Missing fiancé

Mike Cash said:

Another unpleasant possibility is that she has been feeding you a lot of lies and BS all this time. I've seen her apartment building on Street View and I have trouble imagining a wealthy family with a daughter in the country's most prestigious university putting her in that building in that location. I wouldn't be surprised if the wealthy family background and attending Tokyo University are both just part of her fantasy life and exist only in her mind.

Had you recently been talking with her about wanting to come to Japan to see her?

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Yes we talked about that a lot. We here going to spend Christmas together. She's never Christmas the way we celibrate it in Australia. I didn't even think it would be different. She said it's more of a romantic holiday or "dating holiday" than a family holiday over there. I told her that I would make her Christmas dinner and we could have decorations; do whole Christmas thing. I was supposed to apply for my pass port a month ago. I was delayed because I was trying to get someone who's known me for 12 months to be my Guarantor. Now I'll use anybody. She wanted to buy my plane tickets herself as soon as possible to get the best price. I messed that up a bit.

I spend all day and into the night talking with her and messaging her. She gave up all of her hobbies (she had a lot) and her job at a shisha bar (she didn't have to work there but wanted to feel more independent) to talk to me. The only hobbies she kept were smoking shisha (just gel not tobacco), painting pictures for me and watering her plant collection. She gave up ALL of her time to talk to me. She didn't get to go to university for the second week after holidays because she had to find out about her disease. She had quite a few things to do when she came back to university after not attending much. Our relationship has many different layers to it. We don't just romanticize. It richer than that. We have talked about many different subjects, we joke, she likes to tease me, I tease her a bit, there's such a large density of communication for just two people in 3 months. Our communications are littered with little expressions that only we would understand. We talk about our day to day lives and subjects of conversation have included things like robotics, genetics, philosophy, food, Australian and Japanese politics, music, culture (especially differences) and so much more. She's also my best friend!

I'm not just some gullible, desperate, love-struck simpleton. I'm sorry if I've made it seem like our relationship is nothing but a cheap romance novel. It's more whole than that. We are real people. We've shared many very intamate moments but we talk plainly to.

I've Google earthed her appartment also. I don't know but that's the adress that she gave me. I googled the adress in English and Japanese. I think the Japanese one bares more geographical accuracy. But I don't know. She sent me a couple of picture of the view from outside of her appartment and you can see that big railway track that's next to the building that I found when I street viewed it.

I don't doubt your sincerity. I doubt her honesty and mental health.

People lie about Tokyo University so much that any mention of it is just a giant red flag for me. While the apartment she lives in isn't low-income welfare housing, it is government-subsidized semi-public housing and not consistent with where I would expect to find a wealthy person living. It is larger than what I would expect a typical university student in Tokyo living alone to be living in....at least twice as large.

Her dropping contact with you coincided with the approach of changing your online virtual relationship by having you actually come here to meet her....just as I had suspected. Too much of her story may have been too easily spotted as made-up if you saw it up close.

I fear you may have just been a character in the make-believe world she has created in her mind. I hope I'm wrong, but that is the way it looks from my perspective.

May I ask how you two met in the first place?

WonkoTheSane said:

No worries, we all think poorly under stress.

I live in Katsushika, but Mike is far better equipped linguistically and culturally to handle this problem for you than I am. If it comes to a point where he feels I could be useful in the area I'll be glad to help.

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There are developments that I am discussing with Marty privately at the moment and it is possible you could be helpful if you don't mind making a little local field trip and if Marty agrees.

Mike Cash said:

There are developments that I am discussing with Marty privately at the moment and it is possible you could be helpful if you don't mind making a little local field trip and if Marty agrees.

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Certainly, based on your good judgement.

Mike Cash said:

I don't doubt your sincerity. I doubt her honesty and mental health.

