A big hello from London

[WhiteRabbit]

Hi guys,

my name is Ina and I'm German, but living at the moment in London. Nice to meet you

Currently I'm doing research on relationship constellations of Japanese and Western Europeans and need to collect data through an online survey. Mainly, I'm interested in the interesting question why there are quite some Westernman-Japanesewoman couples, but comparatively few Westernwoman-Japaneseman couples. Guess you have discussed that already to death, but still would be great to get some opinions on that, and even better, to get in contact with some Japanese who are interested in this topic and maybe willing to help me out with me survey

As I haven't been in a forum for about 10 years or so, it would be great if you could give me some advice on where to post this question and maybe some suggestions about finding participants.

Cheers a lot,
Ina

 

[Londoner]

Hello Ina,

I'm sorry I can't help you with this topic because I'm an English girl and have a German boyfriend but still find it's an interesting subject.. It's not just Western men - Japanese women, but also Western men - Filipino women, - Thai women etc. I also wondered why it's never the other way round.. Hope someone can help you with your research and would be glad if you kept us updated on the results. You could also create a new thread on this topic, couldn't you?

 

[HighLam]

Not far from my house!
I come from France

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Hey you two, thanks for your replies. Nice to meet you (really like the smileys here, they are really upgraded and adapted to Japanese cuteness) Bonjour madam, ca va?

Yeah, I'm happy you are interested in my research topic. Was actually thinking about opening a new thread, but seems people are not that interested But will definetly think about it. But yes, I heard it's not just the Japanese, but mostly all other Asian countries. And also, I heard that Japanese men start more and more to look for women from other Asian countries as their own women are getting more and more interested in the West. Really interesting development! It would have been really amazing to extend this research, but as it's only for master thesis and I've got a background in Japanese Studies, focusing on this couple constellations was the most tempting one
What's the relation with Japan with you two?

 

[SevenStarsHK2N]

Hey Ina,

I think the answer may be two part. first being biological, the Second being sociological.

The biological i'm not going to mention in depth, but i think you know what i mean, after all we are talking about sexual relationships here.

In terms of the sociological. Men still tend to take the lead, When a Westerner has a relationship with a Japanese, they tend to live in the west.
Because a western country will be more accepting and open to foreigners than Japan.
Regarding Mixed Race children especially, you would want your children living in the west.
Lest they get bullied and called Halfu

But yea, In general, let me just repeat that.
In general. the woman tends to be submissive to the man in a relationship.
That is not to say that the woman doesn't make decisions or have power.
Most relationships tend to be 50-50, yet when it comes to a tie breaker. The man will put his foot down, or let the woman have her way.

This combines with:
The White woman will be having to deal with racism if in Japan
The man may feel secondary to the woman if they live in the west, thus is unlikely to want to settle in the west.
Also by tradition, he would forfeit any inheritance due by doing so (again, in tradition).

Also, Japan and Asia in general tend to have the relationship model that the west had in the 50's.
And while many support this model, and think it is a good thing, It goes against feminist ideals, which have become standard in western culture.

In Japan a woman is expected to do all the cooking, all the cleaning, etc.
So if you are a western woman, These will be duties that you are expecting to share equally.
Not so if you are with a Japanese man.
Again, In a relationship the man on the whole has the tie breaker.
If the man expects his "wife" to do all the cooking and cleaning, then he will not get on well with a woman who expects him to cook and clean as much as her.

This combine with the biological aspect, make Japanese men an unatractive prospect as husband for the modern liberated European woman.