I used to be an active member on this website back when I was first studying Japanese. I logged in today on a whim.
I was touched and saddened to read this news, as I never had the pleasure of meeting Oliver, aka Mars Man, in person, but remember his avatar and activity on this site very fondly.
I remember his posts and how informative and enjoyable he made these forums. I quite enjoyed being here thanks to his contributions, and he even kindly invited me to one of his famed BBQs, which I unfortunately could not attend as we all know what it can be like getting time off as an English teacher.
I'm older now with a Japanese/Western family of my own, and I can recall all of my friends from my Japan days, some still in Japan and some who repatriated, some with Japanese spouses, children of mixed heritage....what rich times we had, what great families we have become. I am reminded that those with such deep ties to Japan are a unique bunch. Reading Mike Cash's kind words I can see that Oliver also had these same wonderful friends and experiences, and his own family in Japan. I know we would have gotten along quite well and I regret not attending that BBQ.
I lost my father to cancer years ago when I was just finishing school. I know Oliver's family misses him greatly as I do my father. My father was 58 when he passed. The only thing cancer provides is time to say goodbye, otherwise it's truly a horrible disease.
My sincerest condolences to Oliver's family, and my sincerest wishes for peace for his soul.
Mike, this is late but thank you for putting this post here and letting us know.