People lie about Tokyo University so much that any mention of it is just a giant red flag for me. While the apartment she lives in isn't low-income welfare housing, it is government-subsidized semi-public housing and not consistent with where I would expect to find a wealthy person living. It is larger than what I would expect a typical university student in Tokyo living alone to be living in....at least twice as large.

Her dropping contact with you coincided with the approach of changing your online virtual relationship by having you actually come here to meet her....just as I had suspected. Too much of her story may have been too easily spotted as made-up if you saw it up close.

I fear you may have just been a character in the make-believe world she has created in her mind. I hope I'm wrong, but that is the way it looks from my perspective.

May I ask how you two met in the first place?

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I hear you Mike. I'm not leaving out any possibilities. She said her mother is a highly paid lawyer and her stepfather is some even richer businessman, but she didn't like it when I would remark as to how rich she was. She bought $AUD1,000 worth of clothes online one night; I was calling her at the same time. She sent me some pictures of he clothes she was buying and I said "how can you buy all that" she said "I'm just bored" I said "oh, I forgot your rich".

Mike Cash said:

I don't doubt your sincerity. I doubt her honesty and mental health.

People lie about Tokyo University so much that any mention of it is just a giant red flag for me. While the apartment she lives in isn't low-income welfare housing, it is government-subsidized semi-public housing and not consistent with where I would expect to find a wealthy person living. It is larger than what I would expect a typical university student in Tokyo living alone to be living in....at least twice as large.

Her dropping contact with you coincided with the approach of changing your online virtual relationship by having you actually come here to meet her....just as I had suspected. Too much of her story may have been too easily spotted as made-up if you saw it up close.

I fear you may have just been a character in the make-believe world she has created in her mind. I hope I'm wrong, but that is the way it looks from my perspective.

May I ask how you two met in the first place?

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we met on OkCupid. She said that she was just there to have fun, nothing serious and those were my exact intentions as well. She said that she was going to quit the app just before I messaged her. She said she was sick of the stupid messages from boys saying "what's up" and "how you doing" and "hey". I was just experimenting with the app. I though it was amazing that I could talk to millions of people around the world in an instant. I never tried to hurt or mislead anyone, not that kind of fun. She said that all of her picture used to be different. She said that they were more in the theme of a "typical Japanese girl", cute etc. when I found her profile all of the picture were of her giving blankish stares into the camera. My first message was "don't look so disappointed that I'm messaging you. Geez!" she relied "Lol. I look disappointed? I thought I looked wasted. And yes a charming guy like you sending me messages make me very excited. You are so hot" I said to her "Thanks" "it's true that the wasted look is very fashionable now. Miley Cyrus looks wasted 24/7. The only mental illness that really effects the homeless is a sense of fashion." then I said "if I'm ever in Tokyo I'll come get wasted with you" she said that she actually wanted to become and exchange student in Melbourne University, I said "that's only a $70 dollar flight for me. I could come and hangout for a day?" She said "aww, it means I get a chance to meet you in real life" "awesome!". We hit it off from there and I asked if she has any other chat apps so we could stay in touch. She gave me her LINE id. We weren't boyfriend and girlfriend at first. We we were just good friends who found each other attractive. We would talk a lot still but not as much as we began to after. I really liked her and accientally called her my girlfriend in one message with out asking her out properly. I said "sorry I should have asked you if you wanted to be my girlfriend before making assumptions" "do you want to be my girlfriend?" I was so anxious before she responded. She said "be your girlfriend? I want to 'F-word' you! Of course I'll be your girlfriend". It sharply escalated, in density of communication and passion to!

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I replaced a word with "F-word" instead. Because of these: ****

WonkoTheSane said:

Certainly, based on your good judgement.

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Thank you Wonko I would really appreciate that! I was telling Mike that If she is lying to me about her address and her wealth than she could lie about anything. I would still love her. I wouldn't marry her or trust her. But I can't help but love her. She's still my favorite person even if she's pathoilogical. I have to know if she's ok.

