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Okay you guys lost me.
Japanese guys and black women?
- Thread starter Skullcrushergurl
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No more opinions on the matter, then?:atsui:
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If I may have one final word here, then. Regarding the number of events measured so far (using scientific jargon where event means a case of a Japanese male in a love/marriage bond with an 'African'/'Southern Hemisphere' descent female) by those of us who have had some experience with Japan and such area of study/concern, about all that can be said, has been said--unfortunately.
The event is very uncommon in Japan, but may be more common (as a percent) in some places such as the Americas, Africa, and Australia--among some others.
That said, I did ask a number of my male university students here, upon showing your most recently posted photo to them, and the larger response was along the lines of 'She's cute!' This may tend to show, to a larger than average degree, that the average Japanese male would consider you to be a girl that they'd be interested in meeting and talking to, or whatever, BUT...no further conclusions can be drawn, I'm afraid. If they'd actually end up being of the will and attraction strength to make a relationship, I could not tell...and didn't want to cue them in that direction. (that would be bias methodolgy)
AND...Skullcrushergurl chan, you cute little gurl, that's it from here....
The event is very uncommon in Japan, but may be more common (as a percent) in some places such as the Americas, Africa, and Australia--among some others.
That said, I did ask a number of my male university students here, upon showing your most recently posted photo to them, and the larger response was along the lines of 'She's cute!' This may tend to show, to a larger than average degree, that the average Japanese male would consider you to be a girl that they'd be interested in meeting and talking to, or whatever, BUT...no further conclusions can be drawn, I'm afraid. If they'd actually end up being of the will and attraction strength to make a relationship, I could not tell...and didn't want to cue them in that direction. (that would be bias methodolgy)
AND...Skullcrushergurl chan, you cute little gurl, that's it from here....
superbike81
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Most of my Okinawan friends are intimidated by black people in general. They are pretty shy as well, I think if you want a Japanese guy (who is actually from Japan and not raised in America) you will have to be the agressor and approach them.
On another subject, here in Okinawa , we've got girls that we call "kokoujo" who exclusively date black men. I don't think that crosses over to Japanese men though, at least none of my friends have ever mentioned it.
On another subject, here in Okinawa , we've got girls that we call "kokoujo" who exclusively date black men. I don't think that crosses over to Japanese men though, at least none of my friends have ever mentioned it.
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Ew. I've seen a lot of that too. IT'S SOOOOOOO LOPSIDED!! I wonder why though!
Kyoto Returnee
Sempai
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I wonder.... what do Japanese guys think about black women
relationship-wise?
Not the scary intimidating ones that dance in rap videos and hang out with the gangsters.....
What are the views on Japanese-black relationships in general?
I love Japanese/asian guys but they never look my way. Is it just me?
I'm not a Japanese guy but can only presume that many would fantasize about the thought as they generally do with most females, presuming they are not gay.
Didn't those crazy JPgirls who dress like clowns prefer black men?
My personal experience is that many JP girls dreamt or still do dream of having a causcasian guy, but then again, I have know many who simply prefer a night of fun.
Let's face it, we are all humans and at the end of the day, is their really a difference?
Haruspex
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That sounds too, too idealized to me. Sure that can happen, but ethnicity is a deciding factor in many cases. There are more examples than exceptions at least.
Tsukiko-chan
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It can matter cause you think one ethnicity looks better than a other..
I like japanese boys.. Probably cause they are a little femenine.. But my boyfriend is all Dutch.. And really manly.. I don't even think he is pretty at all.. I fell in love with him when I got to know him and became able to look behind the Shy side. And see the cute carring and party animal in him *strange combi I know*
So looks don't always matter.. they can play a part in first sight.. You will never date boys you just see while going out if they don't look the way you like boys the most. But if you meat them in a diffrent way you never know..
And I guess that is the same to boys not ?
When I just met my boyfriend I tought he was a nerd that didn't had any social skills. But after a weak I got to notice I was wrong. And after 2 month's well.. You can tell it yourself !
So I say looks don't matter if you have your time
I like japanese boys.. Probably cause they are a little femenine.. But my boyfriend is all Dutch.. And really manly.. I don't even think he is pretty at all.. I fell in love with him when I got to know him and became able to look behind the Shy side. And see the cute carring and party animal in him *strange combi I know*
So looks don't always matter.. they can play a part in first sight.. You will never date boys you just see while going out if they don't look the way you like boys the most. But if you meat them in a diffrent way you never know..
