pauro12
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- 14 Apr 2013
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I don't know if this belongs here or on the chit chat category.. Anyway..
"I've been in a lot of trauma. I have a long term of trauma against dogs because I got bitten by our own dog twice when I was approximately about 4 yrs old. SO whenever there's a effin dog, even if it's a puppy, I will swear to anyone some apologies because I will seriously hold on to you out of fear. Though this is not the main problem......
This is the main problem. I've had an experience of being cheated like caught on the act. Now I've developed a trauma over it, and whenever I hear/saw my girlfriend chatting or texting some random guys, I used to get angry. I guess she's sincere to our relationship but I'm 100% sure that those sh*ts had a crush on her, though she can't just tell our relationship to the public because of some reasons (some of you know why). Now we've had some quarrel because I tend to control her friends as I don't want her making friends with some random sh*t, but she doesn't understands my point of having a trauma so I guess that's unfair. So basically, if you're me, should I understand her instead? Or she should understand me because I have a trauma over it which is so difficult to control and will usually makes me anxious.
To know more about trauma, I'll provide articles from wikipedia, I'm a nurse so I'm 100% sure that I suffer from this (nurses are permitted to DIAGNOSE mental health problems)
""Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the psyche that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event.
A traumatic event involves a single experience, or an enduring or repeating event or events, that completely overwhelm the individual's ability to cope or integrate the ideas and emotions involved with that experience. The sense of being overwhelmed can be delayed by weeks, years or even decades, as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances. Psychological trauma can lead to serious long-term negative consequences that are often overlooked even by mental health professionals: ""If clinicians fail to look through a trauma lens and to conceptualize client problems as related possibly to current or past trauma, they may fail to see that trauma victims, young and old, organize much of their lives around repetitive patterns of reliving and warding off traumatic memories, reminders, and affects.""[1]
Trauma can be caused by a wide variety of events, but there are a few common aspects. There is frequently a violation of the person's familiar ideas about the world, putting the person in a state of extreme confusion and insecurity. This is also seen when people or institutions, depended on for survival, violate or betray or disillusion the person in some unforeseen way.[2]
Psychological trauma may accompany physical trauma or exist independently of it. Typical causes and dangers of psychological trauma are harassment, sexual abuse, employment discrimination, police brutality, bullying, domestic violence, indoctrination, being the victim of an alcoholic parent, the threat of either, or the witnessing of either, particularly in childhood, life-threatening medical conditions, medication-induced trauma.[3] Catastrophic events such as earthquakes and volcanic eruptions, war or other mass violence can also cause psychological trauma. Long-term exposure to situations such as extreme poverty or milder forms of abuse, such as verbal abuse, can be traumatic (though verbal abuse can also potentially be traumatic as a single event).
However, different people will react differently to similar events. One person may experience an event as traumatic while another person might not. In other words, not all people who experience a potentially traumatic event will actually become psychologically traumatized.[4]
Some theories suggest childhood trauma can lead to violent behavior, possibly as extreme as serial murder. For example, Hickey's Trauma-Control Model suggests that ""childhood trauma for serial murderers may serve as a triggering mechanism resulting in an individual's inability to cope with the stress of certain events.""
- wikipedia
So thoughts? Any advice I should do?"
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"I've been in a lot of trauma. I have a long term of trauma against dogs because I got bitten by our own dog twice when I was approximately about 4 yrs old. SO whenever there's a effin dog, even if it's a puppy, I will swear to anyone some apologies because I will seriously hold on to you out of fear. Though this is not the main problem......
This is the main problem. I've had an experience of being cheated like caught on the act. Now I've developed a trauma over it, and whenever I hear/saw my girlfriend chatting or texting some random guys, I used to get angry. I guess she's sincere to our relationship but I'm 100% sure that those sh*ts had a crush on her, though she can't just tell our relationship to the public because of some reasons (some of you know why). Now we've had some quarrel because I tend to control her friends as I don't want her making friends with some random sh*t, but she doesn't understands my point of having a trauma so I guess that's unfair. So basically, if you're me, should I understand her instead? Or she should understand me because I have a trauma over it which is so difficult to control and will usually makes me anxious.
To know more about trauma, I'll provide articles from wikipedia, I'm a nurse so I'm 100% sure that I suffer from this (nurses are permitted to DIAGNOSE mental health problems)
""Psychological trauma is a type of damage to the psyche that occurs as a result of a severely distressing event.
A traumatic event involves a single experience, or an enduring or repeating event or events, that completely overwhelm the individual's ability to cope or integrate the ideas and emotions involved with that experience. The sense of being overwhelmed can be delayed by weeks, years or even decades, as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances. Psychological trauma can lead to serious long-term negative consequences that are often overlooked even by mental health professionals: ""If clinicians fail to look through a trauma lens and to conceptualize client problems as related possibly to current or past trauma, they may fail to see that trauma victims, young and old, organize much of their lives around repetitive patterns of reliving and warding off traumatic memories, reminders, and affects.""[1]
Trauma can be caused by a wide variety of events, but there are a few common aspects. There is frequently a violation of the person's familiar ideas about the world, putting the person in a state of extreme confusion and insecurity. This is also seen when people or institutions, depended on for survival, violate or betray or disillusion the person in some unforeseen way.[2]
Psychological trauma may accompany physical trauma or exist independently of it. Typical causes and dangers of psychological trauma are harassment, sexual abuse, employment discrimination, police brutality, bullying, domestic violence, indoctrination, being the victim of an alcoholic parent, the threat of either, or the witnessing of either, particularly in childhood, life-threatening medical conditions, medication-induced trauma.[3] Catastrophic events such as earthquakes and volcanic eruptions, war or other mass violence can also cause psychological trauma. Long-term exposure to situations such as extreme poverty or milder forms of abuse, such as verbal abuse, can be traumatic (though verbal abuse can also potentially be traumatic as a single event).
However, different people will react differently to similar events. One person may experience an event as traumatic while another person might not. In other words, not all people who experience a potentially traumatic event will actually become psychologically traumatized.[4]
Some theories suggest childhood trauma can lead to violent behavior, possibly as extreme as serial murder. For example, Hickey's Trauma-Control Model suggests that ""childhood trauma for serial murderers may serve as a triggering mechanism resulting in an individual's inability to cope with the stress of certain events.""
- wikipedia
So thoughts? Any advice I should do?"
:?
:?:?:?:
