Why do so many foreigners marry Japanese women?

[ArmandV]

I find the behavior of Japanese much more friendly and attractive than most women here. I'm not saying I'm attracted to an obedient woman, because I really don't look for that in a woman. I date allot of girls who are outgoing, smart and attractive. But I have this overwhelming attraction towards Asian women. I've dated black women, asian women and white women, and I just like asian women more. I don't understand it but I just like them.
I most defiantley don't want an obedient house wife woman though, because then you couldn't go out and have fun with them.

You did all that at or before age 15?! Oy vey!

 

[DoctorP]

I most defiantley don't want an obedient house wife woman though, because then you couldn't go out and have fun with them.

I bet a lot of men disagree....I'm sure if htey were obedient, you could have a lot of fun with them!

 

[Kinsao]

Sticking my nose in here again:

@ Gaijinalways: your first post on the last page, listing some characteristics of Japanese men and their attitude to their wives... do you think their showing of this changes after they have got married, and they act all sweetness and light before then? (I have known this to happen - with a western couple - who got married and her husband 'changed character' quite dramatically. Not saying it's usual, but I was wondering whether it's something you've noticed among Japanese men.) I was curious because my ex was Japanese and quite 'old', as in, middle-aged rather than of the young generation, and he didn't seem to have those attitudes at all. Or maybe he was just particularly broad-minded for his generation. Obviously, one person doesn't reflect all of Japanese men!

@ Maciamo: "masculine cold-bloodedness and emotional restraint"... that's not always a particularly masculine characteristic. Okay, I can say that, at least in the UK, men are often expected to show more emotional restraint in certain situations such as not crying in public. But when it comes to arguments, I wouldn't say that's true. It's just as often men as women getting into physical fights, and men that demonstrate a lack of restraint to the point of beating their wives and even kids. (I'm not saying that women never do this, either, just that showing emotional restraint is not a particularly masculine characteristic in fact.) Also, quite a large proportion of women (I don't know how many, though, as I haven't conducted a survey! =/) seem to like men who aren't afraid to show their more emotional side too.

 

[Tyshepp]

I bet a lot of men disagree....I'm sure if htey were obedient, you could have a lot of fun with them!

Now that there is funny ya'll

 

[ricecake]

I most defiantley don't want an obedient house wife woman though, because then you couldn't go out and have fun with them.

I grew up surrounded by many WM/AF inter-racial couples my folks acquainted since I was little girl,I haven't seen them could ever gone out have fun times like any typical " in-marriage " Caucasian or Asian couples enjoy their fullfilling loving life out in the open.

Of-course,you can have some funs in the bedroom whatever and bully her to act like a great housekeeper plus an obedient wife at home.

Some years back,I visited a female friend married to Caucasian-American at their home during daytime.She said to me,she has to keep the kitchen sparkling clean and house smelling fresh with daily vacuuming.Because her husband " sniffs " ( I silently said what ! ) as soon as he steps inside the house,those house chores are expected by him.Nowadays,very few to near zero NON-Japanese Asian younger generation males treat Asian girls in such chauvinistic behaviour.

 

[BenWa]

It doesn't matter if the girl in question is Japanese, White, Black, or anything else. Women should be treated with respect love and decency , because if you don't do that then you'll be a very lonley person

 

[Maciamo]

It's just as often men as women getting into physical fights, and men that demonstrate a lack of restraint to the point of beating their wives and even kids.

Men who beat their wives or kids are mostly lower class people, and so are exceptions when it comes to civility and restraint. Compare what is comparable : watch parliamentary debates in the UK and in Japan, and see the difference.

