Haruspex
先輩
- 30 Aug 2007
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why can't I...?
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Doc
Government Man
- 13 Feb 2005
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Heh, I'm an adult and I still have not fallen in love. Hell, I never even had sex yet, dated, kissed, etc. Yet, it doesn't bother me. Do you know why? It is because I am more concerned about living life. Maybe love will find me, maybe it won't. Either way, I'm going to live life to the fullest, and that's what matters the most. In other words, don't dwell on such trivial things.
-Doc
-Doc
Have you ever felt in love? How does it feel?
Well x) my problem is that I'm 17 and that I've never felt in love! I think it's weird because almost all of my friends have at least kissed someone.
The thing is that I'm waiting for someone special but I just can't find him!
maybe it's because I'm to strict? I don't know but if I continue like this I'll waste all my youth! This is really bothering me.
Thank you.
Lol ... don't worry about that
Go on with your life and never ever stop searching for that special person.
I found the hard way that what 99% of the people around me were doing is WRONG and leads to pain dissapointment and so on because it's just not real.
Anyway my advise is NOT to rush things.Dont rush Anything at all.
Everything has it's time and place to happen and when it does it's eternaly more then anything you rushed for.
Wasting your youth would be to become the avarage person who keeps with the flock of sheep and ends where every one of them will end sooner or later.
Stay unique and wait for what you sayd you are wating for.Stand your ground !
That's the right way to go !
musicsalsa
後輩
- 20 Dec 2007
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Ah ah ah........Rush rush rush.........it will all come and it is the waiting and the dream that is the best of all in the end.Have you ever felt in love? How does it feel?
Well x) my problem is that I'm 17 and that I've never felt in love! I think it's weird because almost all of my friends have at least kissed someone.
The thing is that I'm waiting for someone special but I just can't find him!
maybe it's because I'm to strict? I don't know but if I continue like this I'll waste all my youth! This is really bothering me.
Thank you.
karlyboo
後輩
- 14 Nov 2007
- 147
- 13
Have you ever felt in love? How does it feel?
Well x) my problem is that I'm 17 and that I've never felt in love! I think it's weird because almost all of my friends have at least kissed someone.
The thing is that I'm waiting for someone special but I just can't find him!
maybe it's because I'm to strict? I don't know but if I continue like this I'll waste all my youth! This is really bothering me.
Thank you.
I wouldn't worry about it
Love is something very very rare (as oppose to just sexual encounters or temporary relationships). You'll find it sooner or later 
Kenryoku
後輩
- 24 Dec 2007
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mika_r you've got nothing to worry about. I'm twenty and I still haven't found it either. I used to worry about it seemed like kids 5 years younger than me were already dating along with everybody else. I figured there was something wrong with me. so for awhile i started looking for love in every single girl i met and let me tell you it was disastrous. but i soon got over it. the hard part for me was reading those really heart wrenching mangas like Mars or Marmalade Boy or Peach Girl that they overcome all those obstacles and makes you want to run out and find somebody right away. but now I figure, when my little bro teases me about not having a gf when he does, I just say, hey man I'm enjoyin life right now, thats whats important. and it is.
p.s. watch out for Saikano! its really a heart-wrencher! makes me want to cry half the time!
p.s. watch out for Saikano! its really a heart-wrencher! makes me want to cry half the time!
Kenryoku
後輩
- 24 Dec 2007
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are you refering to me? and if so is that such a bad thing to be a shy person?
Haruspex
先輩
- 30 Aug 2007
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By any chance trying to make some reputation with this?
In fifth class my classmate took my football during a lesson. I kicked him in the chest so hard that he couldn't breathe (solar plexus man, solar plexus).
At that time I was roughly 11, so who's the man lol?
Once I fall in love (in the real meaning of the word ) . It was really an amazing time in my life . We were going nicely .In the end I come to know that she was a crazy girl and she left me just to marry a rich person. I can not forget the days when i was in love with her.
