Do Japanese women make good wives?

[nepaltreksguide]

thats is true!

I'm interested in a Japanese woman, and, if things ever head in the direction of marriage, I'd like to know what I might be getting in for because I know very little about Japanese culture (something I'm trying to change). I'd appreciate the wisdom of anyone who might have some information on the subject. Thanks.

me too like japanese girl for married.
ashok

 

[bruno]

...not for bad, brainless gaijins !!
( happy even after 25 years with my tsuma !!)

 

[donixa]

I love JP girls & womans !!

 

[orochi]

I sure hope mine does.

 

[tarutau]

um.... ouchies

looks like i might actually know that pandabeardragon and if so dude sorry about the emails and be sure they were purely nice. if idont know you all the better. but yeah had a situation happen like that were an ex of mine married this guy and we kept emailing eachother. she wanted an objective opinion on what to do and how to assimilate into the american culture. purely friendly talk. so dont judge such things so quickly. ask and learn first.

 

[MadamePapillon]

I can't believe this thread is still alive

 

[Sensationalist]

Huh ?

Oh my God! I'm wayyyy too feminist 2 be a good housewife. I literally wanted to jump thru the screen and punch the guys who stated those comments. :box:
There are many cultures that have the "perfect" wife according to some men not only Japanese. Mexicans, Indians, any latino race 2 be honest, etc. etc. However, these countries also are seen as oppressive when it comes to a woman's role in the family. There is quite a correlation between the two.
I'm Mexican but I was raised in the U.S. so I'm the complete opposite of the "perfect" housewife. My mom hates that about me. I don't cook very well, I don't clean, and I don't take care of my older brother when she's away (like feeding him, cleaning his room, washing his clothes, etc.). Let me just say this 2: my brother is 28.
Yeah I can c the feminist rising in some of you. Welcome to my world.

Latenight, It's time for you to go to bed with those theories.

If you were the bread winner and you earned enough to support the both of you(husband), and the two of you decided that HE was going to be a house husband then wouldn't you expect him to be able to do simple household chores like cooking and cleaning. It's called common sense Latenight, and it has nothing to do with being a feminazi ! If you lack the simple ability of knowing how to cook and clean then it's sheer laziness on your part - anybody can and should learn those things.

 

[scorpion da black]

i want to end up with a Japanese girl..i sure hope they make good wives

i want to search for a village girl who is learning kendo..and we can bring up samurai kids

 

[theAlphaDuck]

hmm ok don't express too much of an opinion eh?
☝
please let me re-phrase
before getting involved with ANYONE from ANY other country it is worth taking into account the culture that person is from.
in SOME cultures....let's say for arguments sake France... it is perfectly normal for a man to have a wife and a mistress, infact they even say in France
"If you marry your mistress you create a vacancy"
so before getting invloved with a girl from ANY other culture...
be sure to take a nice and CLOSE look as to certain issues...i.e. (and randomly chosen)
say INFIDELITY.
......find out if this IS NORMAL or not.
but of course it must be said that while IN 95% OF CASES
it could be one or the other, you cant tar all with the same brush. TRUE today as it was and will be.
as for crazyness....
some argue that it CAN BE determined by culture,
and it is said SOME will show MORE EXTREME personalities. but this is only a reflection on manifestation as aposed to any indication of actual levels of mental health in the general public and thus the word 'some' is underlined.
But once again one can't tar all with the same brush
thus one could not draw upon any ready conclutions regarding this matter
it is important to know...
and i draw this from MY OWN EXPERIENCE...
e.g. that often SELF HARMING can be used as a FORM OF CONTROL
thought it is not necessary that it WILL GET WORSE
however it may well be prudent in certain cases to LOSS IT
if someone you are with starts displaying extreme behavior.
you are a boyfriend/husband...not her therapist!
i had other things to say....
but must get back to my book...
it's called 1984....you REALLY should read it some time
there was more but yea.... WHAT CAN I SAY?
PEACE and GOOD LUCK!!!

 

[Emoni]

I like how a majority of people run for Japanese women always think of everything as a generality, and that everything is under the top key point of "hotness" with everything else being a far second.

 

[Mike Cash]

I like how a majority of people run for Japanese women always think of everything as a generality, and that everything is under the top key point of "hotness" with everything else being a far second.

I'll let you in on a little secret.

If all the young guys who have the hots to marry a Japanese women could be a fly on the wall when guys who have actually been married to Japanese women for a long time were sitting around talking frankly....they would run to Narita as fast as their little feet would take them.

A wise man, once remarked something to the effect that Japanese women look great on the showroom floor but marry one and she depreciates faster than a Cadillac.