And I guess that is the same to boys not ?
When I just met my boyfriend I tought he was a nerd that didn't had any social skills. But after a weak I got to notice I was wrong. And after 2 month's well.. You can tell it yourself !
So I say looks don't matter if you have your time
Haruspex
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Lol why do you list a merit as a flaw?
Tsukiko-chan
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What do you meen ? don't understand youLol why do you list a merit as a flaw?
Haruspex
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nerd = dedication
nerd ==> all
Tsukiko-chan
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still don't understand you. Nerds are a bad thing here in the netherlands.. They are seen as totally not social, most times they spend all there time with there computers or with books ...
Haruspex
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Although this isn't exactly what you wrote, but now its easier to extract the meaning.
Someone who spends all his time on something has dedication, those without the dedication to spend all their time on what they like regardless of the outcome, have no right to blackmouth them.
What is the problem with someone spending his time solely on what he finds to be the purpose, the meaning and joy in his life?
It is rather wrong to assume that all "nerds" are run down outcasts.
Most of them choose to be nerds because being a nerd suits their lifestyle.
Its obvious, if a nerd spends time solely on one thing, the subject he chose, he will master that thing, having mastered something nerds stand above the everyday "Im so bohemian and adult! party girls and boys".
Someone with a strong will doesn't need to be social. A strong will lets you live with minimal social boundaries, its nowhere near complete freedom, but it is definitely freedom compared to being socially bound.
Tsukiko-chan
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Yea but ever tought of the fact that someone like that could never find a true love ?
That is the whole point !!! Please think for you say something !!
I would never be albe to date with someone who thinks computers and books are important.. Cause social contact and friends love that is what life is about!
That is Wy I love my boyfriend ! Cause you are happy cause you are togheter.. You can laugh talk cry and share live and stress togheter.. Just because you found eachother and the special feeling you share....
That is the whole point !!! Please think for you say something !!
I would never be albe to date with someone who thinks computers and books are important.. Cause social contact and friends love that is what life is about!
That is Wy I love my boyfriend ! Cause you are happy cause you are togheter.. You can laugh talk cry and share live and stress togheter.. Just because you found eachother and the special feeling you share....
Haruspex
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First and foremost, there are more important things than love in life. Second, you can love something that isn't a human being, and you can live for that thing.
For someone whose life is about reproducing, yes its all about the love. But a "nerd" usually has other things in mind.
I dare say that 99% of the human population over 13 has the potential to reproduce, it is nothing special. Some "nerds" are just "nerds", but not all of them.
For some people it isn't a goal to represent the gray mass.
Also, let me say, you don't need a social side for love. Love only requires two individuals, and not party, weed, booze or whatever.
And let me say one more thing. As long as "youngsters" are just swapping boyfriends/girlfriends on a monthly basis, I don't need the sh1t called love. Let them keep their opium and leave me be.
I honestly don't give a damn about sex, and in general sexual relationship, If I want to talk about a grave matter, a good friend does it quite well.
You know, I think a good friend, one that is sick to the core, twisted loyal worth a thousand boyfriends/girlfriends or whatevers.
What is todays conclusion?
Friend =O=W=N> boyfriend/girlfriend
Honestly, could you talk about dead baby jokes and world destruction with your boyfriend? Lol, no way. The privilege of nerds worth the world, twice probably. All the rest is secondary, if not tertiary.
For someone whose life is about reproducing, yes its all about the love. But a "nerd" usually has other things in mind.
I dare say that 99% of the human population over 13 has the potential to reproduce, it is nothing special. Some "nerds" are just "nerds", but not all of them.
For some people it isn't a goal to represent the gray mass.
Also, let me say, you don't need a social side for love. Love only requires two individuals, and not party, weed, booze or whatever.
And let me say one more thing. As long as "youngsters" are just swapping boyfriends/girlfriends on a monthly basis, I don't need the sh1t called love. Let them keep their opium and leave me be.
I honestly don't give a damn about sex, and in general sexual relationship, If I want to talk about a grave matter, a good friend does it quite well.
You know, I think a good friend, one that is sick to the core, twisted loyal worth a thousand boyfriends/girlfriends or whatevers.
