Kindly advise - wife and son in Japan!

CLCK · 26 Dec 2009

Dear all,...

I have a story here, a true story,... and I am hoping for some advice from the good people here.

I have a wife and a son in Japan,... son is 13 year-old, we were married since 1996, but due to some unfortunate events, we are living apart now. I have built my life all these years in Kuala Lumpur and Singapore, whilst my wife and son have been living in Yokohama, Japan.

My wife will give me a tongue-lashing, every now and then, and refuses to speak with me. My son, however, talks to me quite consistently. I have sent them money all these years, and kept in touch with them.

How should I go from here please ? I will be happy to provide more information of my situation,.... kindly advise me please,.....

Red5 · 12 Jan 2010

the best way is to combine your family and to live together . otherwise, you've to look for new life with new relationship

Larry Battle · 12 Jan 2010

If 70 percent is good, then try to stay. But if there are too many problems then just start a new relationship.
Life is too short to not have fun.

CLCK · 12 Jan 2010

iceman said:
the best way is to combine your family and to live together . otherwise, you've to look for new life with new relationship

..iceman,... thank you,.. but I have a son there, whatever it is, she has borne me a son, the very least I could do is to try to take care of her, right ? IN the course of doing that, of course, I need to win her back first.

And of course, not to mention my son too. Every man loves his children,.....

Larry Battle said:
If 70 percent is good, then try to stay. But if there are too many problems then just start a new relationship.
Life is too short to not have fun.

Yes, agreed, but we are not talking about fun here anymore, it's family, and I have a son there. If my (ex) wife does not want me anymore, I understand,... but my son,... how do i go about it ?:?

Red5 · 12 Jan 2010

CLCK said:
..iceman,... thank you,.. but I have a son there, whatever it is, she has borne me a son, the very least I could do is to try to take care of her, right ? IN the course of doing that, of course, I need to win her back first.

And of course, not to mention my son too. Every man loves his children,.....

I think you've to live with your wife and your son , either in your country or Japan ..

CLCK · 13 Jan 2010

iceman said:
I think you've to live with your wife and your son , either in your country or Japan ..

Thank you, iceman,... I wanted to propose this to her, and to invite her to come stay with me in SG, and if she refused, we can talk about me going to Japan. I am willing to do that.

But the problem now is : she is not talking to me, and refused to talk with me. But she is not stopping me from talking to my son. I have asked if she has remarried, to which if she replies with a yes, I will settle my heart and look forward to plans with my son ONLY. However, she has not replied to me if she has remarried. So, I am sort of dangling now - and do not know if I should win her back, or well,... just drop her but only focus on my son. How do I go from here, Sir ?........ :?

Red5 · 13 Jan 2010

CLCK said:
Thank you, iceman,... I wanted to propose this to her, and to invite her to come stay with me in SG, and if she refused, we can talk about me going to Japan. I am willing to do that.

But the problem now is : she is not talking to me, and refused to talk with me. But she is not stopping me from talking to my son. I have asked if she has remarried, to which if she replies with a yes, I will settle my heart and look forward to plans with my son ONLY. However, she has not replied to me if she has remarried. So, I am sort of dangling now - and do not know if I should win her back, or well,... just drop her but only focus on my son. How do I go from here, Sir ?........ :?

first of all, if you like , I can contact her and ask her about you because it's important to talk to her and to know what if she remarried or not . if she not I see to go to Japan and you can make surprise to give a gift without knowing that you're coming.
I hope that I helped you

CLCK · 13 Jan 2010

iceman said:
first of all, if you like , I can contact her and ask her about you because it's important to talk to her and to know what if she remarried or not . if she not I see to go to Japan and you can make surprise to give a gift without knowing that you're coming.
I hope that I helped you

..iceman,... thank you for your offer to help,.. do you think a surprise visit with a gift will be good ? maybe I will arrange something more extravagant like putting together some people to go with me, just like in a wedding ? Do you think this will work ? :?

Red5 · 14 Jan 2010

CLCK said:
..iceman,... thank you for your offer to help,.. do you think a surprise visit with a gift will be good ? maybe I will arrange something more extravagant like putting together some people to go with me, just like in a wedding ? Do you think this will work ? :?

I think your idea will work . since she is your wife and you know how to deal with her more than my words . take with your flowers , you know , traditional way
it's kind of you if you tell me and will happen to you ...

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