I found the pictures of the from the building that she claimed she is a resident (on the 32nd floor)! I'm amazed. Mike proved to me in our personal chat that this picture was taken from a high rise in Osaka!

A high-rise hotel in Osaka.

Is this thread for real.

musicisgood said:

Is this thread for real.

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Sadly, yes.

MartyClyde said:

Thank you Wonko I would really appreciate that! I was telling Mike that If she is lying to me about her address and her wealth than she could lie about anything. I would still love her. I wouldn't marry her or trust her. But I can't help but love her. She's still my favorite person even if she's pathoilogical. I have to know if she's ok.

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At this point we don't even know if "she" is a "she."

MartyClyde said:

I found the pictures of the from the building that she claimed she is a resident (on the 32nd floor)! I'm amazed. Mike proved to me in our personal chat that this picture was taken from a high rise in Osaka!

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mdchachi said:

At this point we don't even know if "she" is a "she."

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I've seen pictures and a video of her naked. In it she said "Hi Marty" smiled sweetly into the camera at me, and proceeded to disrobe. She's very much a girl.

She told me that her summer break at Tokyo University ended on 5th of September. The University of Tokyo's undergraduate academic calendar say that it ends on the on the 20th of September in 2016.

I said that she would spend every waking hour with me. I thought that was true, but she did take a lot of little "naps" that she later said were due to her "illness". She might have been manipulating other boys or girls at that time. I don't know. I hope not. I do know that she spent the vast majority of my waking hours communicating with me.

She liked to rate people's attractiveness with me. We would criticise the appearance of celebrities and give them a rating on a scale of 1-10. We played this game 3 times before. For instance to her I was a 10 when I smile and a 14 when I don't, Johnny Depp was only a 9 and Christopher Waltz was a 19! (The cool old Villan in the 007 movie Spectre). She took it further though (not just beyond 10). She showed me a picture of what she said was a long-term pen pal from way before she met me who was half French half German and living in France. I was very jealous (expecially bring him up in the context of rating attractiveness) and I was outwardly expressive of that jealousy. I tried my hardest to defame him. He was low on the scale anyway but I was shocked at his existence at the time. She said he was just a pen-pal and that she doesn't like him in that way at all. She told me that he was getting angry with her because ever since we met she hadn't replied to any of his emails. I rated him 0 and she rated him 2. I asked her not to talk with him. She said she can be friends with whoever she likes. I changed my tone at that point, I didn't want to punish her for being honest about having a pen-pan. Even a creepy looking one. So I said I was sorry.

She later told me that she told him about me in their first email in 2 months. Apparently he didn't like me either. He apparently told her how terrible Australia is and Australians are. I told her to stop all contact with him as he obviously had feelings for her. She accepted this reluctantly then told me how she only loved me, that I was right and that she would stop talking to him. She told me all about him after that. Apparently he was one of those adults who like the children's cartoon "My Little Pony" and that he was in his late 30's. I dismissed him as a weirdo and a pedo. She agreed and promised again to never contact him.

I think that her saying that she might very well die from a terrible illness was her way of saying goodbye for the first time, but she reneged on that decision. I think that she did so because she had developed strong feelings of love towards me and saying goodbye would be harder that she thought. She said that she had something much more easily treatable than leukaemia, but something that still had the same symptoms that she described herself as having.

I understand how telling me the truth would have been an incredible difficult thing to do. She started a lie, and like with any lie the bigger it got the more difficult it would be to tell the truth. If I put myself in her shoes I might have done the same thing and bailed instead of facing the truth and its consequences. I think that she would be sorry, and I think that she loves me. She's just really messed-up.

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I'm not say I that people shouldn't watch programs that are marketed to very young children. I'm not telling anybody what to do with their life. I can't help but find it weird, and it was a good leverage point at the time to criticism him with. I'm also not saying I have anything wrong with age difference in relationships either.

Although its quite a difference

I looked up the disease as soon as you mentioned it. It's more of a condition than a disease and not particularly horrible.