What is todays conclusion?
Friend =O=W=N> boyfriend/girlfriend
Honestly, could you talk about dead baby jokes and world destruction with your boyfriend? Lol, no way. The privilege of nerds worth the world, twice probably. All the rest is secondary, if not tertiary.
Tsukiko-chan
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Sorry but what do you know about it ! You're a 17 year old boy... Most of those never felt love cause there hormons just started working ! Next to that Hungary is a diffrent world a diffrent culture than Netherlands or amerika..
And LOVE IS A THING YOU NEED. Love from you're mom from you're dad from you're best friend everything is love !
You are just a Naive boy that is clearly turned down by a lot of girls already..
And LOVE IS A THING YOU NEED. Love from you're mom from you're dad from you're best friend everything is love !
You are just a Naive boy that is clearly turned down by a lot of girls already..
Haruspex
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Im screwed in the mind, many people can vouch for that.
I am aware that the world is not flat and there are other countries other than Hungary.
I do have an interest in other cultures, you don't have to worry about that.
Indeed I receive and give love each day, hour, minute, but I do not worship love. The love I receive from a limited amount of people is enough for me, I don't need a girlfriend. No patience, no time, and one thing, no girlfriend worth the time I could spend chasing my ambitions. Should I meet one, I will know and make my step, but I refuse to obey my instincts in such a lowly way, such as playing the "who's the macho' game.
Rather, I have my own game, in which I am the sole participant, its called "love the only player".
My hormons are active for a couple of years, having reached biological maturity already.
But that is not a feat, I repeat myself, even a dog, a rat, a maggot or a parrot is capable of achieving such a thing.
You are wrong if you think that Im unhappy, for I am not.
I have been turned down by exactly 0 girls, simply because I did not approach them.
Those whom I find to be exceptional individuals end up being my friends usually, even though their number is small, and I have only met once or twice many of them, another great load of them never saw me in real life. For me it is my "pack", anyone outside can stumble and fail for all I care.
I find it very interesting how you are taking high ground, and I wonder, for what reason, and what justifies such actions?
Someone who blindly obeys her instincts has no right to call me naive. And you are not someone to judge me, because that last phrase of yours screams of arrogance paired with ignorance.
Let us turn the sword, and let me rephrase that last sentence:
You are but a naive girl, a display, another doll to to go and stand in the line.
You can live your life full of love, kisses, small lovey-dovey presents, your little "bunny" by your side. But when the reaper is nigh, you will come to realize that such a life was in vain, you have your grandchildren to smile at, a happy family atmosphere, but you have simply lived, nothing more, nothing less, something even a carrot or an onion can do.
I have been given this single life, and I will use it how I bloody please, not how chromosomes, hormons, genes and other filth inside my body order me to.
If I please I will drink myself to brain death, If I please I will spend my remaining years with books, If I please I will be a good guy, one that aids people, If I please I will be a rotten villain, but when my time's about to run out I will know that Im a prisoner of this tainted flesh, but at least, unlike many others, I will know that I squeezed my head out through the bars even if it was painful as hell, and my skin came off, I did what I could.
If you realize this, I will be glad for You, I will be glad that there was another person to spit in the face of order, if not, than not.
I am aware that the world is not flat and there are other countries other than Hungary.
I do have an interest in other cultures, you don't have to worry about that.
Indeed I receive and give love each day, hour, minute, but I do not worship love. The love I receive from a limited amount of people is enough for me, I don't need a girlfriend. No patience, no time, and one thing, no girlfriend worth the time I could spend chasing my ambitions. Should I meet one, I will know and make my step, but I refuse to obey my instincts in such a lowly way, such as playing the "who's the macho' game.
Rather, I have my own game, in which I am the sole participant, its called "love the only player".
My hormons are active for a couple of years, having reached biological maturity already.
But that is not a feat, I repeat myself, even a dog, a rat, a maggot or a parrot is capable of achieving such a thing.
You are wrong if you think that Im unhappy, for I am not.
I have been turned down by exactly 0 girls, simply because I did not approach them.
Those whom I find to be exceptional individuals end up being my friends usually, even though their number is small, and I have only met once or twice many of them, another great load of them never saw me in real life. For me it is my "pack", anyone outside can stumble and fail for all I care.
