Japanese Guys
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包龙星
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- 2 Feb 2007
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Obviously,it is unfair and not democratic ... but the society won't change right now (of course, it surely will change in the future)...so it is better to adapt yourself to it
- 8 Mar 2005
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Ahhh I completely forgot about that, as I'm a cool guy who needs no advice about women... (cough)... No, so why aren't all these Japanese Girls, Japanese Guys threads shoved in there?Well, there's 'love and relationship' advice...
Umu....
When I said that bishounen don't exist, I was saying that in the terms of how bishounen is interpreted from the outside as "bishies", male characters that exhibit an illicit femininity, bordering on homo-eroticism, that is a staple of the Visual / Oshare kei industry... Selling safe-beautiful boys to young girls, as apposed to the snarling "tough guys" you sometimes see in movies like Battle Royale I & II...
The funny part about Battle Royale, is that the lead character, who plays a very classic-bishounen character, one who is honourable, demure and weak, one who can not, could not, take advantage of a woman, becomes a sort of snarling tough guy in the sequel.
But, in reality, what males in actual society, attainable males, fit the image of bishounen?
I've seen one too many tired, weary salarymen to think there are many.
I think you are incorrect in everything that you are saying here...
Japanese women are strong women, they may seem demure to you, they may seem to be marginalized in the work force (they are--- but this is changing due to the labour crisis), but I dare anyone who has had an argument with a Japanese woman to claim they are demure.
I've not met any males who didn't wish for Japanese women to succeed... they often enough have jobs themselves so that the couples could even afford their living expenses... The age of men wishing that women simply stay home is not a reality--- the economy won't allow for it.
There are always traditional mores in society, but when it comes down to putting food on the table, and paying the utilities, reality trumps tradition.
maushan3
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- 1 Feb 2007
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I second that. Japan is an East Asian country, ones which are very masculine, by this I mean that by tradition, men once were more important than women. But Japan is different from other countries since it became a capitalist nation some decades ago. So this brought many opportunities for women, more education, jobs and just better overall quality of life.
I have never been to any country in Asia, but, I can rely on what I'm saying in the fact that China just over a decade ago, began havng a lot of abortions simply because people wanted boys as children, very sad, but now, as China is becoming a big economic power, things start to change. So now I expect things to be in Japan as equally for both men and women.
Mauricio
Grammarsaurus
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- 25 May 2007
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You're far too young to get serious about guys, in my opinion. I do understand why you find them appealing, however. I find my friend Minoru incredibly attractive, and have had a crush on him for years, but I love someone else. 
My advice, don't worry about finding a boyfriend of any ethnicity, for a few more years at least. Focus on fun kid things that you're still able to partake in. Honestly, kids try to grow up too fast these days.
My advice, don't worry about finding a boyfriend of any ethnicity, for a few more years at least. Focus on fun kid things that you're still able to partake in. Honestly, kids try to grow up too fast these days.
- 22 Apr 2007
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Course we want to grow up fast being a kid these days is hard everything goes wrong but there may be some good bits that i may have missed
raven_guest
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Growing up now is hard??? Can't say I found it easy when I did it (am still doing it) I'm 24 in July. (Though feel about 12!)
My parents wouldn't let me get my ears pierced until I was 16 (It lost the appeal when I was allowed to do it lol) so dating was uh...fun. I did have a boyfriend at 16, but it was a bit of a joke, he was older, but so immature. 19 and acting about 12.
As for J-men, I'm inclined to agree, they leave me weak. Obv I'm talking appearance wise as you can't categorize any group of people personality wise. Slim, dark hair, dark eyes *sigh* Tatsuya Fujiwara (Shuuya Nanahara)is supposed to be in the country at the mo, I'm setting my sights no where else heh heh heh
My parents wouldn't let me get my ears pierced until I was 16 (It lost the appeal when I was allowed to do it lol) so dating was uh...fun. I did have a boyfriend at 16, but it was a bit of a joke, he was older, but so immature. 19 and acting about 12.