MartyClyde said:

She told me that her summer break at Tokyo University ended on 5th of September. The University of Tokyo's undergraduate academic calendar say that it ends on the on the 20th of September in 2016.

I said that she would spend every waking hour with me. I thought that was true, but she did take a lot of little "naps" that she later said were due to her "illness". She might have been manipulating other boys or girls at that time. I don't know. I hope not. I do know that she spent the vast majority of my waking hours communicating with me.

She liked to rate people's attractiveness with me. We would criticise the appearance of celebrities and give them a rating on a scale of 1-10. We played this game 3 times before. For instance to her I was a 10 when I smile and a 14 when I don't, Johnny Depp was only a 9 and Christopher Waltz was a 19! (The cool old Villan in the 007 movie Spectre). She took it further though (not just beyond 10). She showed me a picture of what she said was a long-term pen pal from way before she met me who was half French half German and living in France. I was very jealous (expecially bring him up in the context of rating attractiveness) and I was outwardly expressive of that jealousy. I tried my hardest to defame him. He was low on the scale anyway but I was shocked at his existence at the time. She said he was just a pen-pal and that she doesn't like him in that way at all. She told me that he was getting angry with her because ever since we met she hadn't replied to any of his emails. I rated him 0 and she rated him 2. I asked her not to talk with him. She said she can be friends with whoever she likes. I changed my tone at that point, I didn't want to punish her for being honest about having a pen-pan. Even a creepy looking one. So I said I was sorry.

She later told me that she told him about me in their first email in 2 months. Apparently he didn't like me either. He apparently told her how terrible Australia is and Australians are. I told her to stop all contact with him as he obviously had feelings for her. She accepted this reluctantly then told me how she only loved me, that I was right and that she would stop talking to him. She told me all about him after that. Apparently he was one of those adults who like the children's cartoon "My Little Pony" and that he was in his late 30's. I dismissed him as a weirdo and a pedo. She agreed and promised again to never contact him.

I think that her saying that she might very well die from a terrible illness was her way of saying goodbye for the first time, but she reneged on that decision. I think that she did so because she had developed strong feelings of love towards me and saying goodbye would be harder that she thought. She said that she had something much more easily treatable than leukaemia, but something that still had the same symptoms that she described herself as having.

I understand how telling me the truth would have been an incredible difficult thing to do. She started a lie, and like with any lie the bigger it got the more difficult it would be to tell the truth. If I put myself in her shoes I might have done the same thing and bailed instead of facing the truth and its consequences. I think that she would be sorry, and I think that she loves me. She's just really messed-up.

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Mike Cash said:

I looked up the disease as soon as you mentioned it. It's more of a condition than a disease and not particularly horrible.

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I didn't look it up at the time. I just believed her.

WonkoTheSane has visited her address. There was no answer and the names were different on the mail-slot.

Now I'll mail a letter to her alleged address detailing all of our finding and telling her that I know the truth. I will also tell her I still love her and am willing to be her friend. I will NEVER trust her, but I won't say that.

(She received the package I sent to that address and sent me a picture of the contents of the box I sent so I know she can access it somehow. Also the package was pretty heavy to, and cost a lot in postage to send. Not something that she could easily sneak away with to her real residence without being noticed or having it be a physical struggle. But maybe she had someone else collect it. Maybe her friend lives there and would pass on the message without further thought).

She's been with me for almost every waking moment for 117 days, and before she left me it was the most intense, happiest and exciting 117 days of my life!

I know that she's might be a dangerous and psychotic relationship predator who has hurt me very deeply, but l love her. I must be crazy to.

Marty, I'm sorry about how things have turned out for you!

What Mike and Wonko have done in this thread is nothing short of remarkable!

I have to admit something. I'm really sorry guys. But I mislead you on something. I should have mentioned it way earlier, but up until now I thought they were as good as mine.