 

[uchimizu]

I beg to disagree about men in France generally having a wife and a mistress.

hmm ok don't express too much of an opinion eh?
☝
please let me re-phrase
before getting involved with ANYONE from ANY other country it is worth taking into account the culture that person is from.
in SOME cultures....let's say for arguments sake France... it is perfectly normal for a man to have a wife and a mistress, infact they even say in France
"If you marry your mistress you create a vacancy"

I believe that if we went to a japanese forum for ladies, there would be a "international wedding" section with comments mirroring yours about the yound japanese girls wishing to marry an anglo-saxon foreigner, and who would better listen to the advices of ladies who went through it...

I'll let you in on a little secret.
If all the young guys who have the hots to marry a Japanese women could be a fly on the wall when guys who have actually been married to Japanese women for a long time were sitting around talking frankly....they would run to Narita as fast as their little feet would take them.
A wise man, once remarked something to the effect that Japanese women look great on the showroom floor but marry one and she depreciates faster than a Cadillac.

 

[orochi]

So far so good.

bla bla bla bla

 

[theAlphaDuck]

Diversity is there to be celebrated
There is NO right...and there is NO wrong!
There is only different.
But there is also a common theme that runs through ALL humanity.
Women tend to put thier men first in EVERY country in the world...
and FEMENISTS don't...from all over the world...
(tho it was quite funny to hear Germain Grear, the mother of Feminism, say that she had to choose between feminism and a happy marriage....and chose a happy marriage )
women are women the WORLD over...
but the culture they are from does make a difference...
and yes i would agree with the caddilac guy....
tho i will add that while 99% of caddy's may be worthless...
if you are LUCKY enough to find the one that once belonged to elvis and has his unreleased album in the glove box...then your on to a winner.
really it's about how you handle your woman...regardless of where she is from.
as for the french thing....
that's true as the sky is blue....
its not wrong....
it's just different...

 

[Emoni]

I'll let you in on a little secret.
If all the young guys who have the hots to marry a Japanese women could be a fly on the wall when guys who have actually been married to Japanese women for a long time were sitting around talking frankly....they would run to Narita as fast as their little feet would take them.
A wise man, once remarked something to the effect that Japanese women look great on the showroom floor but marry one and she depreciates faster than a Cadillac.

After only two years in Japan and seeing the women around me, I have to say I can agree here. Although I'll say my view is simple that finding a good woman, like finding good people, is damn rare. People suck every where in the world, and throwing in some "cultural differences" (using this word very LAX) and you have a disaster usually.

 

[alantin]

Although I'll say my view is simple that finding a good woman, like finding good people, is damn rare. People suck every where in the world..

Well.. That's cheerfull..

 

[nice gaijin]

You know you're being morose when the Finns are remarking on your pessimism!

 

[alantin]

Hmm.. Thanks!

I guess..


He is doing good!
Keep up the good work!

 

[KirinMan]

I'll let you in on a little secret.
If all the young guys who have the hots to marry a Japanese women could be a fly on the wall when guys who have actually been married to Japanese women for a long time were sitting around talking frankly....they would run to Narita as fast as their little feet would take them.
A wise man, once remarked something to the effect that Japanese women look great on the showroom floor but marry one and she depreciates faster than a Cadillac.

Lol here! It's sad to me in a way that guys get hooked on a "nationality" and an "image" and dont take enough time to care about the "woman".
We marry the woman and not the country.

Personally my wife is more like a Suzuki Lupin, small and sexy, but with plenty of kick in her turbo.

Fortunately she never took the "busu" or "debu" pill that seems to get passed around at 30 to many married women here.

 

[FrustratedDave]

We marry the woman and not the country.
Personally my wife is more like a Suzuki Lupin, small and sexy, but with plenty of kick in her turbo.
Fortunately she never took the "busu" or "debu" pill that seems to get passed around at 30 to many married women here.

LOL.

Mine is like a porsche, looks good but is difficult to drive, complains a lot and regulary breaks down.

 

[Emoni]

You know you're being morose when the Finns are remarking on your pessimism!

Well, there really isn't too many deep places this thread can go other than stressing generalities don't work well, or defining those generalities through statistics and claiming they do.

 

[Jake W]

No! I don't think so!
My wife took my two sons on a so called holiday back in January of 2009 and once there told me that she would not be returning. This is becoming a huge problem and as Japan still refuses to sign the Hague Convention, there is not a thing I can do! I certainly didn't see this coming. Japanese girlfriends are one thing, wives are another. Also, her mother plays a huge role in this mess and does her best to prevent my family and I from talking to my sons when attempting to make contact. As you can try and imagine, it has been extremely frustrating and stressful. Japan is a haven for abducted children and their government hasn't done a thing to change this despite coming under increasing pressure from Western governments. Be very careful guys!

 

[Emoni]

... and this "wonderful thread" takes another dramatic tragic turn!

 

[Jake W]

For any parent who can no longer make physical contact with his or her child, or worse still, no contact at all, I would have to agree and say that is very tragic!

 

[Jake W]

Child cus...doc