Older Women

[Duo]

I agree, and furthermore there is a sense of accomplishment or rather you feel like achived something if one manages to get an older woman, and because there is just something aobut older women that fascinates younger men, including me........

 

[-Rudel-]

Well well well. I'd thought I would be the only one here Dutch Baka. You and me are in the same boat! My girl is 7 years older. She worried a little bit about what my parents would think, but I told her it doesn't matter. And suprisingly, my parents welcomed her into our family very caringly. Even my grandparents want her to call them grandma or grandpa...hehe Age is just a number. I have a beautiful fiance, great and superb personality. When I first met her I thought she was at least in her early mid 20s. Who would of thought! But I don't care.

I find it extreme that our actions, and decisions are usually the same, and I feel we act like young kids...hahaha. I love her to death.

And I think, a couple that can keep a relationship together for 2 1/2 years being overseas and separated is great! She always sends me packages and letters. And on June 17th, we are getting married! Sugoi ne!

:romance: ﾅ停?ｹﾂ債･窶堋ｵ窶堙??堋ｭ窶堙ｪﾂ 窶督ｾ窶敕ｼ窶堋ｳ窶堙ｱﾂ！:12:

 

[jeisan]

being too lazy to read through this whole thread right now, id just like to say that ive only had one girlfriend that was younger than me, thats just the way its always happened...

 

[AngkorianKnight]

Yeah, age is a number, we all have different experiences and whatnot, it is what we get and learn from those experiences. I'm actually really attracted to an older (Japanese) woman, but I cannot tell how old she is. I could care less if she was Japanese or not, she is a great woman. She has like a natural feel for design.

 

[Anchyyy]

What do you(guys in particular) think about a woman having a relationship with a guy who is 5 or more years her junior?

We often hear about older men with younger women and it seems like there's no problem with that. However, when it comes to older women with younger men, it doesn't seem quite as acceptable.

I know this doesn't really fall in the "advice" category, but I thought it was better suited here than in the Opinions section.

I would really like to hear some guys weigh in on this issue.

I never thought about that, but for me it's ok. I actually dated a guy who was 2 years younger than me and i must say it was ok. Nice memories of that time

 

[TwistedMac]

going with might work, might not... just like every relationship ever concieved.

 

[Brittany]

My boyfriend is 2 years younger than me and we get along fine. He's very open-minded and we share a lot of the same interests such as: Japanese culture, Music, Video Games, Same general interests.

It depends on maturity level of some people. I dated a guy that was year and a half older than me, and I found him quite .. boring. But my boyfriend now, he's funny and we connect on many levels and we get along.

People have said a lot of crap about our relationship because of our age difference, but I don't give a crap. They can say stuff, but are they the one in the relationship? No.

 

[Sensuikan San]

My son has a girlfriend who is 11 years older than him.

I confess that the wife and I did raise our eyebrows initially - but ... she's great! and their relationship is much stronger than many marriages I have observed over the years.

Does anyone ever question "older men" in such a relationship?

Regards,

ﾆ淡ﾆ停?｡ﾆ停?

 

[TwistedMac]

Does anyone ever question "older men" in such a relationship?

Well.. actually, I do

but of course it all depends on the current age of the people in the relationship.. if the man is say 28 and the girl 11 years younger.. 17.. yes, my brow is slightly raised and I will mutter incoherent words and roll my eyes at him.

If one is 52 and one 41 however, that's hardly a difference at all to me. They're both grown and mature.

 

[Shin_ji80]

I don't know man, it really depends. If I were 20 and have older girlfriend, that's fine.
What if I were 38 (happend to be not married before) and having 43 year old girlfriend? No way man~ They can't give birth anymore. (Doesn't mean cannot, is just too dangerious to do so)

 

[TwistedMac]

I don't know man, it really depends. If I were 20 and have older girlfriend, that's fine.
What if I were 38 (happend to be not married before) and having 43 year old girlfriend? No way man~ They can't give birth anymore. (Doesn't mean cannot, is just too dangerious to do so)

heh, good.

I can see we value different things
Can't really say I give a toss if a woman can have children or not.
Well, actually if she can't that's a plus in my book

 

[Tsuyoiko]

My Mum is 7 years older than my Dad - when they met Dad was 19 and Mum was 26 and married to someone else. They were married when Dad was 20, and are still together 31 years later. But, Dad was old for his age, probably because he had elderly parents (Nan was 45 when Dad was born). Can I imagine myself with a 23 year old? I doubt it. Most under-25s seem like kids to me. My brother-in-law is 22 and he is like a babe-in-arms!