Annubis
Tokyo and Beyond
- 30 Nov 2007
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To love or not to love... that is the question
I have a very active love life... I always have. My first love was in Kindergarten. His name was Jed. He would make the most wonderful block forts during play time. I actually really liked him so much that I pretended he was my husband... and that I was going to have a baby soon. I would boast about how big my belly was to my class mates... I was only 5 years old... hahaha. Then in grade 2, I really liked a chinese boy named Justin. In grade 5 I liked this black kid named Max... But it really wasn't until high school that the feelings I had for guys began to get deeper, and at the age of 19 I almost got married. It didn't work out. Then at the age of 21, I fell in love with a man I love to this day. But he has another girlfriend. The thing is that I also learned it is possible to love many people. Just this past year, I fell in love with a Japanese man. But he is now ignoring me and I don't know why. At the same time as I love this Japanese man, I still love that other man. Perhaps that is why he is ignoring me... But now I have a dilema... because I have reached an age I think, when love never dies. Now when I love someone, I never stop loving them. I came to Japan to see a woman I love dearly. I hadn't seen her for 5 years. I still love her. I feel like I have reached another stage in love, where it is not about finding a mate, but about caring and appreciating the life around me. It isn't hard any more to love anyone or anything. My friends think I'm crazy because I say I love everything. Even the devil. Perhaps that's what it is like in heaven. Not a trace of hate. But I admit... I am hurt easily nowadays, because people don't understand me, and so they criticise me and move away from me. I think it is time for me to stop trying to give love to everyone I meet, and let it come to me. It is a time of repose.
But the one person I'd like to talk about is my best friend who I have loved since I was 21. I am now 28, and he is in his 30s (still a secret from society..chuckle..) for anyone wondering. He doesn't have any desire to ever begin a family and he has difficulty feeling anything. His feelings are limited. He claims that he doesn't know what love is, though he had once told me he loves me in his own way, which probably means that if he could love me he would. Is it possible for someone not to have any emotions? I used to imagine a race of huminoids who resembled reptiles, and they had an agenda on this earth to rule over humanity... these reptiles don't have feelings... could he be a reptoid?
Now, the real question to ask is "What is love"?
To me, love is amazing. It is open and free. It is not selfish. It is blind and all seeing at once. It is the ever expanding expression of warmth and kindness from deep inside the gut.
"Love in action is a full time job," says my mom... hehe
I think love is evolutionary and grows in stages of experience.
Is it possible to never feel this?
I have a very active love life... I always have. My first love was in Kindergarten. His name was Jed. He would make the most wonderful block forts during play time. I actually really liked him so much that I pretended he was my husband... and that I was going to have a baby soon. I would boast about how big my belly was to my class mates... I was only 5 years old... hahaha. Then in grade 2, I really liked a chinese boy named Justin. In grade 5 I liked this black kid named Max... But it really wasn't until high school that the feelings I had for guys began to get deeper, and at the age of 19 I almost got married. It didn't work out. Then at the age of 21, I fell in love with a man I love to this day. But he has another girlfriend. The thing is that I also learned it is possible to love many people. Just this past year, I fell in love with a Japanese man. But he is now ignoring me and I don't know why. At the same time as I love this Japanese man, I still love that other man. Perhaps that is why he is ignoring me... But now I have a dilema... because I have reached an age I think, when love never dies. Now when I love someone, I never stop loving them. I came to Japan to see a woman I love dearly. I hadn't seen her for 5 years. I still love her. I feel like I have reached another stage in love, where it is not about finding a mate, but about caring and appreciating the life around me. It isn't hard any more to love anyone or anything. My friends think I'm crazy because I say I love everything. Even the devil. Perhaps that's what it is like in heaven. Not a trace of hate. But I admit... I am hurt easily nowadays, because people don't understand me, and so they criticise me and move away from me. I think it is time for me to stop trying to give love to everyone I meet, and let it come to me. It is a time of repose.
But the one person I'd like to talk about is my best friend who I have loved since I was 21. I am now 28, and he is in his 30s (still a secret from society..chuckle..) for anyone wondering. He doesn't have any desire to ever begin a family and he has difficulty feeling anything. His feelings are limited. He claims that he doesn't know what love is, though he had once told me he loves me in his own way, which probably means that if he could love me he would. Is it possible for someone not to have any emotions? I used to imagine a race of huminoids who resembled reptiles, and they had an agenda on this earth to rule over humanity... these reptiles don't have feelings... could he be a reptoid?
Now, the real question to ask is "What is love"?
To me, love is amazing. It is open and free. It is not selfish. It is blind and all seeing at once. It is the ever expanding expression of warmth and kindness from deep inside the gut.
"Love in action is a full time job," says my mom... hehe
I think love is evolutionary and grows in stages of experience.
