Would you stay with such a lover ?
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Kara_Nari
Angel of Life
- 13 May 2005
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Ooh, just found this one....
Well I dont mind being cheated on, as long as they dont love the other person, and they arent in the same country as me. I think that if my partner would want to have sex with someone else then it should only happen when im not there to provide.
Which is kind of similar to the 'he/she had sex with somebody else but continued to love you'. As long as im the only one being loved, thats fine, and visa versa. However if/when I get married and have children, it would HAVE to be a monogamous relationship for the sake of the children, and to stay true to the meaning of marriage. Until then... im a little more open minded.
Well I dont mind being cheated on, as long as they dont love the other person, and they arent in the same country as me. I think that if my partner would want to have sex with someone else then it should only happen when im not there to provide.
Which is kind of similar to the 'he/she had sex with somebody else but continued to love you'. As long as im the only one being loved, thats fine, and visa versa. However if/when I get married and have children, it would HAVE to be a monogamous relationship for the sake of the children, and to stay true to the meaning of marriage. Until then... im a little more open minded.
MajideSaiaku
tsuyaku o tsukete kudasai
- 19 Jan 2005
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As long as i am loved and not cheated on, i am fine, and can forgive most things.
However not being loved isnt cool so, i would probably lean towards a break-up, though i would hate having to initiate it, and if she cheated on me then, whoa, she better pack her bags.
I guess some people are strong enough to survive an affair in the relationship, but, it ussually has a habit of dirtying it, of defiling it if you will, like corrupting holy water once its done its kinda considored different from then on, like crunching up a clean new peice of paper.
Most people strong enough to survive it are the ones who wouldnt ever let it happen so, i admire more a couple who love each other more then the motives behind an affair or whatever.
However not being loved isnt cool so, i would probably lean towards a break-up, though i would hate having to initiate it, and if she cheated on me then, whoa, she better pack her bags.
I guess some people are strong enough to survive an affair in the relationship, but, it ussually has a habit of dirtying it, of defiling it if you will, like corrupting holy water once its done its kinda considored different from then on, like crunching up a clean new peice of paper.
Most people strong enough to survive it are the ones who wouldnt ever let it happen so, i admire more a couple who love each other more then the motives behind an affair or whatever.
- 19 Dec 2005
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he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to you [or opposite sex for those already in homosexual relationship]
i don't mind this ☝ in fact, i'll love him even more
he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
as someone had already said... i'd rather he sleep with her and thinking of me, than with me but thinking of her.
he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to you [or opposite sex for those already in homosexual relationship]
i don't mind this ☝ in fact, i'll love him even more
he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
as someone had already said... i'd rather he sleep with her and thinking of me, than with me but thinking of her.
Anchyyy
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- 22 May 2005
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It really depends on the situation and the person your with. But anyway that's my opinion.
he/she cheated on you
Probably. Cheating always kind of continous, it's better to leave him... people mostly cheat on their partners, because they are not satisficed with something. May it be sex, thier personality, apearence or something smiliar.
he/she loved someone else (but didn't do anything) and not you
I would leave him. If you love a person deeply and with your heart and soul, his/her happiness is in the first place.
he/she loved both you and someone else
You can love just one person.
he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to
I would. He loves another one. And by the way have nothing about same sex partners
he/she didn't love you (but not anybody else either), but liked you
Yeah. You can't be with someone who likes you only as a friend.
he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
Sex is conected with love. And sex with another person while he's with you is cheating.
he/she really didn't love or like you, but without hating you (just no feeling at all)
Yes.
he/she hated you
You can't be with someone in relations ship if he/she hates you.
Really can't make up my mind - case by case depending on the person and situation
Other (please specify)
he/she cheated on you
Probably. Cheating always kind of continous, it's better to leave him... people mostly cheat on their partners, because they are not satisficed with something. May it be sex, thier personality, apearence or something smiliar.
he/she loved someone else (but didn't do anything) and not you
I would leave him. If you love a person deeply and with your heart and soul, his/her happiness is in the first place.
he/she loved both you and someone else
You can love just one person.
he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to
I would. He loves another one. And by the way have nothing about same sex partners
he/she didn't love you (but not anybody else either), but liked you
Yeah. You can't be with someone who likes you only as a friend.
he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
Sex is conected with love. And sex with another person while he's with you is cheating.
he/she really didn't love or like you, but without hating you (just no feeling at all)
Yes.
he/she hated you
You can't be with someone in relations ship if he/she hates you.
Really can't make up my mind - case by case depending on the person and situation
Other (please specify)
ELECTRIC JAPAN
Let me air my thoughts
- 14 Apr 2006
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Do not play with my sweet affection,my darlings of Japan.
I have a heart of a rose but if you betray me my high heel
will stomp you in the heart.
S P L A T!.
I will be alive in your living nightmares.
Never break a heart.
I have a heart of a rose but if you betray me my high heel
will stomp you in the heart.
S P L A T!.
I will be alive in your living nightmares.
Never break a heart.
Rich303
後輩
- 31 Mar 2005
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Be careful with my heart
I can tolerate/ understand infidelity in some cases, but it has to be a mutual understanding between the people that it is an 'open' relationship.
