Japanese guys and black women?

[Damicci]

That's interesting. . But like you said, nothing is impossible. There are definitely more African American women/Japanese men than Chilean and Rwandese couples, i know that for sure though. I do think too that Japanese men are becoming a little more open and welcoming to women of another race because their women are after every other nationality of men other than themselves.

This made me laugh a little.

 

[Skullcrushergurl]

This made me laugh a little.

Great. You. And why did her post make you laugh?
What she saud is true.
Example: You and your wife.

 

[Haruspex]

Great. You. And why did her post make you laugh?
What she saud is true.
Example: You and your wife.

Are you soothing yourself by attacking what you believe is denying what you wish to believe in?

 

[Skullcrushergurl]

Are you soothing yourself by attacking what you believe is denying what you wish to believe in?

What? That makes no sense. I was talking about her post and Damicci in relation to it so he would get a better understanding.

 

[Haruspex]

So did I. And no, you're wrong there, it makes sense.

 

[nice gaijin]

Great. You. And why did her post make you laugh?
What she saud is true.
Example: You and your wife.

I think that is why it made him laugh. I laughed as well, simply because it's a funny notion.

Don't be bitter because other people have found happiness. Damicci isn't your competition, or doing anything to spoil your chances at finding a man. You are still really young; you have a lot to go through before you find yourself, let alone love.

and Derfel... no. You're only making sense to yourself.

 

[Damicci]

I laughed b/c the idea that Japanese men will date other races b/c Japanese women are doing it is quite humorous. Besides women from my understanding of previous census reports outnumber men in Japan. If a Japanese man can't find another compatible Japanese woman then maybe he is doing something or is just not attractive to Japanese women. Me and my wife are not an example. Women want what they want. There is A LARGE number of friends of my wife that have no interest in dating foreign men (maybe all of them). Making friends sure but not dating.

I actually understand what Derfel is saying.

 

[Haruspex]

Simply put, she panicked for a moment when she thought her hopes were crushed, and instead of simply disregarding, ignoring it, she switched to offensive. Thats all.

 

[Mars Man]

I have to apologize...I am sorry for not getting around here often enough. I noticed on page 4 that there was a fair amount of off topic, and it seems as though such is about to break out again...oh me oh my...

Now if there were absolutely no rules about staying on topic at all, then have at it. But, there is a rule which even after allowing some room for common human error and creative despension, should generally be adhered to. I would appreciate everyone's efforts here.

Welcome to JREF, Saisho onnanoko san. As I have said before, and others too, there is of course a fair chance of both you and Skullcrushergurl finding a Japanese guy for a lover some fine day. Just as when I had gone back for a visit to cloudy Alabama, and was so happily and excitedly surprized to see as many interracial marriages between the majority and minority peoples there (as many caucasian husband african-American wife as the opposite pattern) I know that such can happen here.

If you girls were on the West Coast, rather than Michigan and Tennessee, you'd probably have already at least dated a second generation boy of Japanese descent directly or half-directly. If you were to come to Japan, to the big cities, there would be a chance, I do not doubt. In the country side, it'd be much harder due to closer ties with traditional thought. (which, in a sense, is greater nation-wide here, than in the States probably)

I recall how some hard feelings may have been fueled up in this thread, and ask that all please put the past behind, and join in the conversation free of grudge and hard feelings. I think we can not deny that the male will pretty much be the male--on average (never forget that...it's on average) and sex will be one big objective. Eros can come through the sexual connection though, and agape can build from it, but many times things never make it that far...as some of us know well.

Skullcrushergurl is good-looking enough and some of my guy students here have said as much when seeing her pics; I look forward to your having gotten the required 35 posts, Saisho onnanoko san !! AND ... LET'S STAY ON TOPIC !! PLEASE !!

 

[Skullcrushergurl]

Skullcrushergurl is good-looking enough and some of my guy students here have said as much when seeing her pics;

Really?
I guess one reason I am this way is because I'm not really confident enough...or at all for that matter.

 

[joaniedark]

Oh, dahling, you're gorgeous! I'm sure you'll find a guy into you. I knew lots of asian guys dating black chicks. Then again, I lived in a black dominated part of town with an asian dominated school, so I don't know if that skewed the balance...

 

[brave_new_world]

Personally, I don't have any negative view of inter-racial dating. I used to date a black girl a few years ago.
But, most Japanese guys I know are reluctant to date with a black girl.

I wonder.... what do Japanese guys think about black women
relationship-wise?
Not the scary intimidating ones that dance in rap videos and hang out with the gangsters.....
What are the views on Japanese-black relationships in general?
I love Japanese/asian guys but they never look my way. Is it just me?

 

[thistle]

I would say that is SO not going to happen.

Japanese men are shy and reserved, that is why they rarely date outside
their own ethnicity.
In particular, I would say that black women are more outgoing and aggressive than white women (ok, this is a generalisation perhaps).

The two are just not going to mix well.

and I am a white woman who was married to a Japanese man.

 

[Damicci]

I would say that is SO not going to happen.