 

[Elizabeth]

@ Maciamo: "masculine cold-bloodedness and emotional restraint"... that's not always a particularly masculine characteristic. Okay, I can say that, at least in the UK, men are often expected to show more emotional restraint in certain situations such as not crying in public. But when it comes to arguments, I wouldn't say that's true. It's just as often men as women getting into physical fights, and men that demonstrate a lack of restraint to the point of beating their wives and even kids. (I'm not saying that women never do this, either, just that showing emotional restraint is not a particularly masculine characteristic in fact.) Also, quite a large proportion of women (I don't know how many, though, as I haven't conducted a survey! =/) seem to like men who aren't afraid to show their more emotional side too.

I think everyone realizes that for biological and other reasons on average men are more aggressive and confrontational, or "warrior-like," but perhaps expected to channel their emotions into a more rational plan of action and not lose control of themselves unexpectedly.

Hey, Kinsao ! I'm so happy and relieved to see someone else also had experience with an older Japanese guy....although in my case not quite 50 (approaching middle-age?). So I have to say he is extremely gentle but still more traditional than not....☝

 

[Talitha_Cumi]

Men who beat their wives or kids are mostly lower class people, .

I have heard otherwise.
Heard that many are well-respected men in the society, that makes beaten women hard to win, as those men know how to act in front ppl, and being logical to apeal he is innocent while such a attitude of a man makes a woman more emotional.

 

[ricecake]

Sorry but modern Japanese men are nothing like the virile samurai.Physically they are shorter,less muscluar,less hairy and have less prominent male features than Caucasian men.

Just look at parliamentary debates on Japanese TV, the old "respectable" lawmakers often end up hitting each others like in a girl-fight.

So please tell me what in so "macho" or virile about modern Japanese men (and to some extent other East Asian men).

I've only seen a few tall musculine Japanese males so far,true most are physically shorter build than average Mongol-like Korean and northern-stock Han Chinese counterparts.They are definitely fall short in those superficial-qualities compare to average manly Caucasian men.

I think you've mistaken Taiwan for Japan,it's Taiwanese politicians often have " girl-fights " while in sessions as seen on TV news,those scenes I despise as extremely unmanly like and down right embarrassing.

I have to throw in the towel on this argument,I've been beaten my head try to come up with some good examples to no avail at this moment.Hey,One can't win all the time.

 

[ArmandV]

It is well documented that women also instigate domestic violence. A lot of them will beat on men. You just don't hear too much of it because the man feels embarrassed to report that a woman beat the crap out of him as he feels unmanly to admit such a thing. But it happens.

 

[BenWa]

If a woman kicked the **** out of me I wouldn't be afraid to admit it.
Women are powerful creatures who need the occasional restraining order.
Just because I think women should be treated fairly by men doesn't mean they can't kick your ***. Women can be some of the most intimidating people on the face of the earth.

 

[Maciamo]

I think you've mistaken Taiwan for Japan,it's Taiwanese politicians often have " girl-fights " while in sessions as seen on TV news,those scenes I despise as extremely unmanly like and down right embarrassing.

Maybe do they also fight at the Taiwanese parliament, but I confirm that I have seen it happen at the Japanese parliament a few times on TV while I was in Japan.

 

[Elizabeth]

I think you've mistaken Taiwan for Japan,it's Taiwanese politicians often have " girl-fights " while in sessions as seen on TV news,those scenes I despise as extremely unmanly like and down right embarrassing.

I still don't understand what is so girlish about getting into a fight. :? I'd for one be much more surprised if it happened in a house of all-women parlimentarians than with men, which by the way I've only read about happening in various Asian, African and Middle Eastern countries -- never here in the US either that I know. ☝

 

[ricecake]

I've seen news clips of Russian male politicians face-slapping and shoving NOT manly fist-fights in parliament,so are some Taiwanese counterparts.

I expect ruling-class men conduct intelligent debates in business of their country.

 

[Live91]

Maybe they find Japanese women attractive and sexy.

That's probably more true. My brother has a HUGE CRUSH on oriental chicks.

 

[Yank]

Well my take on it.

