Do Japanese women make good wives?

[MadamePapillon]

I can only tell you what I've seen.
My Canadian and American white friends who have Japanese wives are very happy with them (some are even pround of that).
The following is a list of their most common comments (some maybe offensive to white women):
1. Japanese women don't get fat like American women.
2. Japanese women may not do all the housework but at least they cook. American women watch soap opera and serve hot-dogs with chips from Lays.
3. As much as Japanese women like shopping. They always put their kids and husbands first.
4. My J-wife rarely raises her voice at me like my ex-wife did.
5. My J-wife doesn't complain when I have to travel away because of work. She understands that the man has to earn a living.
Don't get mad at me, I am just telling what I have heard. I've never married to a J-girl so I can't tell you how true are the above statements.
But one time I went to a restaurant with my Japanese friend who had been married to her American husband for more than three years at the time. We each ordered a boiled lobster. My friend only ate the tail, the head and some of the claws and took the rest of the lobster home to her husband.
When her American husband was eating the lobster, he asked, " Which restaurant did you two go to ? They have very good lobster, lots of meat!"

This statement is really old but since the concepts still ring true today...


I'd say if these are your main reasons for marrying a japanese woman or searching for a japanese wife you are seriously misguided. Marriage is a PARTERSHIP, not the wife sacrificing herself for the enjoyment and happiness of her husband, cooking, cleaning, staying skinny after how many kids while the husband runs off and lives his life without her.

It sounds very much like all you and your friends (and so many other Western males) want are glorified servants. If that's the case than no wonder there are so many of them going on and on about what crappy wives Canadian/American women make, there are very few westen (or japanese) women willing to put up with that attitude for any extended amount of time.

It's time to stop living in the past buddy. That 'barefoot and pregnant' bit doesn't fly so well anymore. Sorry to burst your bubble.

 

[takoyaki girl]

hahahaha! well said...

 

[Haruspex]

Do Japanese women make good wives? hmmm... what do you mean by being a "good wife"? i think it all depends on your meaning about being a "good wife". does that mean she has to be willing to leave her work and take care of the family? being submissive to you?etc etc... cause the way i see it.. any woman from any country or race can be a good wife. you just have to be patient and careful though cause all the good things in life like a good and suitable wife are very hard to find.
gambatte ne!

I agree. But you ask what they want? You wrote clearly what they want, slaves, boring people want obedient and boring wives who do just what they were told by their parents, grandparents and their husband. While i don't care much about their lives, because they're responsible as well, i find it disgusting, sure let them do housework if thats what they want, but hell, we're living in the 21st century, and the meaning of family isn't what it used to be a hundred years ago. When some people say: "For the sake of the family i will do this much, and that much, and sacrifice this and that." i can only smile. We're living in a world of comfort (i don't mean the whole world, but those who live in complete poverty probably don't complain much about marriage, on the other hand they have to sacrifice much for their family.) honestly, you don't have to do much to be a normal parent, just take your child to kindergarten, go to work and thats it, sure you can stay with him if you've got the time and cash, but its not like he's going to shatter mentally if you're not around him all the time. Whenever you have the time spend it with him, but for God's sake, without work you can't feed your child now can you? And this makes it obvious, yes, this is where i get to my point, either make sure you can raise them without any difficulty, and with a minimal amount of complications, or don't have children at all, and if you already have children and it causes you problems, well its bad yeah, but the kid can handle a bit of stress too, i don't mean starvation and such, but surely its not that much of a problem if he grows up a bit earlier. Anyway, im probably wrong, i just hate the "We're so happy and boring." family stereotype.
And i must say this again, its so damn disgusting that some people think (probably they are wrong, i can't tell since i had no contact with Japan yet, but yeah, hope its wrong) that they should marry Japanese women for these ridiculous reasons. I mean what? are you Homer from the Simpsons? Don't you have any individualism in you? Sure you don't marry a dragon, thats true, but i think some people imagine marriage like a harem anime or something. And i guess that the people who bring this stuff up all are divorced, cause they married the first woman they met after leaving the graduation ceremony of high school. Well whatever, all i can say, slavedriver types, just don't marry, its the 21st century, so your only hope is like Pakistan or Iran, so start buying camels folks.