Wow we get assumptions from both ends of the spectrum. I already know it can happen I have seen it with my own eyes so and I believe there is a black woman who is marri3ed to a Japanese man on this forum. Should probably make "SO" into a smaller "so"!

 

[SushiShin]

Why looking at colour/ethnicy/roots/religion/status?
It's the person you love and if you love that person then he/she can be blue or green too.

There has been a lot off-topic here stick to the point ladieez and gentzz
Japanese Guys and Black Women? Why not? You also pour coffee with milk sometimes, not? You don't eat also every day the same? You mix?

Then why not give a Black female a chance to be together with a Japanese male?

 

[dongdong]

I would say that is SO not going to happen.
Japanese men are shy and reserved, that is why they rarely date outside
their own ethnicity.
In particular, I would say that black women are more outgoing and aggressive than white women (ok, this is a generalisation perhaps).
The two are just not going to mix well.
and I am a white woman who was married to a Japanese man.

That's not true at all. I saw so many Japanese guys dating white girls. But I never saw any Japanese guys dating black guys.
I was wondering why, but I realized that many Japanese guys don't like black skinned girls. I heard they even hate girls from India, Pakistan or Nepal.
My Japanese friend frankly told me about Japanese men's favoritism of white skin over black skin.

 

[SushiShin]

Ofcourse most of Japanese Male would like a White skinned girl then a black skinned girl.
I personally choose a white skin girl. But that doesn't mean I don't like black.
It's just the taste and the nature of the person.
I really hope that Skullcrushergurl will find a Japanese B-friend on a day!

 

[nice gaijin]

Ofcourse most of Japanese Male would like a White skinned girl then a black skinned girl.
I personally choose a white skin girl. But that doesn't mean I don't like black.
It's just the taste and the nature of the person.
I really hope that Skullcrushergurl will find a Japanese B-friend on a day!

"Of course?" Why bother ranking your preferences as matter-of-fact?

 

[brave_new_world]

Ofcourse most of Japanese Male would like a White skinned girl then a black skinned girl.
I personally choose a white skin girl. But that doesn't mean I don't like black.
It's just the taste and the nature of the person.
I really hope that Skullcrushergurl will find a Japanese B-friend on a day!

r u japanese? where are you from?

 

[El P8s]

That's not true at all. I saw so many Japanese guys dating white girls. But I never saw any Japanese guys dating black guys.
I was wondering why, but I realized that many Japanese guys don't like black skinned girls. I heard they even hate girls from India, Pakistan or Nepal.
My Japanese friend frankly told me about Japanese men's favoritism of white skin over black skin.

Leaves more for me....

That's not true at all. I saw so many Japanese guys dating white girls. But I never saw any Japanese guys dating black guys.

But I'm sure noone was talking about homosexual couples.....or where you trying to make a statement on a certain persons looks?

 

[MadamePapillon]

I find it weird to find pale skin more attractive than dark skin. Pale skin (really pale skin) looks freakishly unattractive to me, I could never wrap my mind around how people could find alabaster skin more beautiful than a healthy tan. I just keep thinking: go out and get a tan you shut-in.

To each his own, I guess, but black people (especially the women) are super fine. More so, I would say, than Japanese women...but, like I said, to each his own. My taste isn't everybodys taste. As for black men

 

[Haruspex]

Imo skin colour really depends on the person. Some people look good with pale skin, and some with dark, can't be helped.
As for "Can Black women marry Japanese men?".
Yes, they can, there's a possibility.
Now for the other "hidden" question, "Will I be able to?".
Hell knows, we're out of seers and fortunetellers ever since centrajapan got banned.

 

[Tokis-Phoenix]

I find it weird to find pale skin more attractive than dark skin. Pale skin (really pale skin) looks freakishly unattractive to me, I could never wrap my mind around how people could find alabaster skin more beautiful than a healthy tan. I just keep thinking: go out and get a tan you shut-in.
To each his own, I guess, but black people (especially the women) are super fine. More so, I would say, than Japanese women...but, like I said, to each his own. My taste isn't everybodys taste. As for black men

I think it could possibly be an evolutionary thing- as people spread out from Africa, generally speaking their skin lightened as they developed into races in further away places. Its possible that people whose races come from area's which have been evolutionarily getting whiter and whiter, are simply more attracted to people who are of pale skin since its what their race has been evolving towards.
Either that or its more of a cultural thing (although i guess cultural can also be evolutionary), i dunno. Preference for pale skin has been around for a very long time in places like Japan or China, long before the Chinese and Japanese ever came into contact with us white people.

 

[El P8s]

Light skin used to be an evolutionary advantage in areas with a lack of sunlight (in comparison to africa) in order to build up vitamin-e.

 

[Pseudo]

I don't think there would be anything wrong with it. You see Japanese guys with white girls, and other races/ethnicities, so I don't think there would be a problem with a black girl. Its just a matter of finding one who is attracted to you and is willing to cross that boundary of the whole interracial dating thing. You're a pretty girl and I don't think finding someone who is attracted to you would be a problem, just have to be willing to look, wait, and get used to possible dead-ends.