Japanese guys and black women?

[Damicci]

To be fair you made some simular statements to the ones skullcrushgirl made Damicii.
Referring to the "beat down white guys" comment.

No no no, I wasn't grouping anybody though. I said beat down white guys as those that aren't attractive in thier home country. She basically said all black dudes were ghetto and everytime she tries to think other wise a ghetto *** black dude hits on her. Those or 2 hugely different statements.

 

[Mars Man]

Just to be careful here. We are not talking about racial matters so much, but rather about the specifics of Japanese men's attraction to, liking of, and quantity of relationships with females of a more African genetic connection.

 

[Damicci]

Right but I defending my statement as not being ignorant, just bringing the truth to light. But I guess my conversation has gone off topic.

Final answer depends on the guy. Japanese men will date a black woman depending on the persons involved.

 

[ArmandV]

Final answer depends on the guy. Japanese men will date a black woman depending on the persons involved.

Can you imagine Japanese men doing Cleavon Little imitations from Blazing Saddles?

 

[Damicci]

Can you imagine Japanese men doing Cleavon Little imitations from Blazing Saddles?

LMAO "Where aru za brack women atto"

 

[ArmandV]

LMAO "Where aru za brack women atto"

Ding! You got it!

I was hoping you would be the one to jump on that! LOL!

 

[Oren]

I wonder.... what do Japanese guys think about black women
relationship-wise?
Not the scary intimidating ones that dance in rap videos and hang out with the gangsters.....
What are the views on Japanese-black relationships in general?
I love Japanese/asian guys but they never look my way. Is it just me?

Long time coming, huh. Here it is. In my observation, most Japanese guys who look reasonably well groomed and kept, are intimidated by Black people. Black people just have such an overwhelming presence they've told me. Not to mention, Japanese people generally believe everything about America that they see in movies. Blacks get a bad rap in a lot of movies. Don't be hurt if they don't come up and start a conversation with you. They just go home and think about you in the safety of their bedrooms . . . alone. I say alone because they don't talk to Japanese women EITHER! They have a superiority complex when it comes to their women that has been gradually incorporated into their belief systems through generations, to hide the fact that they are just shy.

 

[El P8s]

I still havn't quite understood how you can be attracted by an ethnicity on it's own.

 

[Haruspex]

Heck knows, don't try to understand it Also, its better than being attracted to money lol
Ok silly joke...

 

[TokyoJuliet]

Don't worry too much.
My boyfriend (japanese, lives in Japan) actually prefers small, skinny and pale japanese girls.
I'm neither japanese nor small or skinny but we're dating(!).
In my opinion it really depends on the person, and not that much on the outward appearance. Maybe they won't start a conversation with you, but if you take the initiative you can get closer which might lead to a relationship.

but things you could actually do to improve your chances:
-learn japanese (very important if you don't want to end up with somebody who has a gaijin complex)
-learn about the japanese culture (not only about the otaku-culture), gestures, behavior, manners and attitude

edit:
I only talk about japanese guys who live in Japan (!)

edit2:
maybe it was wrong to say that the outward appearance doesn't matter that much, actually I meant the natural features. In order to show affection to the guy they like, many japanese girls really put much effort into their clothing, make up, hair (,body) which is appreciated by the guys (who instead of make up put much effort into their hairstyle).
#of course only counts for many young japanese people

 

[Haruspex]

(who instead of make up put much effort into their hairstyle).

Please tell me more about this gaijin complex, i can imagine it yes, but i'd like a few examples if possible. Thank You.

 

[TokyoJuliet]

Gaijin Complex?
I call it a "gaijin complex" when japanese want nobody but a foreigner as their girlfriend/boyfriend. Mostly that are people who are not wanted by japanese man/women or just can't assimilate to the japanese system (but only in extreme cases). But what is most important (in my opinion) for calling it a "gaijin complex" is that they have their own great fantasies of a "gaijin" which don't correspond to the reality OR they just want a foreigner, no matter what kind of person the foreigner actually is.

For example a guy who starts to talk to me by doing nanpa, then telling me from which countries his ex-girlfriends are from (maybe it's hard to believe but he really wanted to impress me).


did I also mention that there are japanese people who use foreigners as accessoires? (but that's not a gaijin complex)

 

[XCrisX]

Hi there! Don´t worry!
From what I´ve seen and heard, asian guys tend to get really shy around people of the opposite sex, not only black women. Still, it is possible that they don´t know how to act around people with a different cultural backround and feel afraid or unconfortable about taking the initiative.
When it comes to relationships I think it´s only a matter of personality and comunication. So don´t be afraid of starting a conversation with them if you see the chance.