 

[takoyaki girl]

i myself is not the type who will drop everything just for a man.. well a sensible, sensitive, confident man would never ask me to do anything like that. for someone independent and who loves individuality i find it pathetic. but there are some women who doesn't mind leaving everything behind for the sake of their family, they dont mind leaving their work, doing house hold chores, doing the grocery, taking care of the kids to make sure they grow up well. we can't blame these women cause weather we like it or not they are happy doing these things. well of course except to those who are just being forced by their husbands. in the end, it' s just about finding somone who shares the same feelings, principles and out look in life with you.

 

[Haruspex]

In the end? In the end we don't know what the hell's it about. Sure if there's Ede/Heaven/Promised Land or anything like it, than it probably pays out to be a humble wife/husband, but if we just decompose, than we live in the egoists paradise, and in my opinion, i'd rather spend a couple of years in the purgatorium regretting that i've lived my life for myself, than not being to regret a thing cause i've rotten away lol.
Conformists start to bore me. Why oh why would it matter to a person if the food is ready, the house is bloody shining, or anything like that? I just don't get it. People make life complicated for themselves. When i just look at my own family: My mother didn't cook yet, my father's starving with a pale face, but no, no way, he wouldn't go and find himself something to eat, nah, he's ready to sit there until my mother prepares food, or until he starves to death, simply cause for him, a simple sandwich, or something isn't satisfactory (come on tell me, is there anything better than bread and blue cheese/nice rotten camembert?). And when i get hungry and get something outta the freezer, he's like "Can you eat it like THAT? Its cold ahmygawd." It just makes me laugh, we (human society, civilization, call whatever you wish) became so damn soft and lazy. On weekends when i wake up and find my parents drinking coffee with their "We're so happy about each other" expression in their "We're so happy about each other" mood, i just wanna puke. Sure good for them, they feel nice, but God, isn't it a bloody cliché? It is, but still people all over the world seem to be enjoying it... i just can't get the answer, why is it? Why would you sacrifice your personal freedom just to be able to call each other by some "sweet" name in the morning?
Well whatever, hope im not the only one who thinks this way.

 

[SushiShin]

Japanese girls and women?

Well, since there are too manty comments to read, i will just say what i think about. There are many people who experience problems, mistakes,regrets and we all have our bad and good days, i'm total different, i like Japanese girls because they are easygoing people, and if you have problems that you wanna want to discuss with someone else, they are the perfect people, i have never heard from someone else that they were gratefull for the things i do, sometimes people consider me as japanese sometimes not, and i don't mind what they say, its just like wind that goes in one ear and back away in the other. If i would married a girl then it shall be 99% japanese or 1% other nationality. I think everyone makes mistakes and they regret from what they did. But never forget be good for anything that comes in your direction, in my younger days (lol i speak like an old guy now (>.<) ) i was always alone and i saw the emptyness in my heart, that there wasn't nobody to wait for me that is LONELYNESS! That your wife drinks, that she is suical you cannot udno that, its her character that is who she is, but be pleased she is there, that there is someone to hang on with you untill the day you leave this world. Be good to everything.

Shin :Japanese girls? Definetly! i wouldn't hesitate, but one thing i remembered now, when i go for one i must test her before marrying her, otherwise im broke before i even know it

My last words: Love is what connects us and love is in any languages the same,nor race, nor skincolour, we all speak the same language, and thats is the language of love ​

 

[kireikoori]

Am I the only one who thinks it's strange that so many guys think Japanese girls are perfect submissive girls who don't get fat, look like supermodels, ect.

Come on every country has it's bitchy, mean, fat, fugly girls.

