Sometimes love can really hurt you. While in Naval security in Japan , I put in to marry my Japanese girlfriend. I knew I was going to suffer for it , but I loved her so much. I lost my security clearance and was sent to the worst Navy base they had in the Aleutian Islands for a year. When I got out , I got a job and an apartment for us to live back in the US. My father fought the Japanese in WWII and my family pretty much disowned me for planning to marry her , but I was determined. So , to make a long story short , I called her and said everything was ready for her to come to the states for our wedding. She said she was afraid of needles and did not want to get the shots needed to travel , so that was the end of my long ordeal . As they say sometimes love hurts. As it worked out , I married a wonderful girl from England and lived happily ever after , so don't worry Gab , in the end , everything will work out OK for you .