This is a bit of a long post, please bear with me.
Tldr;
girl I met in Japan and I went out a lot, is very passionate, talkative, shows signs, but then tells me she has a boyfriend. Yet, she is still not hesitant to go out with me 1 on 1 all this time and doesn't plan on stopping.
Fuller story:
A while ago, while I was on a holiday trip to Japan, I met a lovely half-half Japanese/Asian girl through a friend of a friend of mine (let's call this friend^2, "F"). She was coming to exchange in Australia for a year and would like to meet some local university students before she arrives. Being the friendly neighbourhood spid... local, I promised to bring her around the city and show her places/festivals unique to our country/city.
Our first encounter was in Japan through "F" at a dinner. After we arrived in Australia, we went out (in order), to two different festivals (just the two of us), to two different events (with our mutual friends), to a dinner restaurant together then studied at her dorm (us two), another festival that's as early as 6 am in the morning then brunched then went shopping together (us two). Since she's not careful with her diet, I occasionally would cook proper meals for her, together in her dorm/baked her desserts despite I live out of campus. She also made me food twice. This is all within a month and a half after I first met her in Japan. Our relationship grew a lot closer since the first time we've met.
She is a down to earth girl and not materialistic, judging from the actions I've seen from our "dates". Once or twice I paid for her food but she normally pays for her own food. She laughs a lot when we talk, occasionally stand very close to me (which puts her head close to my chest), gave me "the looks" (i caught her watching me multiple times when I was distracted over i.e. the music performance in the stage). I feel very easy and comfortable around her, and I really like her. In fact, I had planned to ask her for the boyfriend-girlfriend-approval during the morning festival "date"... until it fell apart a week before the "date".
That night I messaged her the -wyd-, for which she replied to me that she was talking to her boyfriend since it's his birthday. She further solidifies the statement by saying she messed up the time zones and wished him hbd early, and that her boyfriend does the same university courses as "F". I have never heard anything about her bf previously. Many times I tried to slide in questions about who her boyfriend is and what he's like, however she avoided answering most of it, except for the information I gathered above, and the time when I asked if her bf has a good impression of me, where she says yes and that she tells her boyfriend about me every day. I proceeded to brush off the topic of her boyfriend and I kept this already well-established friendship the same as always.
On the day for the morning festival, brunch and shopping, the sleepy head her who usually wakes up at 12 pm woke up at 6 am. While deep down I'm hurting throughout the day, I acted like everything's fine - just the way like it had always been. We had a "great time", took photos, and had a lot to talk about. The usual clingyness remains. By the time we were done shopping, in the afternoon, I offered to drive her home. During the drive, we came across a museum, for which I told her it's popular yet I have never been to, so I can't recommend her to go visit. Without hesitation, she immediately suggested going there together [sometime near future]. Later, our conversations in the car led to us making bets, for which she suggests that if I lose I'd bring her out for the dinner place I brought her to before, vice versa (that's a smart excuse for a date btw).
Initially, I thought maybe it's time for me to give up on her. I thought I should stop seeing her (especially if it's one on one) this often, right after the morning "date" that was previously planned ahead. I'm heartbroken and it hurts me mentally every time I see her and the thought of her relationship status pops into my brain.
After she popped in the signs for more future "dates" in the car ride, I'm seriously lost. Is it really fine for me to be hanging out with a girl (as a pair) this often, despite she is taken?
Thank you for reading this far, it's long, but I am desperately seeking help from you guys. What are your thoughts? Do you think she sees me more than just a friend, or am I imagining? Am I a "will boyfriend" perhaps? Is that "boyfriend" of hers a decoy/test? Would Japanese girls initiate dates with guys even though they are taken - even though they are known (is biased) to ignore guys that they don't/ can't show interest?
I love her very much and I can't get her out of my mind. What are your suggestions about my next move?
Fyi I'm Asian (sorry about my ingrish) and we are both in our early 20's.
Looking forward to see some replies. Once again thank you for reading this far!
