- 24 Jul 2004
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just dont make a fool of yourself by demanding too much of her.narblark said:Well, here's the update. She and I are going to hang out this Sunday. We were supposed to hang out next week but instead she and her friends decided to go to Seattle for the week. Which kind of pissed me off but I got over it.
So we'll see how things go on Sunday.
be a gallant gentleman, considerate towards her demand/s,
dont be too heavy...in fact dont be heavy at all, just try to be a butterfly sitting ever so lightly on her shoulder and not a bee turning and buzzing all around her.
DO NOT submerge her with questions, specially the stupid ones such as "why did'nt you..." in relation with you or your supposed relation.
Try to find a neutral field of discussion.
Try to find what she really likes, what she will do later, how she sees her immediate and further future WITHOUT including yourself in it.
Just do as if you do NO exist in her life, be interested about everything she wants, likes, dislikes, loves, hates. Try to place everything in an angle that will have to do with her and not with you.
Make some compliments about her shoes, hairdo, clothes, her progress in english, how she adapted to the life in US. DO NOT use flattery but be sincere
Make her laugh, be a clown, use self derision, dont make things serious.
But first and foremost, keep that all the time in your little mind :
It must be a day of joy and happyness for both of you, it must be a day she will remember. If she remembers the day she spent with you and if she appreciated it, then she will remember you and will appreciate you !!
I wish you the loveliest sunday of all your life, mate !!!