Since I'm not Japanese, what are my chances of getting a Japanese girlfriend?

[Shin Asura]

I hear that a lot of the Japanese parents don't like their children dating Americans. I have a few Japanese girls that I go out with as friends. If I think things are going in the right direction and I ask one of them to be my girlfriend, what are the chances that she'll say yes.

Do a lot of Japanese girls listen to their heart or do they listen to their parents?

I have a friend in Japan that married a Japanese girl, he's white. I'm black, so I don't know if that will lower my chances at all, I'm thinking yes, but I don't really care anymore.

Be honest please, I don't like sugar coated answers.

 

[PopCulturePooka]

Honest?

Want an honest answer?

Here it is. Stupid question that seems to be based on stereotyped assumtptions.

Like the usual answer that pops up to this frequent question I have to say that it all depends on the girl at hand.

Some Japanese girls won't date a foreigner at all, others won't because mummy and daddy say no, others will hide their boyfriend from their parents and others still date exclusively foreign guys and won't even look sideways at a Japanese man. I've also seen plenty of black guys in Tokyo with gorgeous Japanese girlfriends so I don't think theres a problem there.

Just talk to the girls ya like. Take the risk.

ESPECIALLY if they are in America, or even more,, Japanese-Americans.

 

[King of Tokyo]

My advice. Visit Black Tokyo. And use the search button.. There are SO many threads like this already.. Heh.

 

[Shin Asura]

Wow, the things you can find out by just asking.

Arigatou gozaimasu

 

[StarCrap]

Black Tokyo?? ....haha

 

[budd]

"There are SO many threads like this already..."
HERE and there? quite true

 

[Apollo]

I hear that a lot of the Japanese parents don't like their children dating Americans. I have a few Japanese girls that I go out with as friends. If I think things are going in the right direction and I ask one of them to be my girlfriend, what are the chances that she'll say yes.

Do a lot of Japanese girls listen to their heart or do they listen to their parents?

I have a friend in Japan that married a Japanese girl, he's white. I'm black, so I don't know if that will lower my chances at all, I'm thinking yes, but I don't really care anymore.

Be honest please, I don't like sugar coated answers.

As you may have noticed, (and budd has pointed out), there are many threads on this topic...If you use the search button, you will find many and I am sure you will find some of the feedback useful.

IMHO, I don't think you can generalise the whole Japanese population, or for that matter, all Japanese girls. Some like Americans, some not, some parents are open about having foreign son- or daugther-in-laws, some not etc...they are all individuals...

 

[niku kudasai]

Although things are changing, you're still going to find that parents in japan tend to be more conservative than parents in the states. Keep in mind that that is a generalization and that there is no way to know for sure unless you are in that situation. I got lucky, and my ex-girlfriend's (she's Japanese) parents accepted me without question (I'm caucasian, by the way), and my parents loved my ex-girlfriend as well. They just trusted her judgement enough to be satisfied with her decision. I don't want to sound like a jerk, but you may even find that being black will make things even harder for you. I've had lots and lots of Japanese friends who've said their parents wouldn't mind them dating a white guy, but they might have a problem with a black guy. But again, I can't stress enough that this is only a generalization.

As long as you're a good enough guy and treat your girl with the respect that she hopefully deserves, you'll eventually, if not immediately, find yourself in a great relationship with parental approval—best of luck to you.

 

[Winter]

Ever notice that people tend to repeat posts over and over?

I mean, firsthousepooka said all that needed to be said, and people added in their own identical comments anyway.

Strange.

 

[Apollo]

I think this is a common thing in a forum, especially when the posters all agree on something...they utter their opinion in their own words...however I do somtimes get bored reading repetitive posts, but again, I think it is great to read what other people think about different topics...

 

[King of Tokyo]

Black Tokyo?? ....haha

What the hell is so funny about that? It is a site for African-Americans in Japan, is that so unbelievable? Why do you find humor in that?

 

[Winter]

KoT: I LOVE you're sig and avatar.

 

[StarCrap]

What the hell is so funny about that? It is a site for African-Americans in Japan, is that so unbelievable? Why do you find humor in that?

Relax, getting all hyped up about my own humor way.

As for the Euro-Asian and Euro-others I never thought what they would be called.

 

[kirei_na_me]

Back on topic, please...even though we've gone over this topic several times before...

 

[Knives]

There is alot of threads like this but if you want an answer then it just depends on the girl at hand if shes intrested she will most likely want to do somthing and there are those japanese girls who listen to their parents and marry to their choices but if you want a japanese girlfriend then just go for it thats the only way to know

 

[Master X]

Japanese girls are dead sexy! I simply can't take my eyes off them (too cute)! hehehe!

I acutually had the same problem as Mr. Asura; damn it seems almost impossible. Maybe my manners will get me somewhere.

 

[PopCulturePooka]

Impossible in the same way that its impossible to get hit by a car if you dance on the freeway at rush hour.

 

[kirei_na_me]

Impossible in the same way that its impossible to get hit by a car if you dance on the freeway at rush hour.

Hahaha...

 

[dreamer]

My...my...It looks like you guys want to go out with a japanese girl only because she'd be japanese...sigh...there're cute girls everywhere, you just have to find them.
As for me, what'd attract me is more likely manners/character than appearance...

 

[King of Tokyo]

Impossible in the same way that its impossible to get hit by a car if you dance on the freeway at rush hour.

Hahaha.. Haha.. Nice.

 

[Master X]

My...my...It looks like you guys want to go out with a japanese girl only because she'd be japanese...sigh...there're cute girls everywhere, you just have to find them.
As for me, what'd attract me is more likely manners/character than appearance...

Of course a gal should have class and respect its just that they are really cute; sometimes you can't have all the good characteristics of a perfect woman.

 

[PaulTB]

Ever notice that people tend to repeat posts over and over?

Hmm, not really.

But have you ever noticed that posts of very similar content are often posted many times into the same thread?

/me Runs and hides ...

 

[StarCrap]

I was just thinking, instead of dating just Japanese women...why not the other Asians?

 

[Flashjeff]

Well, as butt-ugly (and old) as I am, I know I wouldn't stand a snowball chance in you-know-where of landing a girlfriend of ANY species, never mind Japanese!

 

[dreamer]

I was just thinking, instead of dating just Japanese women...why not the other Asians?

Some people are weird it can't be helped
They're ready to do anything for JAPANESE and only JAPANESE women