Submissive? That's not a good quality, that's being someone's *****. D:

I've heard plenty of good and bad experiences about Japanese girls. And well...that's because Japan is a country just like any other. Not another planet.

Why do people make topics like this?

I like Japanese women as much as the next guy. Well maybe not quite as much as the next guy, but I agree that they have alot of pretty women..but I don't think they act different from anyone else.

This whole submissive thing that some people say is creepy. D:

 

[SushiShin]

Everyone is different, everyone has his/her own dreams, his/her own idea's.
And i respect that just like i think everyone has to respect everyone.
Gay/Straight/Black/White/Yellow/Fat/Nice/Ugly/Skinny......

those are who the people and don't argue it, never laugh at somebody's handicap and never hurt someone because he/she is different, there is a movie without many words, there is only music and sad scene's its about life and life after death. This movie is called Casshern, and this is one of the reasons why i like the movie.

No matter who we are or what we do we are connected to each other and everyone has his/her own taste. If I like only japanese girls then it has a reason, if somebody likes fanta instead of cola then it was his/her own reason.

Can you separate good from bad?

No, im sorry nobody can, not even the most intelligent people on earth.

Live and be happy to live, love and you will be loved back, do good to people and you'll be reward someday.

Enjoy your life, that is the dream of us all, and then when you are old, you'll find that small measure of peace, that we all seek but few of us ever find.

 

[Han Chan]

Am I the only one who thinks it's strange that so many guys think Japanese girls are perfect submissive girls who don't get fat, look like supermodels, ect.

Come on every country has it's bitchy, mean, fat, fugly girls.

Submissive? That's not a good quality, that's being someone's *****. D:

I've heard plenty of good and bad experiences about Japanese girls. And well...that's because Japan is a country just like any other. Not another planet.

Why do people make topics like this?

I like Japanese women as much as the next guy. Well maybe not quite as much as the next guy, but I agree that they have alot of pretty women..but I don't think they act different from anyone else.

This whole submissive thing that some people say is creepy. D:

I agree. The question seems insulting. It is like the question has been worded just like if the question were: Do Sony make good TVs?

This thresd was silly to begin with, but actually it turned out to be a quite nice one.

 

[Haruspex]

Am I the only one who thinks it's strange that so many guys think Japanese girls are perfect submissive girls who don't get fat, look like supermodels, ect.

Come on every country has it's bitchy, mean, fat, fugly girls.

Submissive? That's not a good quality, that's being someone's *****. D:

I've heard plenty of good and bad experiences about Japanese girls. And well...that's because Japan is a country just like any other. Not another planet.

Why do people make topics like this?

I like Japanese women as much as the next guy. Well maybe not quite as much as the next guy, but I agree that they have alot of pretty women..but I don't think they act different from anyone else.

This whole submissive thing that some people say is creepy. D:

Thats cause some people can't remain in their own world of illusions, i mean sure, some people don't like this world, don't like how things are, but thats not a big problem, the crap begins when they project their desires on something they find to be of higher level or higher whatever, call it whatever you wish, in a nutshell they find Japan, and Japanese culture something transcendent, pure etc. etc. Truth is that they don't give a damn about it, they are too afraid to realize reality because they would have to discard the illusions that help them, aid them through their days. And thats why they ask dumb questions, they do it because they hope that someone will respond to it, someone will confirm in what even though they don't believe in subconsciously. That kinda people just ask if Japanese wives are better, or confirm it, they draw a picture on which all wives are black and only Japanese ones white, its pretty much a campfire of retardedness around which they spread their false beliefs and feel pr0. One thing is for certain, the human mind is too complex to be categorized, in truth stereotypes only live in one's imagination.

