How to approach Japanese women?

[KirinMan]

Ironically enough I have only dated Asian women in my life time.But Ive never dated a Japanese,so thats why I am so curious how Japanese women are.

Would you mind sharing with us here how old you are?

 

[greentea]

Would you mind sharing with us here how old you are?

I am 27 years old

 

[Glenn]

Im not a bad looking guy,Ive dated cute asian girls before,but it always seems like Japanese girls wont look at you or smile back at you if your American/White.

From reading this it seems like you didn't actually talk to them, which makes me wonder how you know they were Japanese.

 

[greentea]

From reading this it seems like you didn't actually talk to them, which makes me wonder how you know they were Japanese.

I can tell if someone is Japanese,Ive been around enough Asians to tell the difference.

 

[KirinMan]

I am 27 years old

Mmm first off thanks for sharing your age, I apologize for thinking that you were a teenager. Sorry about that, I guess I thought that someone asking a question like you did in the OP was a bit younger.

I can tell if someone is Japanese,Ive been around enough Asians to tell the difference.

Well then you are better off at it than about 1/4 of the population of the earth living in Asia right now.

I've been living here in Japan for over 20 years now and it is still difficult at times to tell the difference between Chinese, Japanese and Korean people. Emphasis on "at times".

Your profile reads that you have never been to Japan yet you are saying here that you can identify the differences between Asian's by the number you have been around? (Seriously scratching my head here on your post/comment)

Take this test and let us know your answer...
Alllookthesame.com

Taken from this thread here;
All Look the Same?

 

[Glenn]

Yeah, I spent a good five minutes talking to a Korean girl in Japanese before I found out she was Korean, and that was only because she told me. She seemed pretty much the same as the Japanese girl who I was talking to.

 

[greentea]

Mmm first off thanks for sharing your age, I apologize for thinking that you were a teenager. Sorry about that, I guess I thought that someone asking a question like you did in the OP was a bit younger.
Well then you are better off at it than about 1/4 of the population of the earth living in Asia right now.
I've been living here in Japan for over 20 years now and it is still difficult at times to tell the difference between Chinese, Japanese and Korean people. Emphasis on "at times".
Your profile reads that you have never been to Japan yet you are saying here that you can identify the differences between Asian's by the number you have been around? (Seriously scratching my head here on your post/comment)
Take this test and let us know your answer...

I think Im pretty good at telling the difference between the different Asian nationalities.I live in So California,its a very mixed enviroment out here.I dont think I need to visit Japan to be able to tell the difference between a Japanese and a Thai etc
But thats besides the point,I love the Japanese culture,Id love to date a Japanese girl,I only wish they'd be more open to dating other races.

 

[KirinMan]

I think Im pretty good at telling the difference between the different Asian nationalities.I live in So California,its a very mixed enviroment out here.I dont think I need to visit Japan to be able to tell the difference between a Japanese and a Thai etc
But thats besides the point,I love the Japanese culture,Id love to date a Japanese girl,I only wish they'd be more open to dating other races.

However like Glen pointed out you never actually talked to the girl so there is no way you could be sure she was Japanese.

Really where you live makes no difference, in fact I would say that your location makes it even more difficult to be sure because of the blending of the different Asian peoples living there.

Really it is very very difficult to believe your statement on that previous post. I am sure that others like me, that live here in Japan and other places in Asia, not Southern California, will share with you the difficulties in telling the differences between the Asian people.

Don't take this wrong but you come across a bit arrogantly when you make the assumption that you can tell what nationality or race someone is just by their looks, without having ever talked to the person.

Did you take the "test" yet?

 

[maushan3]

I think Im pretty good at telling the difference between the different Asian nationalities.I live in So California,its a very mixed enviroment out here.I dont think I need to visit Japan to be able to tell the difference between a Japanese and a Thai etc
But thats besides the point,I love the Japanese culture,Id love to date a Japanese girl,I only wish they'd be more open to dating other races.

You have no idea... ever heard that California is the only place where you can find Asian blondes with big breasts? that might leave you thinking for a while.

I've read in this very forum that many Japanese have taken the 'test' on the allloksame page and that nearly everybody got less than half, so you gotta know what's up first, man.

Mauricio

 

[KirinMan]

I love the Japanese culture,Id love to date a Japanese girl,I only wish they'd be more open to dating other races.

I overlooked this statement and would like to add a question here for you greentea, did you read this thread;

Why do so many foreigners marry Japanese women?