I find it very interesting how you are taking high ground, and I wonder, for what reason, and what justifies such actions?
Someone who blindly obeys her instincts has no right to call me naive. And you are not someone to judge me, because that last phrase of yours screams of arrogance paired with ignorance.
Let us turn the sword, and let me rephrase that last sentence:
You are but a naive girl, a display, another doll to to go and stand in the line.
You can live your life full of love, kisses, small lovey-dovey presents, your little "bunny" by your side. But when the reaper is nigh, you will come to realize that such a life was in vain, you have your grandchildren to smile at, a happy family atmosphere, but you have simply lived, nothing more, nothing less, something even a carrot or an onion can do.
I have been given this single life, and I will use it how I bloody please, not how chromosomes, hormons, genes and other filth inside my body order me to.
If I please I will drink myself to brain death, If I please I will spend my remaining years with books, If I please I will be a good guy, one that aids people, If I please I will be a rotten villain, but when my time's about to run out I will know that Im a prisoner of this tainted flesh, but at least, unlike many others, I will know that I squeezed my head out through the bars even if it was painful as hell, and my skin came off, I did what I could.
If you realize this, I will be glad for You, I will be glad that there was another person to spit in the face of order, if not, than not.
Tsukiko-chan
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For your information I'm doing a increddible hard study.. And that studie is the same place I met my Boyfriend.. He motivates me to do more with my live.. I still want to go and travel around the world.. But I was always to lazy to o anything.. He motivates me showes me what I am able to !
And I'm not a bunny not at all. I chose my boyfriend for a special reason.. That is what I try to tell all allong !
You act like love prevents you from things or makes you act diffrent my boyfriend doesn't even try to act ultra manly and all. He is not a Gorilla I hate types like that !
But If you like to talk more about this maybe you could better open a new treath..
\You are still naive tough..
And I'm not a bunny not at all. I chose my boyfriend for a special reason.. That is what I try to tell all allong !
You act like love prevents you from things or makes you act diffrent my boyfriend doesn't even try to act ultra manly and all. He is not a Gorilla I hate types like that !
But If you like to talk more about this maybe you could better open a new treath..
\You are still naive tough..
Haruspex
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LOl I think someone who goes assuming that what she likes is good for everyone else is the one who is naive. L2think in more dimensions please.
Saisho_onnanoko
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Hello skull crush! I am also an African American 16 year old girl interested in Japanese guys. I would try to date a black guy if they were more respectful and relyable, but they aren't. Most of them give you the wandering eye, and about half of them already have a girl, but do they actually care? I'm trying to go to Japan too, and I already thought about my chances with any Japanese guy would be slim, but I'm going to try anyway! If they don't come to you, you go to them! they might be suprised, but that can sometimes be a good thing! Tried to submit a picture of myself, but it says I don't have enough post yet (newbie)...oh well.
Saisho_onnanoko
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Oh, okay ^^. That's a lot of post...
mika_r
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I think it's not impossible to date a Japanese guy ;D
because the world is big and you can't be 100% sure. I mean, if the general tendency is to like "X" type of women then there would be a little % that will like "Y" type of women. (LOL, yes I know it's to statistic! but I love explaining things like that). Plus, the father of one of my best friends is chilean and married a rwandese woman (I'm not quite sure that's the word
) AND THAT SURELY IS RARE! (I say this because there aren't african womens in Chile)
good luck!
because the world is big and you can't be 100% sure. I mean, if the general tendency is to like "X" type of women then there would be a little % that will like "Y" type of women. (LOL, yes I know it's to statistic! but I love explaining things like that). Plus, the father of one of my best friends is chilean and married a rwandese woman (I'm not quite sure that's the word
) AND THAT SURELY IS RARE! (I say this because there aren't african womens in Chile)good luck!
Saisho_onnanoko
I dream to go, I will go.
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That's interesting. 
. But like you said, nothing is impossible. There are definitely more African American women/Japanese men than Chilean and Rwandese couples, i know that for sure though. I do think too that Japanese men are becoming a little more open and welcoming to women of another race because their women are after every other nationality of men other than themselves.
. But like you said, nothing is impossible. There are definitely more African American women/Japanese men than Chilean and Rwandese couples, i know that for sure though. I do think too that Japanese men are becoming a little more open and welcoming to women of another race because their women are after every other nationality of men other than themselves.
