Hi guys, I've no idea who to ask and I have no experience with dating a Japanese girl. I gonna be straight forward and if I did something weird/wrong, please tell me. I'm totally open to any advice and sorry if I offend/disgrace any Japanese here.
So here's the story(I try my best to summarized it)...
I met her on Tinder a month ago, we chat for a bit and found out that she mistaken me as a Japanese because of my photos. Even though we have language barrier, we did manage to meet up the following week.
I feel in love with her on our first met, probably because of her cute appearance. We tried our best to chat, just to know each other more even thought we have language barrier. Apparently her English its not that great, same goes to my Japanese as well. Maybe love at first sight blinded me, I told her that I like her and would like to spend more time with her while I try to master my Japanese. She did mention that she want to improve her English as well so we hang out for 2 days straight and I even end up at her apartment on both nights.
On the first day everything seems normal, we hang out, have a drink, went to for groceries, dinner, then we end up at her apartment. We sat at the living room and chat again. This is when things started to change, I told her that I like her and I hope we could spend more time together. As we talk, we started to have some physical interactions such as in touches and hugs. I assume that is a "OK" sign and I was so happy about it. I went home after that and she texted me, thanking me for meeting up with her even though I stayed 40mins drive away from her.
I woke up the following day, wasn't expecting to meet up with her again. But then she told me, she is lonely and just got back from shopping in the evening. I told her if I could come over and she is okay. So I went to her place and chat again. I even brought my Japanese Language book just to practice my Japanese with her while I taught her some English as well. We did get a bit comfy and started kissing... then she said, she is tired, so we went to cuddle for about an hour and then follow up with some "sexy time". I'm aware that things escalate very quickly so I asked if she could be my girl friend since we did these kind of stuff already. She didn't reject my propose(maybe she did) and told me that we should take things slowly so we could understand each other more.
I was okay with that and I asked hows her relationships before this, apparently she have not been into many relationships but she broke up with her ex boy friends because she is planning to work in Malaysia. She told me that she wanted a guy who doesn't cheat, so I assume she is kinda loyal in relationship which makes me want her even more. She did mention if I want to stay over night with her but I can't because it's too sudden and I don't want to be questioned by my parents yet. I plan to tell them after our relationship is stable so I gave her a hug and kiss before I left.
Since that day until now, I've been texting her almost everyday. Trying to understand her even more but she kept said she is busy with overtime work & friends. We didn't get to meet up either. I'm fine with her hanging out with colleague and friends since everyone have their on privacy time as well. I asked her if I can come over for 30mins or an hour just to keep in touch with her, knowing that she have work on the next day. But she rejected... few days ago, I happened to be near her apartment, so I went there and waited for her in my car. I text her saying "It is okay if I see you for a while and then I'll leave? I don't mind to wait for you.", she rejected again saying she is still with her friend.
We did followed each other on Instagram as well and I found out that she blocked me from viewing her Instagram stories. Maybe she doesn't want anyone know we're together yet since its so early? I did tagged her once in one of my Instagram story and post on our second meet up. I did research a bit on "Dating a Japanese girl Guide", it says that Japanese will keep their relationship to themselves first before letting their parents/friends know about it?
I miss her every single day and wanted to see her in real but I couldn't. My parents already knew about her, I told them last week and I thought we will be fine. Unfortunately, things turn out this way and I'm confused. My instinct told me, maybe I'm just a "another friend" to her. But she told me that is loyal and we should take things slowly. I'm so lost right now. I hated this feeling where you miss someone but you can't do anything about it.
Come think of it, she rarely ask anything about me. Maybe because of language barrier? Or maybe she doesn't have any interest on me at all? I've no idea... even until to this moment as I'm posting this...
Please advice and ask me anything if you want to know more. Oneigaishimasu.
So here's the story(I try my best to summarized it)...
I met her on Tinder a month ago, we chat for a bit and found out that she mistaken me as a Japanese because of my photos. Even though we have language barrier, we did manage to meet up the following week.
I feel in love with her on our first met, probably because of her cute appearance. We tried our best to chat, just to know each other more even thought we have language barrier. Apparently her English its not that great, same goes to my Japanese as well. Maybe love at first sight blinded me, I told her that I like her and would like to spend more time with her while I try to master my Japanese. She did mention that she want to improve her English as well so we hang out for 2 days straight and I even end up at her apartment on both nights.
On the first day everything seems normal, we hang out, have a drink, went to for groceries, dinner, then we end up at her apartment. We sat at the living room and chat again. This is when things started to change, I told her that I like her and I hope we could spend more time together. As we talk, we started to have some physical interactions such as in touches and hugs. I assume that is a "OK" sign and I was so happy about it. I went home after that and she texted me, thanking me for meeting up with her even though I stayed 40mins drive away from her.
I woke up the following day, wasn't expecting to meet up with her again. But then she told me, she is lonely and just got back from shopping in the evening. I told her if I could come over and she is okay. So I went to her place and chat again. I even brought my Japanese Language book just to practice my Japanese with her while I taught her some English as well. We did get a bit comfy and started kissing... then she said, she is tired, so we went to cuddle for about an hour and then follow up with some "sexy time". I'm aware that things escalate very quickly so I asked if she could be my girl friend since we did these kind of stuff already. She didn't reject my propose(maybe she did) and told me that we should take things slowly so we could understand each other more.
I was okay with that and I asked hows her relationships before this, apparently she have not been into many relationships but she broke up with her ex boy friends because she is planning to work in Malaysia. She told me that she wanted a guy who doesn't cheat, so I assume she is kinda loyal in relationship which makes me want her even more. She did mention if I want to stay over night with her but I can't because it's too sudden and I don't want to be questioned by my parents yet. I plan to tell them after our relationship is stable so I gave her a hug and kiss before I left.
Since that day until now, I've been texting her almost everyday. Trying to understand her even more but she kept said she is busy with overtime work & friends. We didn't get to meet up either. I'm fine with her hanging out with colleague and friends since everyone have their on privacy time as well. I asked her if I can come over for 30mins or an hour just to keep in touch with her, knowing that she have work on the next day. But she rejected... few days ago, I happened to be near her apartment, so I went there and waited for her in my car. I text her saying "It is okay if I see you for a while and then I'll leave? I don't mind to wait for you.", she rejected again saying she is still with her friend.
We did followed each other on Instagram as well and I found out that she blocked me from viewing her Instagram stories. Maybe she doesn't want anyone know we're together yet since its so early? I did tagged her once in one of my Instagram story and post on our second meet up. I did research a bit on "Dating a Japanese girl Guide", it says that Japanese will keep their relationship to themselves first before letting their parents/friends know about it?
I miss her every single day and wanted to see her in real but I couldn't. My parents already knew about her, I told them last week and I thought we will be fine. Unfortunately, things turn out this way and I'm confused. My instinct told me, maybe I'm just a "another friend" to her. But she told me that is loyal and we should take things slowly. I'm so lost right now. I hated this feeling where you miss someone but you can't do anything about it.
Come think of it, she rarely ask anything about me. Maybe because of language barrier? Or maybe she doesn't have any interest on me at all? I've no idea... even until to this moment as I'm posting this...
Please advice and ask me anything if you want to know more. Oneigaishimasu.