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"find a Japanese friend to talk to everyday", but these aren't exactly things I can get at the grocery store.
Actually, finding a Japanese person to talk to on a regular basis is pretty easy. If you
are interested in making a Japanese friend for this purpose, head on over to
Japan Guide, where they have a wonderful website section totally dedicated to contacting and interacting with people in other countries. As soon as you load up the page, you'll see that there are plenty of filters to determine the age, gender, country and even interests of the people you'd like to reach out to.
I've found a few friends on there, and our Skype sessions were of colossal help to me in my endeavors in learning Japanese. Keep in mind, most of the Japanese on that site are also looking for penpals and
they want to learn/improve their English. Be sure you pick someone with similar interests, as it'll make for better conversations. Making friends in Japan is probably much easier than you think!
Then there are responses like, "Learning Japanese for anime is stupid"
I truly don't mean to discourage you, but that's actually true for most people. The reason is that learning Japanese -- or any language, for that matter -- is a huge undertaking, and that is something that very few people with this goal understand. It's one thing to want to be able to communicate with people in essential situations like in restaurants, stores, etc., but it's an entirely different beast when we're talking about fluency.
Like I said, I'm not trying to discourage you, but to keep yourself from being disappointed, you
do need to realize that learning Japanese is a pretty big project, and will take a couple years of diligent practice at the very least, if you're persistent. Language learning is a difficult, tedious process and requires a lot of patience. By all means, if you are serious about this, then you need to go for it and never doubt yourself.
Have you ever tried to learn Japanese for anime before?
No. I've been studying Japanese for about a year now with the intent of going there and being able to communicate with people instead of just having a regular tourist experience. Depending on what I find there after a few visits, I may decide to live there. I do enjoy anime and playing Japanese games, so learning Japanese has been a very rewarding experience for me.
If so, what was your experience with that? What worked? What didn't work? Why?
My experience with learning Japanese has been bumpy and challenging, though very rewarding whenever I make a "breakthrough" and understand more. What works is diligence and patience. There will be times when you feel like you've hit a "wall", and you can't possibly wrap your head around certain concepts, or perhaps a complex pronunciation for certain words or phrases. Even though those times can feel really desperate and discouraging, you need to press through it and keep practicing, no matter how difficult it may be to recall the words and the grammar rules. It absolutely, positively
WILL pay off to keep trying even when it gets incredibly challenging, and trust me, it will.
What
didn't work was thinking that I could get away with practicing once a week and being lazy about my learning. When you're trying to learn Japanese, you need to constantly try to apply what you know in real life. You can't just pick up fluency if the only time you use it is when you're sitting at your desk formally learning. When you see a car, think 車 instead. When you think of "I", think 私 instead. The words, the phrases and the concepts
will stick if you try to put them to practice in your head while you go about your day. For example, I used to struggle a lot with numbers, so I committed to ONLY reading my clock out loud and in Japanese whenever I had the privacy to do so. It helped a lot.
How much did it cost/time? I don't have that much money, I don't know if I can afford an expensive solution.
At the moment, the best tool I've used for learning spoken Japanese has been
Pimsleur's Japanese Lessons. They are pretty pricey, but I feel that they are a perfect start for anyone who is looking to learn Japanese in a structured way that will teach you important words and phrases, and show you how to put them to use in practice. Pay a visit to the
Japanese Language Learning Resource List on this site to check out other alternatives suggested by our members here in JRef. The prices and usefulness vary a lot.