Lets see. In the U.S. military, there is one woman per 50 males. So foreign women start to look more attractive I guess. But I think some Japanese women
think getting to the United States is a big adventure. So they marry American men. Or their situation in Japan is not that great and they figure things must be better in America. This is what I would guess. I personally think race mixing is wrong. But that does not make me a hater. I find Asians very interesting and I have great respect for their culture, heritage and the high standards they seem to hold themselves to. As far as American women go. Which ones do you mean? White? Black? Latino? Ameridian? In my personal opinion. I hate what American women have become. Nuerotic basket cases. White women are like this: Nothing you ever do will be enough for them. Treat them like crap though and they will love you for it. Go figure. I have long ago given up on trying to figure them out. Treat them well and they cheat on you with a guy that will beat them up. Who they will end up marrying. Black women are just plain annoying. Not that I have ever dated any! All they think about is sex and are convinced that some how some way they are being cheated out of something. They look for something wrong. All the time. Latino women. Well I have not had much dealings with them. Most Latinos are convinced that they have a right to retake our South West. Which we won fair and square in a war with them. Which they didn't populate. Didn't use anyway. That we gave them 15 million dollars for to settle matters. An astoundingly large sum back then! But they think we owe it to them. If you don't believe me just check out borderrescue.com Trust me. It's a war down there. Fire fights with mexican military, drug cartel and illegals breaking into houses, raping and robbing. So that's what's going on in America. Racial degeneration and the long fast trip down the slippery slope of third worl status. Just look at South Africa. Or Rhodesia. Oh wait! I mean Zimbabwa.
Why would American men marry Asian women? I think because they do seem to be thankful for things. You do something they say thank you and smile. Me I'm going to get a South African Boer women or Eastern European women. Now they are thankful for things!

 

[Yank]

If a woman kicked the **** out of me I wouldn't be afraid to admit it.
Women are powerful creatures who need the occasional restraining order.
Just because I think women should be treated fairly by men doesn't mean they can't kick your ***. Women can be some of the most intimidating people on the face of the earth.

Hey I like women that can kick ***. It's a sign of Character in my book. If she is physically fit like myself. Was prior military as well. Those are points in my book.
I look at My White Women as equal. But many seem to have a hard time with this. I don't think they really want equality. They would be giving up too many perks.

 

[Supervin]

Nuerotic basket cases. White women are like this: Nothing you ever do will be enough for them. Treat them like crap though and they will love you for it. Go figure. I have long ago given up on trying to figure them out. Treat them well and they cheat on you with a guy that will beat them up. Who they will end up marrying.

That's quite true in some ways. Apparently being a gentlemen goes contrary to attraction for Caucasian women. This also goes for a lot of women, generally.

Why would American men marry Asian women? I think because they do seem to be thankful for things. You do something they say thank you and smile.

Note the 'seem'. Nonetheless, I do find that some women of East Asian ethnicity to be more grateful for things. BUT, on the flip side, they are usually more neurotic so never mess with them as they'll go to extreme lengths.

 

[Nana007]

Black women are just plain annoying. Not that I have ever dated any! All they think about is sex and are convinced that some how some way they are being cheated out of something. They look for something wrong. All the time. QUOTE]

Your assumptions on Black women is racist and stereotypical. You sir no absolutely nothing.

 

[Ma Cherie]

Yank, the only thing I can say to you is that you're racist bigot and you know nothing.

I agree with Nana, you are nothing and you know nothing.

 

[ricecake]

I thought my posts were outrageously obnoxious and race-baiting until Yank dropped by today.

 

[gaijinalways]

Actually, in Japan until fairly recently spousal abuse was fairly common and seen as a shameful behaviour best not talked about ( child abuse is still in the same category, but slowly coming out of the closet).
Maybe some of you missed this wom jp



Ah Yank, could you change your nationality or something?

 

[Ma Cherie]

Thanks for the link gaijinalways. I've been looking into those issues in Japanese society.

 

[Mrjones]

Becouse it makes communication with Japanese people easier in general and some Japanese girls are very wonderful.