I agree that it is important to remember what is "important" in life.. But I can't help noticing that many of the posters here have a bias towards a steady marriage, or in any case downplay these feelings and attraction towards this other person to "distractions". I don't mean to say that people should abandon all steady relationships and go at it, but there is a chance that you might meet someone that makes you feel like he/she can offer you a happier life than you have now. Saying these are just glitches of the mind seems like a bit disrespectful towards the wonders of human interaction.No need to beat yourself up over an attraction to someone other than your spouse. Everyone needs a healthy distraction (or two) once in awhile just as long as you don't forget what's truly important in your life.
Distance and differences to the extent they are managable I think are the ideal both to put your own life in better perspective, for the children to widen their horizons, etc. But the bitterness of separation or unfulfilled expectations, if those are there, can fill a person with such resentment and total lack of control over their partner's situation they almost feel like ending it all.Having said what I did, I think the best love can can be found right under your nose.
I think we go to too many lengths trying to find "true love". Some comb the internet, some travel the world, but I think in many cases, the love of your life might be in your own backyard. I have to admit, I was one who was always seeking someone "different". Someone who was from another country, someone who was halfway across this country, someone who was a lot older than me, etc., but I found what I always wanted just a mile or two down the road...
Hm, I don't know, I still had a weewee last time I checked@ rocklee: great! Another Belgian! ..who loves Finland! are you sure you're not secretly my second identity? ;-)
as for online love, I don't know. I haven't had any experience yet, but I think.. ..I know someone who does, and she's been "dating" with the guy for about 2 months now, and they seem really happy and in love, so, yeah I guess it's possible..