need some advice

[Satori]

wow... your words are so correct... Thank you.. lol if only you were my age satori but thanks for the insight if i need help or need to talk ill post.. also thanks everyone else for there support as well
-knives

You're very welcome! Any time!

lol if only you were my age satori

Aww, thanks! I know what you mean!!

 

[jieshi]

So satori I guess if the admins give us the go ahead we can get this moved to our "love and relationships" section? hehehe

 

[Satori]

So satori I guess if the admins give us the go ahead we can get this moved to our "love and relationships" section? hehehe

Sounds great!! I think you, Brooker, and I can make an effort to be there for whoever posts, but it should also probably be open to other people to offer advice on the thread as well, don't you think? Just like others helped in this thread too. But at least whoever posts, will know that at least the three of us will always be there to answer their questions. What do you think?

 

[jieshi]

I always had that in mind but I probably should have made that clear at first lol. I would never assume that between the three of us we hold all the answers. other peoples input is good because it helps me think as well to come up with my advice e.g. I have something to compare it to. Oh this is going to be so much fun!!!

 

[Satori]

I always had that in mind but I probably should have made that clear at first lol. I would never assume that between the three of us we hold all the answers.

I pretty much gathered that, so no problem.

Other peoples input is good because it helps me think as well to come up with my advice e.g. I have something to compare it to.

I feel the same way!!

Oh this is going to be so much fun!!!

I think so!! Let's hope no one throws anything too difficult at us! :eek2:

 

[jieshi]

lol curly questions are what keep us on our toes proving that we can do the job!!!

 

[Satori]

lol curly questions are what keep us on our toes proving that we can do the job!!!

I like your attitude!! I also like that description--"curly" questions! Very fitting!

 

[Knives]

ok ok weird stuff happend today...I was hangin out with that girl like i always been doin for awhile now were friends.. my other friend andy was there too (hes trying to hook up with her sister but thats another story) but me and her are hangin around hes over with the girl im with sister.. so me and her are sitting there and she complained about her back hurting so i offered her a back rub.. well she really liked it i guess (thats what she told me she liked it ALOT) i was rubbing her back for at least 30-45 min. after that it felt like we have gotten alot closer like i get a little cut or get a little hurt she will kiss the place where it happend.. and ill do the same for her.. well we were bye her comp. and were sitting there all of a sudden were looking into eachothers eyes.. and i decide her what the hell i go in to kiss her.. she backed off a bit so i knew it wasent a good time so i gave her a little kiss on her cheek.. were sitting there and i apologize for what i did and she said its ok im just complicated so i say ok.. then me and my friend andy had to leave so he goes and says bye to her sister and me and her are hugging good bye (like we always do) and she starts kissing my neck.. so i decide to do the same and shes hugging me tight.. im just wonderin what the hell is goin on i have gotten over her and i just started looking at her as a friend but is she still intrested in me??? i just dont know.. well let me know all

 

[Brooker]

Probably she still doesn't want to have a relationship with you, but she doesn't want you to stop wanting to have a relationship with her, because it's a boost to her ego. As she sees you loosing interest in having a relationship, she'll keep dangling carrots in front of you to keep you in it. Believe me, I've seen it many times before. Although she may not realize it, it seems like this girl is all about head games.

 

[mad pierrot]

That's the most sound advice I've heard in awhile.

 

[jieshi]

Brooker is right on the mark! Its been done to me before as well, when they see you loose interest they stick another carrot in front of you.

 

[Lina Inverse]

Although she may not realize it, it seems like this girl is all about head games.

"Head games"? So that's what it's called now?
Listen, she's just playing with you. The best would be to make a clear cut now.

 

[jieshi]

Lina Couldn't have put it better. It's time that you talk to this girl. Tell her she needs to make a decision, she has to decide wether she likes you and will go out with you, or if she doesn't. Explain to her that if she chooses to not date you she has to stop playing these games. No kissing round the neck, no touchy feely, she has to decide.

While this may sound harsh, it is better that you do this now otherwise things could really start getting out of control! If she gets upset about this and doesn't want to talk to you anymore you really have to ask the question "was this a relationship worth pursuing, or a friendship worth keeping"? she can't treat you like a boy toy that she has free pick of any time of day. It's pretty much the same as her idea of "friends with benefits". If she flees from the friendship because she is to "complicated" then she didn't want you for you, but for you as her "playmate".

good luck.

 

[Knives]

what you say is right although it may sound harsh, it has to be done... ill give it a shot when i see her tomarrow.. thx for the help