 

[Pachipro]

Regardless, older women are still "hot" to me. They always were even when I was in my 20's. Must be the "experience" factor. Don't know. Maybe it was a fetish of some kind.

 

[-Rudel-]

Do you have an 80yr old wife?

 

[Duo]

My Mum is 7 years older than my Dad - when they met Dad was 19 and Mum was 26 and married to someone else. They were married when Dad was 20, and are still together 31 years later. But, Dad was old for his age, probably because he had elderly parents (Nan was 45 when Dad was born). Can I imagine myself with a 23 year old? I doubt it. Most under-25s seem like kids to me. My brother-in-law is 22 and he is like a babe-in-arms!

I'd say that goes on a case by case basis, no

who knows if you met me maybe u'd change ur mind about younger men

i'm sorry i'm just being silly!!!, maybe you do have a point after all

ok but seriously, given the situation I think that you are right, most young men are still a bit immature but I'd say that they are those who are also fairly on firm ground

 

[MajideSaiaku]

As a rule, i never go 2 years either way from my own age but, i have no issue with older women and yonuger men, more power to them it thats their thing.

 

[Tsuyoiko]

who knows if you met me maybe u'd change ur mind about younger men

Maybe, but I don't think my husband would like it!

 

[Duo]

Maybe, but I don't think my husband would like it!

yes, i'm very sorry about that comment, sometimes i outstep my limits
my apologies

 

[Tsuyoiko]

That's OK! My husband is used to fighting off competition!

 

[Anjeko]

from my perspective leave other people to do whatever pleases them.
i like to be very objective regarding such matters, cause one cannot feel or understand someone elses feelings or their hearts.
some relationships like this really works good,and like many of you have said:it really depends on the involved parties' experiences in life, which is not always age bound.
i have always prefered older guys, my male peers is very irritating, and has a huge, huge need to prove themselves. this makes them so vain it drives me crazy! i can still stand arrogant,but not vain sorry.

 

[Mars Man]

"Older women, make beautiful lovers,...know just how to treat a man." (if I got them correct) are the words to one country song I heard while out in Arizona. My mother's 5 years above my father. My first 'I do' was to three years my senior. (age was absolutely not the cause of failure there)

A number of good points have been made, I can't add anything new, but may highlight that the sexolgists do say that female libido begans increasing in early middle-age and does match that of the 20 somethings male. I have also heard of the 'mother in the eyes of the male' phenomenon, but can't recall any real details about that now.

I'd say the older women thing is fine, really depends on the individuals and the circumstances they're in. Women usually live longer than men, so to keep lifespans equal, younger could be opted for. At present I'm almost 5 years upwards to that cozy little Venusian I yet adore (95% of the time) even after these 18 years. (She used to long, long flowing hair which she trimmed way back, & I really loved that!)

 

[smoke]

i think a lot of people make issues outta age.
as far as i'm concerned its irrelivant.
It's all about compatibility...however, age can affect compatibility.
I am old for my years (my friend tells me i'm a 30yr old trapped in a 20 yr old body) so i don't think dating an older woman would really be a 'problem' for me.
the irony is, my partner is actually younger than me (by about 8 months) but she is of a similar frame of mind to me (poor girl!).

 

[Rich303]

I've not posted on this thread before because I had no frame of reference.
I've always thought a younger girl was best for me, because I don't think I'm all that mature.
However, on saturday night I went out with a lady 6 years older than me and she is gorgeous. She was so warm and immediately made me feel relaxed. We didn't stop talking all night!
She has said I can meet her in Osaka, and she is going to take me to restaurants and bars and stuff. I'm not sure if she just wants to be friends, but I would love to be her 'Toy Boy!

I am converted!!!

 

[Tsuyoiko]

Nice one Rich, good luck with that. Sounds promising...

 

[Duo]

I've not posted on this thread before because I had no frame of reference.
I've always thought a younger girl was best for me, because I don't think I'm all that mature.
However, on saturday night I went out with a lady 6 years older than me and she is gorgeous. She was so warm and immediately made me feel relaxed. We didn't stop talking all night!
She has said I can meet her in Osaka, and she is going to take me to restaurants and bars and stuff. I'm not sure if she just wants to be friends, but I would love to be her 'Toy Boy!

I am converted!!!

way to go rich, just don't be 2 friendly, cuz once they put u in the friends list is not too funnn, hope u get to be the boy toy we all wanna be one day