She made a big deal out of the fact that she bought me those headphones. She has her own pair of green ones and she acted like she was so happy to send them to me and I was greatful for the consideration. She made me pick the colour, then she chose a colour for me (metallic blue) telling me that the colour I chose doesn't suit my "dress-sense". She sent a screenshot of the one she liked and sent me to the Sony promotional webpage for them. She made it a whole process, a big lead up to me acquiring them. She said she got them delivered to her house for some reason and I though that was odd. Why not just send them directly to me and avoid the extra cost? She said that she wanted to send me other with it like sweet or savoury "Japanese cookies".

I'm f-ing stupid! I felt like if I denied that she sent me headphones then that would be an insult to her. I didn't just tell you guys. I was so proud of her and the sweet gift I told almost everyone I know!

My gift to her arrived within 14 days, her gift hasn't arrived and it's been just over a month. I was asking her about it recently and she said it was the fault of the unreliable Japanese postal service. She said that she checked the tracking and that it should be arriving last week. That must have been why she bailed.

While writing this message I started to experience a visceral feeling of fear. I don't think I should meet her even if I really want to. She scares me.
Just the lengths she went to to convince me that I was getting that's headphones. she didn't just say she would buy me headphone and then did. and when she said that they arrived at her house she ask my permission if she could take them out of the box to show me. I said of course, and of course she just showed me her other pair of Sony headphone.

I'm going to post this one on the message board. I don't feel ok that I lied to everyone about that. I'm sorry.

thomas said:

Marty, I'm sorry about how things have turned out for you!

What Mike and Wonko have done in this thread is nothing short of remarkable!

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It is what it is. I can't argue with the evidence. I feel terrible about it and extremely embarrassed.

But I can't thank you all enough! Especially Mike and Wonko!

I felt completely helpless and alone. I desperately tried anything I can think of. I nearly got in debt for a minimum of 4 year but probably the rest of my life after getting accepted for that loan. If I didn't this place I would have spent all of the money I don't have looking for a scammer, who would have probably continued to avoid me if I'm lucky, to tell them I love them.

Thank you everyone. I appreciate it so much that you would help me like this. It's amazing and it makes me want to help more people to.

I feel like I owe you all. I've become a annual donor. I don't know what else I can do? I will try to learn from it all and take all of your words into consideration in my everyday life.

I'm a fan of this website for life and I'll donate more when I make more finantial gains.

You're welcome. Most people are good, don't let this experience stop you from caring about someone in the future. You'll find someone who loves you as much as you love her.

WonkoTheSane said:

You're welcome. Most people are good, don't let this experience stop you from caring about someone in the future. You'll find someone who loves you as much as you love her.

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I'm just came home from a bar. I couldn't stomach more that two beers.

I wanted a drink but I also wanted to try socalising with people. I've devoted so much time just to Ran. Often at times I would pass on social opportunities in favour of talking to her. It used to be just Ran and I. Tonight I just found myself sitting alone thinking of her, and honesty I don't know what to think.

When I thought of her before I used to think of how lucky I was. I used to look at single people in bars as they achingly postured for the attention of the opposite sex and think about how lucky I was to have found her. We would tell our selves that our love was so rare and that she was my one true love and that I was hers.

I think that I must just be the lonely type. I've never felt like I belong. I want to be liked. I really want to say hello to everybody in the street and I want to know who they are and their thoughts, and I want them to validate my existence by liking me.

I think she saw that in me. She made me feel like I had a purpose and that I would never be alone in this universe.

I can't think of anyone else right now. I used to tell her "your the only girl I think of". That was true and still is. I look at other girls and I find other girls technically attractive. But the only girl I think of is Ran.

You need to make the mental adjustment to realize that the girl you fell in love with is a completely fictional character carefully devised by an unscrupulous con artist deliberately manipulating you psychologically.

She isn't real. She never was real.