I think if you read that it will shoot down your assumption or feeling that Japanese women are not "open to dating other races". I hope you'll read that and see that they are very much open to dating and marrying people from other races, and it isn't just the women but the men as well.

I am starting to feel like you were turned down or rejected here. I am also a bit surprised that a 27-year-old man is asking questions like;

ok so lets say I see a cute Japanese girl at the mall and I want to talk to her,how should I go about doing so? give me some examples

That btw is where I made the (wrong) assumption that I was replying to a teenager. Sorry about that.

 

[greentea]

I overlooked this statement and would like to add a question here for you greentea, did you read this thread;

I think if you read that it will shoot down your assumption or feeling that Japanese women are not "open to dating other races". I hope you'll read that and see that they are very much open to dating and marrying people from other races, and it isn't just the women but the men as well.
I am starting to get the feeling that you got turned down or rejected here. I am also a bit surprised that a 27 year old man is asking questions like;
That btw is where I made the (wrong) assumption that I was replying to a teenager. Sorry about that.

ive been very open and honest in this forum,I would tell you if I got turned down or rejected,that is not the case.If it was,I would say so.
And what is wrong or juvinille about the original question? just because I am 27 I cant be curious about how to approach Japanese women? there are guys in thier 50s still trying to figure women out lol I dont think I am obligated to know everything about women just because I am 27!

 

[nice gaijin]

From a purely cultural standpoint, you should approach them like....


you ready for this?.....




any other girl.


Seriously, there's no secret mating ritual involved in approaching Japanese women; be presentable, friendly, but not too brash or forward. Spare yourself from worrying about the cultural differences for when you actually get one of them to call you back. Also be aware that most Japanese in America are "Americanized" to some extent, so those cultural differences might only pop up if you actually meet her family. Race != cultural background

 

[Damicci]

Well if you been around enough, what do you need help from the internet for? A player is a player regardless. Play on playa!

 

[KirinMan]

ive been very open and honest in this forum,I would tell you if I got turned down or rejected,that is not the case.If it was,I would say so.

Thank you for your honesty here. As you know this is a message board and it is impossible to "read" a posters mind.

And what is wrong or juvinille about the original question? just because I am 27 I cant be curious about how to approach Japanese women? there are guys in thier 50s still trying to figure women out lol I dont think I am obligated to know everything about women just because I am 27

Oh I dont think that there is anything "wrong" with your original question, however it is rather easy to assume that a person that is 27 years old should have a better handle on how to talk to or communicate with people of the opposite sex.

You asked a very specific question in regards to Japanese females. You have been given some very good advice on how to interact and communicate with women, whether or not you choose to take that advice is purely up to you.

You have also shown that you have made assumptions that you can determine the race or nationality of a person purely upon their looks alone. I submit to you that your assumptions and generalizations are off the mark and shoud learn to look at people for who they are and not what their race or nationality is.

Well if you been around enough, what do you need help from the internet for? A player is a player regardless. Play on playa!

I don't think that the OP is a playa' in any sense of the word and needs to be educated or learn about how females look at men or what they are interested in.

I think we are talking with a "man" that has had very little or few experiences with members of the opposite sex and we here should wear kid gloves when replying to his questions or comments.

 

[yukio_michael]

Treat them kindly, treat them gently, respect their culture, be respectful of others, and not boastful, be sweet, be gentle when you make love to them, yasashiku, onegaishimasu, be creative, be fun, be supportive, be masculine at times, hold them, look at them deeply into their eyes, look deeply and say, aishiteru yo, sleep next to them on the futons lying upon green tatami mats which smell of nature and leaves and hold them close when the heaters aren't enough to warm you both, eat nabe with them under the kotatsu during the winter months, have an okonomiyaki paatii, laugh at Razor "Hard Gay" Ramon together, laugh at Takashi TV, say tadaima every day, say itarasshai every day, say okaeri nasai every day.... pay the household bills at the local Lawson, shop and walk with them to D2 and LOFT for household goods, try your best with your Japanese language skills to help the old man installing your A/C unit....

That's how to date a Japanese girl. End of thread.

 

[Damicci]

Treat them kindly, treat them gently, respect their culture, be respectful of others, and not boastful, be sweet, be gentle when you make love to them, yasashiku, onegaishimasu, be creative, be fun, be supportive, be masculine at times, hold them, look at them deeply into their eyes, look deeply and say, aishiteru yo, sleep next to them on the futons lying upon green tatami mats which smell of nature and leaves and hold them close when the heaters aren't enough to warm you both, eat nabe with them under the kotatsu during the winter months, have an okonomiyaki paatii, laugh at Razor "Hard Gay" Ramon together, laugh at Takashi TV, say tadaima every day, say itarasshai every day, say okaeri nasai every day.... pay the household bills at the local Lawson, shop and walk with them to D2 and LOFT for household goods, try your best with your Japanese language skills to help the old man installing your A/C unit....