And let me add one more thing... if i were a Japanese woman, i'd surely be pissed about all this stuff, after all this all turns out to be some philosophical experiment or something, and you can guess who play the role of samples. In my opinion there's no point discussing Japanese wives anymore. After all this if there are still people who say "Japanese wives are teh best, American wives are zeh fat and ugleh." All i can say is that they are retarded, i probably shouldn't say it, but someone who doesn't understand such a simple thing after this much discussion surely projects his world onto reality, and we simply can't help it. Just accept it, no wives are that much different.
And if you had bad experience with your Japanese wife... well tough luck, be more careful choosing your wife in your next life, that is if there is such a thing. Japanese wives are not to be blamed because your wife is a harpy, its just how things turned out.

 

[tokapi]

It's time to stop living in the past buddy. That 'barefoot and pregnant' bit doesn't fly so well anymore. Sorry to burst your bubble.

.... clap .... clap .... clap ....

 

[MadamePapillon]

I think the saddest part is that many people don't really seem to think about japanese girls/women as people (at least that's what the attitude seems to be conveying). You hear a lot about how cute they are, how submissive, how user friendly so to speak, almost as if they were blowup dolls that aren't much good for anything but looking pretty.

Not a whole lot of people talk about their personalities...or much anything aside from marriage or shopping. Japanese girls love to shop and they make good wives, that's about all you ever hear. Talk about being stuck in deep dark pit of non-expectation.

 

[bakaKanadajin]

I think the saddest part is that many people don't really seem to think about japanese girls/women as people (at least that's what the attitude seems to be conveying). You hear a lot about how cute they are, how submissive, how user friendly so to speak, almost as if they were blowup dolls that aren't much good for anything but looking pretty.

Not a whole lot of people talk about their personalities...or much anything aside from marriage or shopping. Japanese girls love to shop and they make good wives, that's about all you ever hear. Talk about being stuck in deep dark pit of non-expectation.

I'd have to agree with this statement, a lot of the time Japanese women and even Japan is viewed as this commodity that everyone would like to have a piece of. It does go both ways though, I've heard it argued that gaijin boyfriends are the ultimate accessory for some Japanese girls. But I think there's still a difference there. Even if the gaijin accessory approach is true, it's still not marriage. However, marrying based on the utility you think a woman is going to present you with is a little harsher in my opinion just because you're talking about a serious financial, emotional and time committment as well as the possibility of children. The 'cool' factor that exists when two people from different cultures date is healthy, but I don't think it should be a deciding factor, there's obviously more to marriage than that.

 

[Haruspex]

Yeah but when you look at it, the people who are obsessed with Japanese wives are mostly the ones that:

-Can't find Japanese study material no matter how hard, and long they look.
-Really really really want to learn Japanese, so much that they don't forget to mention it twice a day at least, six times on weekends.
-Will (not can, not want to, but WILL, BLOODY PREDESTINATION) travel to Japan in a couple of weeks, or months, in the worst (but sadly most realistic) case years.
-Talk about anything Japan-related with as many emoticons that it could match the amount of people who fell in Verdun during the 1st WW.
-Watched 4 episodes of Dragonball (Dragonball is disgusting, please don't watch it) and believe that every single Japanese girl will fall for them if they have a haircut like Vegita.
-Learnt half of the hiragana characters, but already are writing them everywhere in their class, or workplace.

You can figure out the rest, they have plenty of characteristics.
And before i get lynched, because i don't know a thing about Japan (which is true when it comes to modern society in actual live situations), i don't claim to know anything other than what is obvious, and evident even for someone who never experienced a day in Japan. While i had fun writing these characteristics, please note, if you feel offended about them, you probably believe that i direct these few rows at you (generally speaking to folks). If thats the case than you pretty much walked into the trap because you already know that you belong to the enchanted, seduced, rising-sun-worshipping masses. Im sorry, this is harsh, but i had to write it in case someone jumped at my throat.

