir ?........ :?

 

[Red5]

Thank you, iceman,... I wanted to propose this to her, and to invite her to come stay with me in SG, and if she refused, we can talk about me going to Japan. I am willing to do that.

But the problem now is : she is not talking to me, and refused to talk with me. But she is not stopping me from talking to my son. I have asked if she has remarried, to which if she replies with a yes, I will settle my heart and look forward to plans with my son ONLY. However, she has not replied to me if she has remarried. So, I am sort of dangling now - and do not know if I should win her back, or well,... just drop her but only focus on my son. How do I go from here, Sir ?........ :?

first of all, if you like , I can contact her and ask her about you because it's important to talk to her and to know what if she remarried or not . if she not I see to go to Japan and you can make surprise to give a gift without knowing that you're coming.
I hope that I helped you

 

[CLCK]

first of all, if you like , I can contact her and ask her about you because it's important to talk to her and to know what if she remarried or not . if she not I see to go to Japan and you can make surprise to give a gift without knowing that you're coming.
I hope that I helped you

..iceman,... thank you for your offer to help,.. do you think a surprise visit with a gift will be good ? maybe I will arrange something more extravagant like putting together some people to go with me, just like in a wedding ? Do you think this will work ? :?

 

[Red5]

..iceman,... thank you for your offer to help,.. do you think a surprise visit with a gift will be good ? maybe I will arrange something more extravagant like putting together some people to go with me, just like in a wedding ? Do you think this will work ? :?

I think your idea will work . since she is your wife and you know how to deal with her more than my words . take with your flowers , you know , traditional way
it's kind of you if you tell me and will happen to you ...