That's how to date a Japanese girl. End of thread.

You sir are a far better man than I. I slap my woman on the butt and tell her "get in there and make me some dinner"

Anyway I think if you search you could probably find more threads with the same content.

Kids Gloves huh? OP is not asking kid's questions though.

 

[marsans]

Treat them kindly, treat them gently, respect their culture, be respectful of others, and not boastful, be sweet, be gentle when you make love to them, yasashiku, onegaishimasu, be creative, be fun, be supportive, be masculine at times, hold them, look at them deeply into their eyes, look deeply and say, aishiteru yo, sleep next to them on the futons lying upon green tatami mats which smell of nature and leaves and hold them close when the heaters aren't enough to warm you both, eat nabe with them under the kotatsu during the winter months, have an okonomiyaki paatii, laugh at Razor "Hard Gay" Ramon together, laugh at Takashi TV, say tadaima every day, say itarasshai every day, say okaeri nasai every day.... pay the household bills at the local Lawson, shop and walk with them to D2 and LOFT for household goods, try your best with your Japanese language skills to help the old man installing your A/C unit....

That's how to date a Japanese girl. End of thread.

That was a really touching paragraph.

Yukio, is right again. Girls are girls before they are Japanese. Treat them like you would treat any other girl you love, plain and simple.

 

[godppgo]

Treat them kindly, treat them gently, respect their culture, be respectful of others, and not boastful, be sweet, be gentle when you make love to them, yasashiku, onegaishimasu, be creative, be fun, be supportive, be masculine at times, hold them, look at them deeply into their eyes, look deeply and say, aishiteru yo, sleep next to them on the futons lying upon green tatami mats which smell of nature and leaves and hold them close when the heaters aren't enough to warm you both, eat nabe with them under the kotatsu during the winter months, have an okonomiyaki paatii, laugh at Razor "Hard Gay" Ramon together, laugh at Takashi TV, say tadaima every day, say itarasshai every day, say okaeri nasai every day.... pay the household bills at the local Lawson, shop and walk with them to D2 and LOFT for household goods, try your best with your Japanese language skills to help the old man installing your A/C unit....

That's how to date a Japanese girl. End of thread.

Very good... especially like the kotatsu scenario. おれは一度もこたつに入いたことがない....

Now come to think of it, I have yet to meet a Japanese girl who has a kotatsu at her place.

 

[basuotoko]

Very good... especially like the kotatsu scenario. おれは一度もこたつに入いたことがない....
Now come to think of it, I have yet to meet a Japanese girl who has a kotatsu at her place.

Hmm... maybe you should come to Japan in the winter then.

 

[greentea]

I think we are talking with a "man" that has had very little or few experiences with members of the opposite sex and we here should wear kid gloves when replying to his questions or comments.

I have plenty of experience with women,I was just curious if Japanese women were any different due to cultural issues etc.

 

[yukio_michael]

You sir are a far better man than I. I slap my woman on the butt and tell her "get in there and make me some dinner"

She was exhausted when she came home from work, so I like to cook, so I was the one in the kitchen, except for the things I didn't know how to cook, which I miss her cooking for me! It was my experimental phase of what I could do w/ 300en at the 99en shop!

 

[greentea]

Boy,Japanese girls got you all beleiving this "were open to every race" stuff lol I dont know,Im not sure I buy it.It just seems that Japanese girls are the most stuck up and have that "japan pride" that prevents them from branching out to other nationalities.

and even if you are lucky enough to get a Japanese girl,the Japanese guys will make sure to kill it for you.They will tell the Japanese girl shes a "sell out" etc for dating you.

 

[KirinMan]

Boy,Japanese girls got you all beleiving this "were open to every race" stuff lol I dont know,Im not sure I buy it. It just seems that Japanese girls are the most stuck up and have that "japan pride" that prevents them from branching out to other nationalities.

and even if you are lucky enough to get a Japanese girl,the Japanese guys will make sure to kill it for you.They will tell the Japanese girl shes a "sell out" etc for dating you.

Look what's it going to take? Do you need a ton of bricks to fall on your head before you realize that your assumptions are off track here?