Is it possible to never feel this?
Dimitree said:
Exactly. Just wait; let things happen. If you simply try to make things happen when the time isn't right, it seems it probably has less of a chance of ending as well as it began. I think, though, that if you follow your other interests and such, follow your heart, I guess, you will end up where you're happiest, and will find love (in many ways, not only romantically) along the way.
Annubis said:
This is the case for me, haha. >.<
Petenshber
先輩
- 11 Jul 2005
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Hi Mika,
You sound similar to me,
only it doesn't bother me quite as much as it seems to bother you.
I'm 28 and i've never been interested in anyone, i often wonder if i should be with some one by now.
I actually think it's good to worry about it, just don't get too depressed.
My brother jumped into a relationship when he was 28 (a few years ago)
out of fear of missing out, it doesn't seem to be working.
Some people really aren't suited for a relationship and are happier alone but only
you can tell how that works for you, be careful about it.
I agree that you should enjoy life, but make the prospect of a "future" relationship
part of your joy, watch for a guy that makes you feel good and just make excuses
to spend time with him, ask him about himself, do things for him (some times),
and pay attention to his behavior, it may be something in his behavior that triggers
the "in love feeling". When you don't click with someone it isn't a failure, just experience.
If you're worried about having children at a decent parenting age then i think you
still have good time, (in my opinion) people shouldn't have a new child passed
the age of 30 (for various reasons), even with that thought you still have over 10
years to start a family at a good age, i think you're looking at it too much as an obligation and not enough as a privilege. I wish you luck in this.
You sound similar to me,
only it doesn't bother me quite as much as it seems to bother you.
I'm 28 and i've never been interested in anyone, i often wonder if i should be with some one by now.
I actually think it's good to worry about it, just don't get too depressed.
My brother jumped into a relationship when he was 28 (a few years ago)
out of fear of missing out, it doesn't seem to be working.
Some people really aren't suited for a relationship and are happier alone but only
you can tell how that works for you, be careful about it.
I agree that you should enjoy life, but make the prospect of a "future" relationship
part of your joy, watch for a guy that makes you feel good and just make excuses
to spend time with him, ask him about himself, do things for him (some times),
and pay attention to his behavior, it may be something in his behavior that triggers
the "in love feeling". When you don't click with someone it isn't a failure, just experience.
If you're worried about having children at a decent parenting age then i think you
still have good time, (in my opinion) people shouldn't have a new child passed
the age of 30 (for various reasons), even with that thought you still have over 10
years to start a family at a good age, i think you're looking at it too much as an obligation and not enough as a privilege. I wish you luck in this.
Kirirao
Lost in the maze of life
- 18 Sep 2004
- 276
- 15
same here
I'm guessing I'm also one of those people tho. But it would be nice to fall in love and to be loved at, at least once before I die~
But being loved at only exist in a dream for me, where it all disappear when I wake up.
Would be nice to have someone who would have me on their mind all the time the same way I would have them in my mind all the time.
Dream of each other all the time.
Someone that can't wait to see me the way I can't wait to see them~
haahaha
A dream that will never come true.
This thread makes me sad darnit.
I need to go back being a robot now.
@Annubis
IMO, its not possible, but it's possible for someone to not know what the hell they are feeling tho. Or for someone to totally disregard it and take it as something else.
Kyoto Returnee
Sempai
- 18 Dec 2007
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- 4
Have you ever felt in love? How does it feel?
Well x) my problem is that I'm 17 and that I've never felt in love! I think it's weird because almost all of my friends have at least kissed someone.
The thing is that I'm waiting for someone special but I just can't find him!
maybe it's because I'm to strict? I don't know but if I continue like this I'll waste all my youth! This is really bothering me.
Thank you.
I have definitely fallen in love, to many times to count, it feels great while it's happening, and continue to do so, so we may have the opposite problem.
The worst part is knowing your love has gone and when that happens, you start to think about a hundred and one things.
I had my first sexual experience when I was 13 on a gravestone of all places as we had a cemetary opposite my school. It was after a scholl disco.
That was the finniest experience but I will not elaborate..
When you do find that someone, you will know as he or she will feel the same way. It's a special chemistry that is hard to describe, but you will get the feeling one day..
At 17, you are still a baby so don't panic, you have plenty of time for that special kiss.