You're a nice guy, Marty. There must be lots of nice young ladies right there in your own city who would like to have a sincere and devoted fellow like you. Quit looking for them in bars and online scammer hangouts.

For everyone else, and without giving away anything that needs to remain confidential, Wonko visited the address used by "Ran Imakawa"...reportedly a 32nd floor apartment in a luxury high rise in Tokyo, occupied by a Tokyo University student, daughter of a highly-paid lawyer mother and uber-wealthy stepfather and living alone...and confirmed it is an apartment on the 4th floor of a five floor semi-public housing unit occupied by what appears by the names on the mailbox and door to be two Chinese people. As alluded to earlier, a little online detective work revealed that the photos supposedly showing the view from her Tokyo high-rise apartment were actually taken from a window of the Hankyu International Hotel in Osaka. This wasn't just some bored or mentally ill Japanese girl amusing herself; it was Chinese scammers pretending to be Japanese and working what appears to be at least an identity theft scam and maybe trying for a "long con" as well.

I just woke up for the first time considering the notion that she might not love me at all. The first time I've considered that she might not be someone who went into it with all the wrong intentions but actually came to fall in love with me whilst maintaining a web of lies that had overcome her.

This is the first time I've thought about the notion that she's actually a master of disguise. That she's actually a no-name Chinese girl with a very specific skill. A ghost that can implant herself into someone's world, become their best friend, become everything you want them to be and some things you don't (just for authenticity).

It makes me think of the stereotypical Russian sleeper cell. How his been trained his whole life to understand American culture and American life. Trained to be an American, cultivate an American family and fit in, but also trained to kill any American at the drop of a dime.

It also scares the **** out of me and is something I would suspect only to be in a movie. But if you look at the FBI's Most Wanted stories it's as mind-blowing as any movie and a thousand times more frightening because it's happening in the real world.

It also made me think of a documentary I watched a while ago on Netflix called "The Imposter", about a guy French guy with no life to claim as his own. Instead he claims their lives of others, and not by killing them (although he could have done something like that), but by literally assuming their identities. Often lost children as was the case in the film. I remember how that documentary utterly astounded me, and that I spent the rest of the night googling his case and other cases like it. In the film he goes from a nondescript man somewhere in Spain crouched down in a telephone box at night in the rain, to the long lost teenage son of a family in Texas. That family was pretty daft. I don't think I'm as much of an idiot but his deception was no less cunning.

She didn't just troll for information from me. She didn't just become my friend and internet girlfriend and then ask me for some confidential information. She developed a complex relationship with me bit by bit with many nuances, organic-like changes in dynamic and real emotional engagement on a daily and nightly basis. She lived her lie for some part alongside me, as she told it to me and showed me picture of what she was up to. But that was just the surface of what she was up to.

She went on trips around Japan a few times. She went to Osaka and stayed in a hotel (that was actually kind of cheap looking; she didn't like it when I made fun of the hotel furniture) to see a band called The Pillows (she sent me pictures of the tickets) with her "gay best friend" who was "so stupid" that she called "Rat". Rat was apparently some "international student" from San Diego but could have been her acomplice. I have a picture of her with Rat. In it he's taking the picture and she's seen on the phone messaging with me. Rat apparently when back to America but planned to come to Japan again in Christmas. A week or so before I lost contact with her she apparently lost all contact with Rat. I once asked what does Rat study and she told me she doesn't know! I was very suspicious. I said to her he's your best friend, his here for study and you've never mentioned what his studying in conversation with him? She strongly insisted that she just didn't know and I let her off the hook. I should have been more curious as to why he came to study in the middle of her University break. She did say that they met at the same University, and became friends because of mutual interests and because they could both speak Spanish and Japanese.

She didn't appear to do much on most days. Just lay in bed and hug her favourite stuffed animal and talk with me. She did go out of the house on occasions, especially to go to restaurants. Never an expensive looking one, but she did say that she used to going to Michelin restaurants and she would take me to one. She said the wished I was there everywhere she'd go and would invite me to go back there with her. She like to go to a mall somewhere and she liked to go to a cinema that didn't provide airconditioning in summer. She took pictures of much of this while she was doing it. I think that she was doing it as she said she was, but she was doing more than she let me know also.