You have managed to side step a few comments and questions placed before you and I for one am a bit disappointed, mostly because I took the time to try to give you some fairly honest advice in my first reply to your OP.

You now are talking like you know all about Japanese women, but in the begining you were asking how to talk to them as you had no experience with dealing with Japanese women.

Which greentea are we supposed to believe?

Look you want to stick to your fantasies or misconceptions fine, leave the Japanese women to us that actually care about them as "women" first and Japanese sometime afterwards.

I have a hard time believing that you will find happiness with any woman from anywhere with the preconceived misconceptions that you have about what women are or should be like.

What else do you want, you dont seem willing to take anyones advice so far, whats your point?

 

[yukio_michael]

Very good... especially like the kotatsu scenario. 窶堋ｨ窶堙ｪ窶堙才?ｪ窶忸窶堙?窶堋ｱ窶堋ｽ窶堙や?堙俄?愿ｼ窶堋｢窶堋ｽ窶堋ｱ窶堙??堋ｪ窶堙遺?堋｢....

Now come to think of it, I am yet to meet a Japanese girl who has a kotatsu at her place.

Our kotatsu didn't work, or I never figured out how to to work it... but we did put the blanket over it... oh: when we didn't use it that way, we used it as a breakfast/lunch/table... I miss eating lunch on the floor!

I can tell if someone is Japanese,Ive been around enough Asians to tell the difference.

Based on your previous statements, all your statements actually, I highly doubt this... Second, you seem to have formed an opinion of Asian women based on your creepy observations of them, and not actually, uh, conversing with them.

Boy,Japanese girls got you all beleiving this "were open to every race" stuff lol I dont know,Im not sure I buy it.It just seems that Japanese girls are the most stuck up and have that "japan pride" that prevents them from branching out to other nationalities.

and even if you are lucky enough to get a Japanese girl,the Japanese guys will make sure to kill it for you.They will tell the Japanese girl shes a "sell out" etc for dating you.

Pardon my french, but you seem like kind of a db, uh... maybe you should stick to easy sorority girls who will turn it out at the end of a six-pack... that is if you still maintain this asinine opinion that Japanese girls are "stuck up"...

I think you're probably one of those guys who tries to find an Asian girl and finds out that they'd rather date another Asian, which is common enough in the United States... The people who DO date Asian girls generally have something in common with them, go to school with them, share some sort of interest in them, and woah! It had nothing to do with the fact that the girl caught a glance of you reading a copy of "Asian Babes" on the bus, and thought to her self, "I'm Asian, I think I'd like to lower my self esteem by appealing to a man's basest fantasy..."

Grow up.

ps. If you really have your heart stuck on dating an Asian girl, and I don't even know why now since you seem to completely discredit them, move to a country, hell, any Asian country, and whammo... You'd be hard pressed not to find an Asian girlfriend... that is, unless you maintain the type of attitude you've ascribed to yourself in this thread.

Maybe you'll get lucky and find a girl with low self esteem who actually likes being jerked around.

 

[greentea]

Look what's it going to take? Do you need a ton of bricks to fall on your head before you realize that your assumptions are off track here?
You have managed to side step a few comments and questions placed before you and I for one am a bit disappointed, mostly because I took the time to try to give you some fairly honest advice in my first reply to your OP.
You now are talking like you know all about Japanese women, but in the begining you were asking how to talk to them as you had no experience with dealing with Japanese women.
Which greentea are we supposed to believe?
Look you want to stick to your fantasies or misconceptions fine, leave the Japanese women to us that actually care about them as "women" first and Japanese sometime afterwards.
I have a hard time believing that you will find happiness with any woman from anywhere with the preconceived misconceptions that you have about what women are or should be like.
What else do you want, you dont seem willing to take anyones advice so far, whats your point?

actually I appreciated all the great advise until I started getting mocked regarding 'kid gloves' and told I was not mature because of my OP.

I think you're probably one of those guys who tries to find an Asian girl and finds out that they'd rather date another Asian, which is common enough in the United States..

actually Asian girls in America are more open minded in my opinion,especially the ones who were born here.I find the ones from Asia to be much more closed minded and stuck on thier own race.You know like the Japanese girls from Japan that come to America on vacation,they wont even be friendly to Americans when they are here.I was at Disneyland about a month ago and this American lady offered to let these 2 Japanese girls cut in line because she was going to leave,and the Japanese girls like didnt say thanks or anything,in fact they would barely even look at the lady! Its just so rude!