However, if one person thinks it is 'true love' and the other doesn't it can be damaging. It is wrong to tell someone you love them if you do not.
If I am giving someone all my attention and love, I expect the same. Once cheating has occured it is hard to regain the trust.
I'm an old romantic
ELECTRIC JAPAN said:
I can tolerate/ understand infidelity in some cases, but it has to be a mutual understanding between the people that it is an 'open' relationship.
However, if one person thinks it is 'true love' and the other doesn't it can be damaging. It is wrong to tell someone you love them if you do not.
If I am giving someone all my attention and love, I expect the same. Once cheating has occured it is hard to regain the trust.
I'm an old romantic
he/she cheated on you-
Then she would not be able to walk straight anymore.
he/she loved someone else (but didn't do anything) and not you
I'll leave her
he/she loved both you and someone else
I'm not sharingﾂ… she better go on her way.
he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to you [or opposite sex for those already in homosexual relationship]
I cannot answer this oneﾂ…
he/she didn't love you (but not anybody else either), but liked you
I'm not wasting my time I'll see her just for bed and fun stuff
he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
See answer one
he/she really didn't love or like you, but without hating you (just no feeling at all)
And what the hell is she doing with me?
he/she hated you
I can take that, it is another form of love
Really can't make up my mind - case by case depending on the person and situation
Other (please specify)
That is true enough let not being a superficial jealous Italian like me
Then she would not be able to walk straight anymore.
he/she loved someone else (but didn't do anything) and not you
I'll leave her
he/she loved both you and someone else
I'm not sharingﾂ… she better go on her way.
he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to you [or opposite sex for those already in homosexual relationship]
I cannot answer this oneﾂ…
he/she didn't love you (but not anybody else either), but liked you
I'm not wasting my time I'll see her just for bed and fun stuff
he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
See answer one
he/she really didn't love or like you, but without hating you (just no feeling at all)
And what the hell is she doing with me?
he/she hated you
I can take that, it is another form of love
Really can't make up my mind - case by case depending on the person and situation
Other (please specify)
That is true enough let not being a superficial jealous Italian like me
happygaijin
後輩
- 14 Jul 2006
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No. I won't stay but would make sure our break-up is graceful and not dramatic.
pedroami
先輩
- 3 Nov 2009
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1) he/she cheated on you-
If that ever happened I'd be pretty pissed off. Loyalty and trust is important to me.
2) he/she loved someone else (but didn't do anything) and not you
If she doesn't love me then I shouldn't try to make her, I need to find someone who will
3) he/she loved both you and someone else
She'll need to decide between me or the other. Trust and loyalty is important
4) he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to you [or opposite sex for those already in homosexual relationship]
No thanks. She can love another girl, but I have to be her main love.
5) he/she didn't love you (but not anybody else either), but liked you
Then we'd just be good friends. Call it even
6) he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
I'd forgive her... but I'm going to have to talk to her about it. Seriously.
7) he/she really didn't love or like you, but without hating you (just no feeling at all)
Then its not worth my time
8) he/she hated you
LoL, I'll answer the same as curore: I can take that, it is another form of love
9) Other (please specify)
If she broke up with me and wanted to come back again... I'd let her.
If that ever happened I'd be pretty pissed off. Loyalty and trust is important to me.
2) he/she loved someone else (but didn't do anything) and not you
If she doesn't love me then I shouldn't try to make her, I need to find someone who will
3) he/she loved both you and someone else
She'll need to decide between me or the other. Trust and loyalty is important
4) he/she loved someone else of the same sex (homosexual love) in addition to you [or opposite sex for those already in homosexual relationship]
No thanks. She can love another girl, but I have to be her main love.
5) he/she didn't love you (but not anybody else either), but liked you
Then we'd just be good friends. Call it even
6) he/she had sex with someone else, but continued to love you at the same time
I'd forgive her... but I'm going to have to talk to her about it. Seriously.
7) he/she really didn't love or like you, but without hating you (just no feeling at all)
Then its not worth my time
8) he/she hated you
LoL, I'll answer the same as curore: I can take that, it is another form of love
9) Other (please specify)
If she broke up with me and wanted to come back again... I'd let her.
azkadinansa
後輩
- 8 Nov 2009
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yeah... why we must sleeping with woman/man, if we does not love each other.... its just give our energy unless..... is better if we know or love each other... so sex is become beautiful.........
jasikajohnson
Registered
- 12 Jul 2010
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Stay with a that person that love you and understand you also love him very much and he/she share all the things and spend time with you and never cheat you this kind of person I want to stay and love them very much this are the most important to all.
For me there is no discussion about this.
I don't cheat on my girlfriend because I don't want to hurt her. If she were to break that promise we have to each other there would be the END of trust. A person that cannot be trusted in my mind is never worth the risk of repeat offending. I'm sure some are 'rehabilitated', but I'd never know because I am certain I can do better.
It is only possible to burn me once.
I don't cheat on my girlfriend because I don't want to hurt her. If she were to break that promise we have to each other there would be the END of trust. A person that cannot be trusted in my mind is never worth the risk of repeat offending. I'm sure some are 'rehabilitated', but I'd never know because I am certain I can do better.
It is only possible to burn me once.