As for J-men, I'm inclined to agree, they leave me weak. Obv I'm talking appearance wise as you can't categorize any group of people personality wise. Slim, dark hair, dark eyes *sigh* Tatsuya Fujiwara (Shuuya Nanahara)is supposed to be in the country at the mo, I'm setting my sights no where else heh heh heh
- 22 Apr 2007
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lol tatsuya Fujiwara is good looking but my i deal japanese guy has to be red/black hair dark eyes makes me laughs and likes me for who i am thats all im looking for
- 8 Mar 2005
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Is it too difficult to say "Japanese men" is that too long of a word? Also, I'm sure you've been warned but why in gods name did you think it was appropriate to have a signature so obnoxiously huge?
Honestly, you're going to be more likely to find another non-Japanese male that shares your interests than you'll find yourself magically sipping a soda out of two straws with some rarefied Japanese rock star... Dreaming of dating some manufactured bishie-omg-is-teh-love kawaii ^_^ boy or even his impersonator is just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
These aren't Japanese men, they are a product that you consume.
ed: I want to add that I understand that the idea of visual music is almost theatrical fantasy, at least that's my interpretation of it... If it's something that you enjoy, even when its borders on the dangerously obsessive side, well, I'm not going to stop you... but it crosses a line when you start making plans about dating based around your distorted image of Japanese males.
I hate to break it to you, and I honestly mean it, but it really only gets worse... The only thing that gets better is we stop having these crushes on unobtainable objects of desire, and start falling in love with real people who sometimes love us, sometimes drive us crazy, sometimes make us feel sad, even while in the same room.
Love is complicated... enjoy this part of your life, where crushes are safe. It's the future that you've got to worry about. All I can say is that sometimes I wish I could go back, knowing what I know now, to relive life all over again... If only...
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- 22 Apr 2007
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but thats the whole point of a crush desiring someone you cant have otherwise whats the point of a crush i have a crush on ruka and hitsugi but i no i cant have them thing is there is noone who wants me and if they did they dont dare tell me
- 8 Mar 2005
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Crushes are fun, and safe... and you don't have to worry right now about who does or doesn't want you. In fact, you should never worry about who might want you because you have to believe in yourself. All of this gets easier, love gets harder, but enjoy the safety of crushes for now, and stick w/ your schoolwork.
The waiting is the hardest part.
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so what why ruin things for people when thay need help?
Rukasprincess
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Dont worry about it if you want to ask peoples help then ask
kirei_na_me
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Don't get me started!! Dave, that could take me all day. Maybe when school lets out, I'll sit down and write about it. Of course, it wouldn't suit everyone...
Gosh, I've missed this place and its chaos...
- 5 Feb 2005
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Don't get me started!! Dave, that could take me all day. Maybe when school lets out, I'll sit down and write about it. Of course, it wouldn't suit everyone...
Gosh, I've missed this place and its chaos...
Welcome Back!
Well, do you have some points for us, in maybe 3-4 sentence what the main difference is between Japanese guys and Western guys?
My name is Tori I am a Marshal Arts teacher of young children, I love to paint, and draw, I am learning japanese so my english accent has sort of disapeared. I always wanted to date a japanese guy. It's kind of aqward for me to be asking this but.... if you like my add and you are between the age if 14-16 and you are japanese and a guy please message me. I am a little shy so dont be made. 
- 19 May 2007
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Hmmm... Yeah.... Japanese high school kids (guys) are more concerned with their hair and they wear makeup, thats right guys wearing makeup. What a bunch of girls, actually they do remind my of girls. They are immature b/c their parents are "窶ｰﾃ溪?｢ﾃ崘津ｬ" or they are wanna be rebles without a cause and that just dosen't work either. Oh , there are many who are heading in the right dirrection, but no girl will be able to steal their hearts b/c study and the future is way more important. My advise, wait until they get to at least 25 before you even start to take an intrest in them.
- 5 Feb 2005
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Sorry, I am studying Japanese but I am not that far on the Kanji yet, and I am sure that another 50-80% of all the members on this forum aren't that far either, so could you please translate that kanji for us? Thank you
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Kinsao
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- 8 May 2005
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I know this strays a little from the topic, but wearing or not wearing makeup is a cultural and fashion thing which doesn't ultimately link with masculinity/femininity (although currently it is indeed much less common for men than women to wear it). In England men went through a phase of wearing powdered wigs... who knows where fashions take us.
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Sounds like what Governor Arnold would call "girly-men." I know a guy who refers to them as "gayrods."