I´m terribly sorry if my english is bad, hope you don´t mind!!

 

[Skullcrushergurl]

But the questions you asked point to you care so much about Japanese people that you couldn't stand if they didn't like you.

Just my 2 cents.

That's stupid. I simply asked the opinions of my fellow j-refers. You're making this bigger than it is. *hands back your 2 cents*

Thanks guys. I started talking to this one Japanese guy and it seemed awkward. I wasn't sure if it was me or what it was.

 

[Damicci]

Thanks, I am sure I can find better ways to spend it.

Good luck with your adventures.

 

[maushan3]

Thanks guys. I started talking to this one Japanese guy and it seemed awkward. I wasn't sure if it was me or what it was.

Why was it awkward? maybe because he was Japanese or what? he and you are still humans after all. Don't sweat it. Japanese, Indians, Argentininas, Africans, Mongolians, whoever are still people and should not be taken of as special people.

But I don't know, maybe there was an awkward connection between you two, I don't know. Please elaborate.

But then again, in Japan, gaijin are treated as people from another planet or something. It's like very awkward for them talking to gaijin.

Mauricio

 

[SushiShin]

Not every japanese person is the same, there are some who even hate the word Gaijin and they see all people as people and not as 'foreigners'.

I think you have to be realistic and think before you speak. Not every Black girl is like Skullcrushergurl but since she likes japanese men not only because they are japanese but because she likes the culture and she won't hesitate to marry one on a day.

@Skullcrushergurl: Ganbatte ne! ;-)

 

[Haruspex]

Okay, im sorry to hurt people's feeling but this is turning into a bloody soap. The same things get repeated over and over.
Always cynical argument, a "but" excuse message, a world peace message, another cynical argument, a "but message" and so on.
It really is a Montague, Capulet style fight between Damicci and Skullcrushergurl.
You have stated the obvious several times, black guys obviously aren't ghetto in general, everyone admits that. Now why do we still argue? For the thrill of it or what?

 

[Skullcrushergurl]

Okay, im sorry to hurt people's feeling but this is turning into a bloody soap. The same things get repeated over and over.
Always cynical argument, a "but" excuse message, a world peace message, another cynical argument, a "but message" and so on.
It really is a Montague, Capulet style fight between Damicci and Skullcrushergurl.
You have stated the obvious several times, black guys obviously aren't ghetto in general, everyone admits that. Now why do we still argue? For the thrill of it or what?

LOL....I think everyone should state their views or give me advice. Hopefully more jrefers will come and share their thoughts. Some times, it's good to get input from others,desho?

 

[El P8s]

LOL....I think everyone should state their views or give me advice. Hopefully more jrefers will come and share their thoughts. Some times, it's good to get input from others,desho?

How should anyone ,who doesn´t know you personally be able to give you advice in loVe affairs?

 

[Skullcrushergurl]

How should anyone ,who doesn't know you personally be able to give you advice in loVe affairs?

The same way its always done in newspapers, magazines,forums etc.

 

[Damicci]

Okay, im sorry to hurt people's feeling but this is turning into a bloody soap. The same things get repeated over and over.
Always cynical argument, a "but" excuse message, a world peace message, another cynical argument, a "but message" and so on.
It really is a Montague, Capulet style fight between Damicci and Skullcrushergurl.
You have stated the obvious several times, black guys obviously aren't ghetto in general, everyone admits that. Now why do we still argue? For the thrill of it or what?

I though this was over like several posts ago. Why are YOU still harpening?

 

[El P8s]

The same way its always done in newspapers, magazines,forums etc.

Crap advice leading to a crap result?
Discussing science or fakts is one thing but really giving advice as far as emotions go in a virtual forum is something I seriously wouldn't advice the success probability is minimal.

 

[Goldiegirl]

I never saw a Japanese guy with a black girl while in Japan. I was in Tokyo and Niigata, so I can't say that it doesn't happen. I saw black guys with Japanese women in Tokyo, but not in Niigata. Truthfully, I think Japanese guys would go for other Asian girls first and then white western girls. That's my honest opinion. It's only what I saw, and there are millions of couples in Japan so I am sure I could have missed the black girl/japanese guy couple! Jeez.....

 

[Haruspex]

Well, dunno, I think people with European, Latin American origins and Asian people resemble each other a bit more, so that would explain what Goldiegirl is talking about. Well I think that is.