I sometimes go to a language conversation cafe in Tokyo for the evening and chat to Japanese people (mostly young) who want to practise their English. You'll be happy to know that I rarely encounter that type of young woman. Yes, these people who want to speak English are not representative of the Japanese population, but neither are YouTube vox pops ('But we're
kawaii – isn't that enough, goddam it?!').
As the title says.
This girl and I (same age) have been on three dates so far and all three have been really fun. Recently though, there have been some lapses in communication timings. Something like a day or two before answering a question, I understand that she may be busy. On the last date we went to a movie together and I wanted to confess to her, but couldn't find the timing and also was really nervous. After the date I messaged her and she said she had a really good time and was happy that I went to go see her. Did I blow my chance with this girl or am I just overthinking this?
You sound young, I will impart what wisdom I can. You are likely nervous, so is she. Thinking of that makes it a bit easier. Just try to be attentive and focus on having a good time with her. The more you get out and engage with women the easier it gets. The more experience, the more confidence. Eventually you won't get nervous at all, that takes years. Confidence is important, I suspect women can smell fear!
If ever in doubt, compliment her, tell her how pretty she is. Women never tire of hearing that. The last bit of advice, take her somewhere nice but within your budget. Maybe ask her what places are good so you know what she likes.