And another thing about going into Japan. If you plan to go, you probably shouldn't boast about it, not because its not true, or we're jealous, its simple plain sense, normally one doesn't show off and boast when can't prove a thing. Thats it, im ready for the lynch court

 

[SushiShin]

Lol, you are quite right, but in the reality it is like he said folks!
He took the words out of my mouth and he wrote them down.
Except there is one thing he forgot, there are people who had bad luck and who suffered a lot of misery and they want something they always see over the head, for example a black guy said before he never wants an asian girl and he always wanted a latino girl and at the end he is together with an asian girl

so let's say : Never say 'Never'

and yes, there are also people who are different, but they are quite normal like everyone else but still they like only one population, does that made them different from anyone else? just because he likes only one specific culture?

To be honest, i think we have to listen to other people before biting to each other or drawing a katana or whatever....
Listen first, then think what there has been said, and then write.
i've learned a lot in such a small periode, that i won't kick myself again twice to the same rock.

Japanese girls are nice and they are cute yes yes, but there are japanese girls who are like anyone else, bitchy,jealous etc....

But what i think every girl has also a good side no matter what she is black,yellow,white... old,young.... big,small.... we all have a heart and we will all help each other if we are in need.

So i'll repeat a phrase what i consider as the most important in our lives.

Love everyone and everyone will love you, learn to love and love will learn from you.

 

[Haruspex]

You don't have to love everyone, but we all have a stupid side, all we should do is just spare each other from our retarded side and thats all.

 

[SushiShin]

that would be a good anwser too, but i'll add more, spare each other from the madness and the anger we bring over. Speak and write gentile, be friendly as most you can and everything will falls into place.

 

[Haruspex]

We can be nice and gentle, but not every single time, sure so people can be, but when you see the ignorance and endless stupidity of some people there's a point where you just say: "Enough, now im PISSED!" I'd say be gentle to those that are nice, gentle, polite and friendly to you and your friends, all the rest, the ignorant masses... let them sink or swim. All this is probably a taboo, but i dare say that i don't care about the well being of those that are hostile towards me, with an ill intent of course. But of course being gentle, kind and helpful towards those that are worthy is the least, one can do, its what one has to do. So yeah, i have to agree with Herbal Shin on that part.

 

[grounded in japan]

well i have some practical experience of what it's like being married to a Japanese wife andof Japan as well. i have been married to my wife and living in Japan for 7 years now and 5 years before that we met in New Zealand, and lived in Hong Kong and Holland as well before coming to Japan and settling down.

i love travelling and i spent a couple of years backpacking in India, Nepal and Thailand, all of which really interested me, but not good places to live especially. i have never been interested in Japan before i came here and knew little about it, but i have made a point of learning about it's history and culture as well as studying Japanese people and their charactures and habits.

every country has it's own characturistics and i think it is actually quite fair to say certain things in general. i do think most Japanese women make good wives, they don't get fat if they're not large build already and they are usually very industrious and nowhere near as big mouthed as western or other women. this is very generalized and the individual characture of a women from anywhere is what is important.

neither my wife, or i (i'm from the UK) are especially typical of our nationalities, but we both do of course have some characturistics from our respective backgrounds. in the case of my wife, she is so energetic, works 6 days a week for example, sorting out the kids in the morning and evening in addition, is always happy and kind and is simply the most wonderful woman i could have hoped to have met (we met quite by chance)

i agree with the posts that say you have to take a woman on her merits regardless of nationality, but this is just my personal opinion. the difficulty with a western man making a Japanese woman his wife would be, in my opinion, that she would probably have to speak reasonable English, which eliminates 99% of all Japanese women, and be interested in foreign culture and travel, which eliminates a few more. i do have an American friend who lives near Tokyo who is married to a Japanes woman and he says if he had his time again, he wouldn't do it as he got stuck living in Japan and working for corporate Japan, but i'm a lot luckier than him.

just my opinion and experience.

 

[SushiShin]

Japanese women make very good wives, but like i state before, everyone is different you have some bad too. But remember its not because there is one rotten apple in the basket that it means they are all rotten apples.

IMHO, i like japanese girls very much, but sometimes i also wanna have something else. I'm young i have still time, now i'm gonna enjoy life then when the time comes i'll marry a girl from japan, but like i also said. Never say never.