Tldr;
girl I met in Japan and I went out a lot, is very passionate, talkative, shows signs, but then tells me she has a boyfriend. Yet, she is still not hesitant to go out with me 1 on 1 all this time and doesn't plan on stopping.
Fuller story:
A while ago, while I was on a holiday trip to Japan, I met a lovely half-half Japanese/Asian girl through a friend of a friend of mine (let's call this friend^2, "F"). She was coming to exchange in Australia for a year and would like to meet some local university students before she arrives. Being the friendly neighbourhood spid... local, I promised to bring her around the city and show her places/festivals unique to our country/city.
Our first encounter was in Japan through "F" at a dinner. After we arrived in Australia, we went out (in order), to two different festivals (just the two of us), to two different events (with our mutual friends), to a dinner restaurant together then studied at her dorm (us two), another festival that's as early as 6 am in the morning then brunched then went shopping together (us two). Since she's not careful with her diet, I occasionally would cook proper meals for her, together in her dorm/baked her desserts despite I live out of campus. She also made me food twice. This is all within a month and a half after I first met her in Japan. Our relationship grew a lot closer since the first time we've met.
She is a down to earth girl and not materialistic, judging from the actions I've seen from our "dates". Once or twice I paid for her food but she normally pays for her own food. She laughs a lot when we talk, occasionally stand very close to me (which puts her head close to my chest), gave me "the looks" (i caught her watching me multiple times when I was distracted over i.e. the music performance in the stage). I feel very easy and comfortable around her, and I really like her. In fact, I had planned to ask her for the boyfriend-girlfriend-approval during the morning festival "date"... until it fell apart a week before the "date".
That night I messaged her the -wyd-, for which she replied to me that she was talking to her boyfriend since it's his birthday. She further solidifies the statement by saying she messed up the time zones and wished him hbd early, and that her boyfriend does the same university courses as "F". I have never heard anything about her bf previously. Many times I tried to slide in questions about who her boyfriend is and what he's like, however she avoided answering most of it, except for the information I gathered above, and the time when I asked if her bf has a good impression of me, where she says yes and that she tells her boyfriend about me every day. I proceeded to brush off the topic of her boyfriend and I kept this already well-established friendship the same as always.
On the day for the morning festival, brunch and shopping, the sleepy head her who usually wakes up at 12 pm woke up at 6 am. While deep down I'm hurting throughout the day, I acted like everything's fine - just the way like it had always been. We had a "great time", took photos, and had a lot to talk about. The usual clingyness remains. By the time we were done shopping, in the afternoon, I offered to drive her home. During the drive, we came across a museum, for which I told her it's popular yet I have never been to, so I can't recommend her to go visit. Without hesitation, she immediately suggested going there together [sometime near future]. Later, our conversations in the car led to us making bets, for which she suggests that if I lose I'd bring her out for the dinner place I brought her to before, vice versa (that's a smart excuse for a date btw).
Initially, I thought maybe it's time for me to give up on her. I thought I should stop seeing her (especially if it's one on one) this often, right after the morning "date" that was previously planned ahead. I'm heartbroken and it hurts me mentally every time I see her and the thought of her relationship status pops into my brain.
After she popped in the signs for more future "dates" in the car ride, I'm seriously lost. Is it really fine for me to be hanging out with a girl (as a pair) this often, despite she is taken?
Thank you for reading this far, it's long, but I am desperately seeking help from you guys. What are your thoughts? Do you think she sees me more than just a friend, or am I imagining? Am I a "will boyfriend" perhaps? Is that "boyfriend" of hers a decoy/test? Would Japanese girls initiate dates with guys even though they are taken - even though they are known (is biased) to ignore guys that they don't/ can't show interest?
I love her very much and I can't get her out of my mind. What are your suggestions about my next move?
Fyi I'm Asian (sorry about my ingrish) and we are both in our early 20's.
Looking forward to see some replies. Once again thank you for reading this far!