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hey all im here to post... i know i havent posted in awhile but i havent talked to her in awhile but i talked to her on the phone today... werid thing too she calls me (which i usually called her) we havent talked in about 4 days or so when she calls i ask her hey what cha need (seeing why she called) she says i just want to talk... im like oooook so we talked for about a half hour we woulda talked longer but i had to go.. Unfoutunatly. and she keeps talking about me and her should do stuff together and all this other crap.. so i dont know whats goin on with her but im just gonna go with the flow.. and there ya have my post of the day 
Knives said:hey all im here to post... i know i havent posted in awhile but i havent talked to her in awhile but i talked to her on the phone today... werid thing too she calls me (which i usually called her) we havent talked in about 4 days or so when she calls i ask her hey what cha need (seeing why she called) she says i just want to talk... im like oooook so we talked for about a half hour we woulda talked longer but i had to go.. Unfoutunatly. and she keeps talking about me and her should do stuff together and all this other crap.. so i dont know whats goin on with her but im just gonna go with the flow.. and there ya have my post of the day
Hey, it's working!! Remember how we all said that your playing it cool would only make her want you more? And now she's the one calling you!! I'd keep playing it cool and go with the flow like you have, talking to her whenever, etc. She is obviously interested in you!!
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It's starting to work! Continue like this, and she'll eat out of your hand in no time! :haihai:Knives said:hey all im here to post... i know i havent posted in awhile but i havent talked to her in awhile but i talked to her on the phone today... werid thing too she calls me (which i usually called her) we havent talked in about 4 days or so when she calls i ask her hey what cha need (seeing why she called) she says i just want to talk... im like oooook so we talked for about a half hour we woulda talked longer but i had to go.. Unfoutunatly. and she keeps talking about me and her should do stuff together and all this other crap.. so i dont know whats goin on with her but im just gonna go with the flow.. and there ya have my post of the day
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lol school network is down and I could access the thread!!! yesss!! okay I agree with satori and I also agree with keiichi. You have kept your cool and she has seen you are not desperate (not to her face anyway lol) so now she wants to attract you even more. On the other hand things can happen very randomly sometimes that have no relation to the matter and everything blows up in your face! for no good reason either! it might have been some you said to her like "I don't like hot chips" and instantly they are no longer interested in playing a game or dating you. This is also a good thing because they wouldn't have been worth dating in the end! good luck!
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lol thanks i talked to her this morning and she invited me to her house to watch a movie.. I told her ill see if im not busy (but of course im going to go) for some reason she really wants me to show up... who knows whats going to happen (i better bring a police baton or a katana to keep her from me....RIGHT) but anyways ill let ya know what happens
thanks again all- Knives
for some reason she really wants me to show up... who knows whats going to happen (i better bring a police baton or a katana to keep her from me....RIGHT) but anyways ill let ya know what happensthanks again all- Knives
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hey im back to post.. me and her went to the state fair today fun 
went on alot of rides we had a fun time i guess you could call it another date we got our pics. taken she kept 2 and i kept 2 nothin big we were actin like good friends... later in the day when its dark she kept touchin me i had my arm around her i think gettin a little closer... oh btw i mainly took her out cause shes gettin her wisdom teeth pulled out i figured she may remember this day while shes healing (2 points for knives ) but i take her home and go to her house just chillin shes always tickleing me always touching me we were sitting there hangin around all of a sudden she asks " hey are you a virgin" i reply "yes" its true i am... and she looks at me and things go on i told her when she gets better ill take her out again for a good time and she agreed but i just dont know whats goin on here again lol me soo confused 
went on alot of rides we had a fun time i guess you could call it another date we got our pics. taken she kept 2 and i kept 2 nothin big we were actin like good friends... later in the day when its dark she kept touchin me i had my arm around her i think gettin a little closer... oh btw i mainly took her out cause shes gettin her wisdom teeth pulled out i figured she may remember this day while shes healing (2 points for knives ) but i take her home and go to her house just chillin shes always tickleing me always touching me we were sitting there hangin around all of a sudden she asks " hey are you a virgin" i reply "yes" its true i am... and she looks at me and things go on i told her when she gets better ill take her out again for a good time and she agreed but i just dont know whats goin on here again lol me soo confused 
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Whoa, good going, man. She asked if you were a virgin? 