Peace and love.

Shin*

 

[Haruspex]

I'm young i have still time

Hehe, the blessing of the 21st century, people realize that their lives are not about reproducing The seed of egoism has been sown. To avoid misunderstanding, im just glad to hear something like that.

 

[Rontaz]

?

I can only tell you what I've seen.
My Canadian and American white friends who have Japanese wives are very happy with them (some are even pround of that).
The following is a list of their most common comments (some maybe offensive to white women):
1. Japanese women don't get fat like American women.2. Japanese women may not do all the housework but at least they cook. American women watch soap opera and serve hot-dogs with chips from Lays.
3. As much as Japanese women like shopping. They always put their kids and husbands first.
4. My J-wife rarely raises her voice at me like my ex-wife did.
5. My J-wife doesn't complain when I have to travel away because of work. She understands that the man has to earn a living.Don't get mad at me, I am just telling what I have heard. I've never married to a J-girl so I can't tell you how true are the above statements.
But one time I went to a restaurant with my Japanese friend who had been married to her American husband for more than three years at the time. We each ordered a boiled lobster. My friend only ate the tail, the head and some of the claws and took the rest of the lobster home to her husband.
When her American husband was eating the lobster, he asked, " Which restaurant did you two go to ? They have very good lobster, lots of meat!"

I do not agree with the above do you know all japanese woman ? and american woman?
I think if you end up with a woman you are not compatible with then that is your own fault most of the times .. Most ppl are jumping in and out of bed with everybody before they even know who the person actually is , what he/she stands for , believes , his or her past ,and how they think about things. I dont now the situation in Japan but for me its like "Be yourself "wot you see is wot you get if you do that then there will be no misunderstanding and ppl dont get any suprises later when the masks falls of.

Greetings

Ron

 

[Haruspex]

The funniest thing in my opinion is that american woman can mean pretty much any and every race hehe. So, now which is he talking about?

 

[Han Chan]

The funniest thing in my opinion is that american woman can mean pretty much any and every race hehe. So, now which is he talking about?

AMERCAN WOMAN
Lenny Kravitz

Huh!
American woman
Stay away from me
American woman
Mama let me be
Dont come hare hanging around my door
I dont want to see your face no more
I got more important things to do
Than spend my time growin old with you
Now woman
Stay away
American woman
Listen what I say

American woman
Get away from me
American woman
Mama let me be
Dont come here knocking around my door
I dont want to see your shadow no more
Colored lights can hypnotize
Sparkle someone elses eyes
Now woman
Get away
American woman
Listen what I say

Huh!
American woman
I said get way
American woman
Listen what I say
Dont come hanging around my door
Dont want to see your face no more
I dont need your war machines
I dont need your ghetto scenes
Colored lights can hypnotize
Sparkle someone elses eyes
Now woman
Get away
American woman
Listen what I say

American woman
Get away from me
American woman
Mama let me be
I gotta go
I gotta get away
And I gotta go
I wanna fly away

Im gonna leave you, woman
Im gonna leave you, woman
Im gonna leave you, woman
Im gonna leave you, woman

Bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye

American woman
Youre no good for me
And Im no good for you
American woman
Im looking at you right in the eye
And tell you what Im gonna do
American woman

Im gonna leave you woman
You know I gotta go

Im gonna leave you woman
I gotta go
Iiiiii gotta go
I gotta go american woman yeah

 

[longtailedmonkey]

AS LONG as the person you marry is human, it doesn't matter whether she is Japanese, Taiwanese or Chinese or Indian or Thai. As long as you can adjust to the unique culture she lives in and she is able to adjust to your unique lifestyle, you'll do fine!

I mean, you don't fall in love with just the looks or the brains. You fall in love with everything. It isn't love if it's only loving one part, if you love, you take everything, the person, the family, the lifestyle, everything, because you love that person.