How can you tell if a guy is in love?
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Hezam
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Ha ha very true Hezam.
Love is so broken and perverted in the minds of so many.
True love is something you can only give,
You cannot receive.
Just as you cannot receive true hate.
You can only give it.
It is also something that is not limited to a single person.
One can love many people all at the same time.
And it does not in reality detract from the love they give any individual person.
Love is nearly unique in this,
Yet strangely we like to do all we can to undo this
Love is so broken and perverted in the minds of so many.
True love is something you can only give,
You cannot receive.
Just as you cannot receive true hate.
You can only give it.
It is also something that is not limited to a single person.
One can love many people all at the same time.
And it does not in reality detract from the love they give any individual person.
Love is nearly unique in this,
Yet strangely we like to do all we can to undo this
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nabemono
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You see things in me nobody else can see. My heart has made it clear. You are it for me.
>>> T_________T i just only want one person to say that lines to me till the end....
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True love is something you can only give,
You cannot receive.
Just as you cannot receive true hate.
You can only give it.
>>>why are we can't receive true hate and true love??? why are we can just receive it? im confused. 0_0
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so LOVE is just a trial and error process??? i want someone who will love me first and i will be his last. till the end its only me and him. ^________________^ do you ever fell in love NANGI-KUN???
the reason is maybe the disappointment for ex :
a girl fall in love with a boy and she thinks that he's the best boy ever, also she thinks that he will always stay with her forever, but unfortunately she may discover something unexpectable in his personality which occurs the break up !
" Winds do not blow as the ships wish" that's life !
a girl fall in love with a boy and she thinks that he's the best boy ever, also she thinks that he will always stay with her forever, but unfortunately she may discover something unexpectable in his personality which occurs the break up !
" Winds do not blow as the ships wish" that's life !
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If he says he wants sex , then he is in love. (Until the next person comes along)
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'woowww, sugoi!!!'
kinda, all cadavers usually have equal temperatrure everywhere, definitely, they are not in love :?
Do You have thermometer? Remember, old fashioned mercury ones has better precision than electronical.
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The question of the header and content of the OP really don't match too well. Getting a real and useful answer to a question is greatly helped by being clear. And no, I don't think its a language problem.
How do you really know if anyone ever loved another? Is it the way they act? That might not be love, but just their character. Or it could be an act. Both could well explain lifelong love and expose it for a myth.
Or, the definition of love might be the problem. Sometimes what I seem to see among long lasting couples is more of a mutual affection and appreciation and a high desire to function as a couple. But I hesitate to call that love. I mean, its a kind of love, but not the kind I usually think of as true love or romantic love. Its more of a family sort of love. Often the heavy kissing days are over.
As far as romantic love goes, I have difficulty believing anyone ever did. The science on the subject is far from perfect or complete, but the phenomenon of being "crazy in love" lasts for only one or two years and has a chemical component. I have experienced this only once in my life, at least on a mutual level (not sure if a one-sided crush or infatuation is the same). Its an incredible feeling. I felt so alive! The grass was greener and the days were brighter. But when I fell out of love everything was horrible. I say I experience it only once, but I am not completely sure. I may have experienced it to a lesser extent several times. But that one big time really sticks out as the real deal.
I don't think that sort of love is very common. I think a person is lucky to have that experience a few times in their life. In fact, I think those that claim to love only one have never experienced that sort of hot crazy love. They may be incapable or just lucky/unlucky.
What I think is important to accept is that we are all different in this respect and that is fine. Some want one person forever and some want to move on to someone new. Neither is any better than the other. All we can do is try to find a middle ground where no one is finding a new partner every few months and no is insanely angry because they got dumped and figures their love life must end now. And variety is still the spice of life. But if some people are happy with plain porridge, its their choice. However it does bother me a bit when people get overly adamant and zealous about promoting that plain porridge to others. What I am talking about is 19th century Victorian principles of human socio-sexual stagnation. If you love it fine, live it. But its definitely not for me and I will fight to not have it foisted on me.
How do you really know if anyone ever loved another? Is it the way they act? That might not be love, but just their character. Or it could be an act. Both could well explain lifelong love and expose it for a myth.
Or, the definition of love might be the problem. Sometimes what I seem to see among long lasting couples is more of a mutual affection and appreciation and a high desire to function as a couple. But I hesitate to call that love. I mean, its a kind of love, but not the kind I usually think of as true love or romantic love. Its more of a family sort of love. Often the heavy kissing days are over.
As far as romantic love goes, I have difficulty believing anyone ever did. The science on the subject is far from perfect or complete, but the phenomenon of being "crazy in love" lasts for only one or two years and has a chemical component. I have experienced this only once in my life, at least on a mutual level (not sure if a one-sided crush or infatuation is the same). Its an incredible feeling. I felt so alive! The grass was greener and the days were brighter. But when I fell out of love everything was horrible. I say I experience it only once, but I am not completely sure. I may have experienced it to a lesser extent several times. But that one big time really sticks out as the real deal.
I don't think that sort of love is very common. I think a person is lucky to have that experience a few times in their life. In fact, I think those that claim to love only one have never experienced that sort of hot crazy love. They may be incapable or just lucky/unlucky.
What I think is important to accept is that we are all different in this respect and that is fine. Some want one person forever and some want to move on to someone new. Neither is any better than the other. All we can do is try to find a middle ground where no one is finding a new partner every few months and no is insanely angry because they got dumped and figures their love life must end now. And variety is still the spice of life. But if some people are happy with plain porridge, its their choice. However it does bother me a bit when people get overly adamant and zealous about promoting that plain porridge to others. What I am talking about is 19th century Victorian principles of human socio-sexual stagnation. If you love it fine, live it. But its definitely not for me and I will fight to not have it foisted on me.
BrianLewis
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Everyone is different. You can't generalize humanity like that. Some people crave physical affection more than friendship. Some people don't even consider their love a friend. Some just claim it's love so they fit into society, but don't even regard their partner as a fellow human. It all depends on the person.
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Romantic dogma totally devoid of any attempts at observation of humanity or fairness to human variety.
Some people do not experience love that lasts until death, and its not because they did not "find the right one" or suffer some sort of defect, well, at least not all of them.
Concepts of uniform human ability and emotional experience are poetic license and dreams. They are just fine until you insist they are real and try to enforce conformity on people for whom it just does not and cannot fit. Reminds me of Ann Landers, and I don't mean in a good way. Her relationship advice was pretty much based on the idea of everyone being cut from the same cookie cutter.
No, there is nothing inherently wrong with people who do not experience "eternal love". In fact, I think its more likely there may be something wrong with people who do! I think they are the minority!
Alecksander
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I agree with this. It's very rare to find people who experience "eternal" love. Forget the fact that we have no way of quantifying what "eternal" love even is but just finding people who stay in love with someone for their lifetime is rarer still. Human emotions are extremely complicated.
I've experienced true love and would have done anything for that person but there are many other factors (finances, personal circumstances, geography) that can affect whether you STAY in love with that person. I haven't been in love since we split up but I know without a doubt I will fall in love someone else...
