Fighting with host family
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dadako
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- 1 Dec 2003
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I know what its like to have a struggle in Japan... I fought with my boss most days, and rented an apartment off him.
My best advice is to learn as much Japanese as possible so you can talk to the host family, try to practice your Japanese on them as much as possible, try to enter the group and not let them reject you. From what it sounds like, they have communication problems with you and you with them.
Knowledge is power and in your case, learning Japanese as much as possible would give you 10 times more power to change your situation.
BTW you can cash travellers cheques at almost any department store.
My best advice is to learn as much Japanese as possible so you can talk to the host family, try to practice your Japanese on them as much as possible, try to enter the group and not let them reject you. From what it sounds like, they have communication problems with you and you with them.
Knowledge is power and in your case, learning Japanese as much as possible would give you 10 times more power to change your situation.
BTW you can cash travellers cheques at almost any department store.
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ya maybe I should learn ( hey get off your *** and clean that toilet) that would be useful.
I try to have a conversation, my host brother is a ahou he can`t talk with his finger up his nose. When I try to talk to him he tells me (urusai! , terebi)
My host mother is a fat hoe, who only talks to me at dinner time when her mouth is full of rice. When she`s not eating she`s lying in the air conditioned part of the house where I`m not allowed. Then she comes on my side where the fridge is and tells me atsu na?
My host father leaves home early comes back late, goes to sleep.
I try to have a conversation, my host brother is a ahou he can`t talk with his finger up his nose. When I try to talk to him he tells me (urusai! , terebi)
My host mother is a fat hoe, who only talks to me at dinner time when her mouth is full of rice. When she`s not eating she`s lying in the air conditioned part of the house where I`m not allowed. Then she comes on my side where the fridge is and tells me atsu na?
My host father leaves home early comes back late, goes to sleep.
DragonChan
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- 21 Jul 2004
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Luc, that really really sucks. I can't beleive they even wanted to be hosts ><
The fact that you have places that you're not allowed is horrible. I hope that you get a new host ASAP.
The fact that you have places that you're not allowed is horrible. I hope that you get a new host ASAP.
Why in the name of God would those people want to host a student in the first place? If all they want to do is make his life miserable, what's the point?
I could try and teach you a few swear words in Spanish if you like. Then you can scream obscenities at them and they'll have no idea what you're saying.
I could try and teach you a few swear words in Spanish if you like. Then you can scream obscenities at them and they'll have no idea what you're saying.
kirei_na_me
Where I'm Supposed to Be
- 31 Jan 2003
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I can't believe this, Luc. It's making me mad just thinking about it. I can just imagine how your parents feel. I bet your mom feels like going over there and kicking some arse. I know I would.
I also agree with what dadako said. You need to arm yourself with knowledge of Japanese. Also, don't lose your cool. That will just make it worse. They'll just think you're crazy.
Have you heard anything from your agency(or whatever you call it)? Are they going to try to put you with another family soon? I really hope so.
I also agree with what dadako said. You need to arm yourself with knowledge of Japanese. Also, don't lose your cool. That will just make it worse. They'll just think you're crazy.
Have you heard anything from your agency(or whatever you call it)? Are they going to try to put you with another family soon? I really hope so.
Foxtrot Uniform
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- 30 May 2004
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Luc said:
Good God... Staying there must be a living hell... I would seriously go insane if I was in that situation.
This is probably the wrong thing to do as it will probably get you killed, but have you tried intimidating them by getting really pissed off and yelling at them in English and throwing in a few "Ora! Baka-yaro"'s in for added effect, while throwing chawans and zabutons and kicking the table? Maybe this will make them more obedient and actually treat you like a human being.
And if all else fails, terminate them with extreme prejudice.
This is probably a REAL long shot but have you thought of going to the (insert your country here) embassy? Maybe someone there can hook you up with a better family or may be willing to take you in for a while. Or maybe they have some strings they can pull for you.
Can you back out of your stay early? I realize that's not the ideal alternative but going home might be better than being miserable the whole time.
Most large universities in the US have campus lawyers you can talk to. Do you have a resource like that?
If you're beginning to lose your mind, look me up and we can play some Starcraf to take your mind off the pain.
You have my sympathies. And it takes a lot of balls to put up with everything you have.
Can you back out of your stay early? I realize that's not the ideal alternative but going home might be better than being miserable the whole time.
Most large universities in the US have campus lawyers you can talk to. Do you have a resource like that?
If you're beginning to lose your mind, look me up and we can play some Starcraf to take your mind off the pain.
You have my sympathies. And it takes a lot of balls to put up with everything you have.
jieshi
Japaustralian
- 5 May 2004
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Has anyone else seen the episode of the simpsons where bart goes as an exchang student to france only to be abused and used as a slave by his host family? I must say this situation sounds very similar! Kinda scary the simpsons is that true to life. Hang in there man do you have friends at your host school who could take you? find out these people sound like nasty pieces of work. keep that cool of yours, dont lose it with them and then you should be fine
man, i think its the opposite with me
my hate my host dad, i have been living with thei host familiy for 6 months now and i just cant take it anymore. i thought i could tolerate his strictness but its got the the point where i just cant go out anymore! Anger has just built up in me that i feel like punching him. I try to keep my distance so this doesnt happen. i going to get in contact with the person in charge and try and get things sorted out.
but i know exacty how you feel man....
my hate my host dad, i have been living with thei host familiy for 6 months now and i just cant take it anymore. i thought i could tolerate his strictness but its got the the point where i just cant go out anymore! Anger has just built up in me that i feel like punching him. I try to keep my distance so this doesnt happen. i going to get in contact with the person in charge and try and get things sorted out.
but i know exacty how you feel man....
- 21 Nov 2004
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advice
just leave them fighting *family quarrells* just gointo ur room n let them fight if it gets too serious get into itLuc said:
cyber ape
先輩
- 25 Nov 2004
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Dang Luc, I wish we cuold swap places, because I'm sick of living with Americans, even if they are kind parents, I wanna live in Japan. Besides, my father also has an anger problem, so living with ur dad would be easy breezy.
As for advice that's actually going to happen, I'd recommend anger management, but make it so he actually goes.
As for advice that's actually going to happen, I'd recommend anger management, but make it so he actually goes.
Kei_Shugojin
先輩
- 8 Sep 2004
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well, I would reccomend just making sure that you can get help from someone quickly if things escalate. Then, just wait it out until you get transferred, and hope that that family works out it's problems.
and, cyber ape, you've ranted enough about your issues in other forums. Try to stay on-topic.
and, cyber ape, you've ranted enough about your issues in other forums. Try to stay on-topic.