I don't know whether that's a good sign or not, but it sounds like you can get laid soon if you keep this up!
Just playin' (though I'm sure it'll be on your mind. *lol*). But it sounds like it's going pretty good! Let's hope she's not playin' you and is heading somewhere!
Keiichi
I don't know whether that's a good sign or not, but it sounds like you can get laid soon if you keep this up! Just playin' (though I'm sure it'll be on your mind. *lol*). But it sounds like it's going pretty good! Let's hope she's not playin' you and is heading somewhere!
Keiichi
You know, girls go through that same thing! The minute they tell some guy they are a virgin, they are never sure what his reaction really is--whether he likes the idea or whether he plans to never call again. So you're not alone in wondering! But seriously, I think things are going very well so far. I would just take it slow and have a good time with it!! After all, you enjoy her company no matter what you're doing, so that's cool, right?!
(BTW, is she a virgin?? *inquiring minds want to know*)
(BTW, is she a virgin?? *inquiring minds want to know*)
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You have to play a little hard-to-get and not seem too eager to make a girl interested in you. There's nothing that's more of a turn-off than someone who gets way into relationship mode as soon as the first step is taken. Be patient, take your time, don't tell her everything that's on your mind up front (there's a time for that, and this early in ain't it), make her dig a little to get to know you, make her feel like she's lucky to have found a guy like you. No cologne smells worse than "Desperation".
Good luck!
P.S. Oh, didn't see there was a second page to this. Tickling is a young girl's way of trying to tell you that she'd like to make-out. Trust me. "Are you a virgin"?? I think you're in like Flynn buddy. You might even be playing the game too conservatively at this point. Sounds like she'll be receptive to whatever you do at this point. Just play it cool, go slow, and be confident even if you aren't.
Good luck!
P.S. Oh, didn't see there was a second page to this. Tickling is a young girl's way of trying to tell you that she'd like to make-out. Trust me. "Are you a virgin"?? I think you're in like Flynn buddy. You might even be playing the game too conservatively at this point. Sounds like she'll be receptive to whatever you do at this point. Just play it cool, go slow, and be confident even if you aren't.
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hey all quick question.. this girl had her wisdom teeth pulled and im going to go visit her at her house tomarrow cause shes still gotta get some rest and stuff at home and i wanted to get her a get well gift but i dont kno what to get cause i dont want to get anything too romantic like making it look like were b/f g/f thing but a gift thats nice that she will repect and not get any wrong ideas about me if anyone can suggest anything post asap thanks
Knives said:
Hi Knives!
At first, I went completely blank and couldn't think of anything you should get her (that wouldn't be taken the wrong way, that is). Then it occurred to me that you could give her flowers! When a person is not sick or recovering from illness or an injury, flowers would be viewed as romantic. But in this case, they are the perfect "get well" gift!! (Plus, they really are romantic too --but in a way you can get away with!! :winklove: ) They needn't be roses or anything expensive. Just something to make her feel special. Good luck!!
BTW, that's extremely nice of you to be so considerate of her!!
You'll definitely win points for that!! 
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hey i just talked to her today.. and things seem to be going very well she called me (instead of me calling her) and she wants me to go to the state fair with her again so i think things are going very well in my favor thanks for all the advice and i can always use more if ya have it and thanks satori for the gift idead thats what im goin to do.. ill keep you all posted
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ok heres what happened i took her the flowers and i got her a movie in her favorite series.. when i go to her house open the door cause they said to walk in and i say to her here are your get well soon presents... she jumps up and hugs me then she looks at me and starts kissing me pretty much the whole time i was there was one big make-out session later that evening we were kissing and she says promise me somthing, i said what is it she says promise to never love me..... I look at her and i said i cant promise that why would you ask that to begin with. She says i dont want to hurt you.. i tell her ive been hurt before and i really like you.. she says i know i ask what are you afraid of.. she says commitment.. i say thats all were all going to have to face it some point in our life and if things dont work out with us then we can still be friends. She says wont that be akward i say no i doubt it i say why dont we just give it a try i think it will work well between us. then she looks at me kisses me and says let me sleep on it and call me tomarrow so im calling her today at 3:00 pm im very nervous right now cause i dont know whats going to happen well ill keep you all posted
pretty much the whole time i was there was one big make-out session later that evening we were kissing and she says promise me somthing, i said what is it she says promise to never love me..... I look at her and i said i cant promise that why would you ask that to begin with. She says i dont want to hurt you.. i tell her ive been hurt before and i really like you.. she says i know i ask what are you afraid of.. she says commitment.. i say thats all were all going to have to face it some point in our life and if things dont work out with us then we can still be friends. She says wont that be akward i say no i doubt it i say why dont we just give it a try i think it will work well between us. then she looks at me kisses me and says let me sleep on it and call me tomarrow so im calling her today at 3:00 pm im very nervous right now cause i dont know whats going to happen well ill keep you all posted
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Red flag!! Be cautious. 