There was so much more to it as well. When I say we spent 5+ hours calling most days (not all at once but many times all at once) I'm not joking. She didn't fish for information in all of our long conversation (I think that I have a pretty good memory but if she did in every instance than I didn't notice that at all). She built up a trust and a love that felt as real or more real as any relationship I've ever had. It wasn't all about me, it was equally about her. We would talk about her life for hours and then go on to message about it without an air of suspicion.

I'd recommend that you don't go as far in the opposite direction as you did in the first.

She's not some highly trained international spy. She's a woman living in a rather beat up low cost housing project who likely had few opportunities and chose criminality.

This does not absolve her of guilt, but it also does nor mean you should look at her or your situation as anything more than what it was. Your job in this is to learn to be more centered and realistic, not to change your hyperbole to the opposite end of the spectrum.

WonkoTheSane said:

I'd recommend that you don't go as far in the opposite direction as you did in the first.

She's not some highly trained international spy. She's a woman living in a rather beat up low cost housing project who likely had few opportunities and chose criminality.

This does not absolve her of guilt, but it also does nor mean you should look at her or your situation as anything more than what it was. Your job in this is to learn to be more centered and realistic, not to change your hyperbole to the opposite end of the spectrum.

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The weak analogies I was making towards my case with reference to the concept of a sleeper cell, a documentary about a psycho confidence trickster and the stories written on the profiles of criminals on the FBI's Most Wanted list were to illustrate how confounded I am with the situation as it unfolds in my mind. I know that those are extreme examples, and she may just be a broke girl who chose a path criminality. My point it that she's remarkably good at it. At least from my point of view. I think that she's highly intelligent and made the process seem, for the most part, seamless across a sizeable timescale. She didn't just involve herself with me for 117 days, she was with me constantly, being my girlfriend. I don't think that she was a mere amateur.

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This is completely foreign to anything I've ever experienced before. Not just the deep attachment I developed for her or the aftermath shock and misery and then realisation that she's a fraud as facilitated by you guys. It was the whole process of the scam itself. It was something that I've never come close to experienced before. I've never had nearly as strong of a relationship with girls that I knew in my real life. It wasn't your run of the mill easy scam. It took a hell of a lot of devotion. Her project consumed her entire life and mine for a long time. It was something that she focuses all her enegy on. She became my best friend and then girlfriend and then my fiancé. She was that person temporarily while she extracted whatever it is that she wanted.

The motive is still unclear to me. I just know that she was some kind of confidence trickster and after some form of personal information. For what? Why go to so much effort if we can't find a clear objective? Doesn't mean there isn't one. But why? I don't think that she got away with much in my case except for making me miserable.

If she wanted someone's address their mother's maiden name and their date of birth, well I could look that up on people all day on the Internet. It wouldn't take a fraction of the effort.

She didn't ask or show any indication that she wanted my Apple ID, I just gave I to her because we were playing Clash Royale and she was upset that I was beating her all the time in "friendly battles". I said that it was only because I've been playing for longer and if she's really upset I'll give her my more matured account. The only way to do so is though your Apple ID. The didn't accept the account though. But I did post the Apple ID information before she refused. I bought the lute and jewellery box at an Op-Shop for $10. She loved it and said it was worth so much more and that she send the picture to her step-father and he valued it to be worth at least $300, I said I will send it to you. It was a bit of a battle to get her to accept the gift. She told me she was uncomfortable taking from me. I insisted. She gain my address because she said she would have to send me something in return. I said that's not how gifts work and she said it would be her gift to me.

I know that I can't believe anything she said now. It's just that her information gathering techniques made her acquisition of whatever information she was after seem coincidental or indirect.