For a young girl to be saying something like that, she must have a few issues. If she thinks she'll eventually hurt you, she's probably being honest, and she probably will. At least she likes you enough to give you a warning. Heed that warning. Proceed with extreme caution.
For a young girl to be saying something like that, she must have a few issues. If she thinks she'll eventually hurt you, she's probably being honest, and she probably will. At least she likes you enough to give you a warning. Heed that warning. Proceed with extreme caution.Oh, boy!! I definitely agree with Brooker. She's now sounding like some type of "player" and very commitment-phobic. She definitely has some issues to work out.
I was kind of wondering before when she asked you if you were a virgin, if she wasn't asking you that because her little games weren't working on you. She might have started to think she wasn't attractive enough, because you weren't playing right into her hands. Alternatively, she was probably thinking it was due to your being a virgin. Hence, her asking you flat-out like that. She needed to know why you weren't chasing her and playing right into her hands.
Now she says she doesn't want to hurt you. That's definitely a player's line. What this girl is after is control. She wants to be the one who controls things, and in order to do that, she doesn't allow herself to feel vulnerable in a relationship. She's afraid of feeling anything, for fear she will be left feeling powerless if rejected. So she walls off her feelings altogether and manipulates people and circumstances in order to protect herself and her feelings.
Also, warning you that you might get hurt lets her off the hook in case you do! She's definitely not into an equal, responsible relationship. She's probably someone who has been hurt deeply in the past, but who now enjoys feeling the power of being in control of other people and situations as a protection from hurt. Unfortunately, that doesn't allow her to be real and honest in life and to grow through relationships with others. By avoiding feeling hurt, she avoids feeling love. And that's really too bad, because love is what it's all about in life.
I don't know what to suggest. You do seem to enjoy being with her. So at this point, I would just say, "Forewarned is forearmed!" I would be very caution with this girl.
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I was kind of wondering before when she asked you if you were a virgin, if she wasn't asking you that because her little games weren't working on you. She might have started to think she wasn't attractive enough, because you weren't playing right into her hands. Alternatively, she was probably thinking it was due to your being a virgin. Hence, her asking you flat-out like that. She needed to know why you weren't chasing her and playing right into her hands.
Now she says she doesn't want to hurt you. That's definitely a player's line. What this girl is after is control. She wants to be the one who controls things, and in order to do that, she doesn't allow herself to feel vulnerable in a relationship. She's afraid of feeling anything, for fear she will be left feeling powerless if rejected. So she walls off her feelings altogether and manipulates people and circumstances in order to protect herself and her feelings.
Also, warning you that you might get hurt lets her off the hook in case you do! She's definitely not into an equal, responsible relationship. She's probably someone who has been hurt deeply in the past, but who now enjoys feeling the power of being in control of other people and situations as a protection from hurt. Unfortunately, that doesn't allow her to be real and honest in life and to grow through relationships with others. By avoiding feeling hurt, she avoids feeling love. And that's really too bad, because love is what it's all about in life.
I don't know what to suggest. You do seem to enjoy being with her. So at this point, I would just say, "Forewarned is forearmed!" I would be very caution with this girl.
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Brooker said:Wow, Satori, words of wisdom. *awards rep points* You should write a love column or something.
Thanks!! So could you!! I forgot to give you rep points for your post! (I'll do that now.) Gee, does that mean I get to go to the Jref make-out room again?? (Giving some men more balls has its advantages!!)
