Why do so many foreigners marry Japanese women?

[Ewok85]

why do so many foreigners date japanese women? bottom line,japanese women find foreigners hot,and foreigners find japanese women hot..end of story.

Why? Because I have met only 3 foreign women during my last 18 months here, and have met a few dozen Japanese women in the last 24hours...

Its all about numbers people.

 

[greentea]

I dont think there is anything wrong with having a preference and not settling for anything less.If the guy is set on marrying a Japanese/Okinawan girl,then so what? thats his cup of tea.

I get so tiresome of people trying to come off like the morale high ground when it comes to race preferences."love everyone,you should be color blind when it comes to love blah blah blah"...look,NOBODY is blind when it comes to love,everyone has thier preferences that they demand from the opposite sex.To some it might be brunettes,or blondes,to others it might be rich guys,spunky women or people that drive nice cars...whatever it is,people have thier certain preferences that they are not willing to compromise on.
If a guy only wants to marry a Japanese girl because that is what makes him happy,then who are we to tell him that that is not the way to live and he should settle for something less? yes love the women your with because of WHO she is,but you dont have to give up Japanese girls or go for a differnet race to get a girl that you connect with emotionally.Its not a "one way or the other" type of situation.

if you want a Japanese wife...GO FOR IT! never let anyone tell you its not right or its cruel to exclude other races,because its not.There will be plenty of other guys out there looking for white girls,latin girls,black girls or korean girls etc..you have NO obligation to give equal time to all races,if your preference is Japanese,go for it.Dont settle.
just my 2 cents.

 

[maushan3]

I dont think there is anything wrong with having a preference and not settling for anything less.If the guy is set on marrying a Japanese/Okinawan girl,then so what? thats his cup of tea.
I get so tiresome of people trying to come off like the morale high ground when it comes to race preferences."love everyone,you should be color blind when it comes to love blah blah blah"...look,NOBODY is blind when it comes to love,everyone has thier preferences that they demand from the opposite sex.To some it might be brunettes,or blondes,to others it might be rich guys,spunky women or people that drive nice cars...whatever it is,people have thier certain preferences that they are not willing to compromise on.
If a guy only wants to marry a Japanese girl because that is what makes him happy,then who are we to tell him that that is not the way to live and he should settle for something less? yes love the women your with because of WHO she is,but you dont have to give up Japanese girls or go for a differnet race to get a girl that you connect with emotionally.Its not a "one way or the other" type of situation.
if you want a Japanese wife...GO FOR IT! never let anyone tell you its not right or its cruel to exclude other races,because its not.There will be plenty of other guys out there looking for white girls,latin girls,black girls or korean girls etc..you have NO obligation to give equal time to all races,if your preference is Japanese,go for it.Dont settle.
just my 2 cents.

This, I think, has always been the case... We see a lot of race preservation when we go out on the streets, it is, still nowadays, rather rare to see multi-racial couples and children. It is just that many peopl would rather be quiet about it, which is a very smart move.

Mauricio

 

[KirinMan]

I tell myself that I will not look at this thread anymore, but it's just like a bad traffic accident I just gotta look. I can not believe all the stuff you guys believe about women.

Come on now don't bunch all of us up into one group now! Not all of us here are stuck on nationalities when we discuss women. Geez I like all women, it doesnt matter to me what their passport looks like.

I am sorry but I can't date you because I hear woman from your country don't clean their houses.

You can't? It's a wonder then why your husband married you then, are you rich or something?

I'm glad my Japanese husband can use his mind and common sense.

Maybe you'd let him share some of it with the rest of us here.

Question for you Goldiegirl, did you marry your husband because he was a hot Japanese guy or because you just thought he was a hot guy?

Sorry for rhetorical question, I think I already know the answer.

 

[greentea]

This, I think, has always been the case... We see a lot of race preservation when we go out on the streets, it is, still nowadays, rather rare to see multi-racial couples and children. It is just that many peopl would rather be quiet about it, which is a very smart move.
Mauricio

Yes thats true,but the "race preservation" concept is really starting to show some cracks.Interracial dating is on the rise and really shows no sign of slowing down.
Im not sure where you are from,but here in Southern California its not rare to see inter-mixed couples and kids.In fact its very common (especially Asian girl/White guy couples).I guess its different in other areas of the world.

 

[greentea]

Why? Because I have met only 3 foreign women during my last 18 months here, and have met a few dozen Japanese women in the last 24hours...
Its all about numbers people.

Then how come Asian girl/White guy couples are more common than Asian guy/White girl couples? not just in Japan but in the US? if its merely a numbers game,why are we not seeing sian guys with White girls like we do with Asian girls/White guys?

I dont think its a numbers game,for some reason Asian women and White males are drawn to each other,similar to how White women and Black males are drawn to each other.I cant explain why,maybe its something genetic? maybe its cultural? I am not sure,but I dont think its a mere numbers game or mere coincidence,something is at play here.

 

[KirinMan]

not just in Japan but in the US?

FYI, more Japanese men marry foreign women than Japanese women marry foreign men.

 

[Ewok85]

Then how come Asian girl/White guy couples are more common than Asian guy/White girl couples?

They aren't more common, the statistics show that. In your own head it may seem that you are right, but only because your situation only allows you to see that.

What you are saying is downright stupid. If you want to marry or date someone purely based on their nationality, then you are an idiot in my opinion. Its got nothing to do with morals, and it makes me feel sad for the poor person who you may eventually do this with, because you do not like them as a person, you like them merely as an object, because that is what you are doing. Objectifying people based on nationality.

 

[KirinMan]

because you do not like them as a person, you like them merely as an object, because that is what you are doing. Objectifying people based on nationality.

I have to agree with this opinion too. I have also come to realize that certain members posting here will never quite understand what this really means.

No matter how much it is explained to them over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again, they stick to their seemingly closed minded beliefs, it is a shame too, because others have given some very intelligent and thoughful advice that has been too easily dismissed. Sigh........

Now I wonder why they come here in the first place looking for advice when they don't want to accept what people are telling them anyway. 窶｢sﾅｽv窶ｹc da na...!

I've written somewhere on this board that people who get too hung up on the nationality of a person may very well miss out on any number of other potential mates purely because they are too hung up on a nationality or race.

 

[greentea]

FYI, more Japanese men marry foreign women than Japanese women marry foreign men.

according to this scientific study,your wrong.Japanese women marry double the amount of whites than Japanese males

Husbands Japanese 69.2
(164,788) Other Asians 8.8
Whites 17.5
Blacks 0.3
Hispanics/Latinos 2.7

Wives Japanese 50.9
(228,745) Other Asians 5.4
Whites 37.1
Blacks 1.7
Hispanics/Latinos 2.4

Interracial Dating & Marriage : Asian-Nation :: Asian American History, Demographics, & Issues

They aren't more common, the statistics show that. In your own head it may seem that you are right, but only because your situation only allows you to see that.
What you are saying is downright stupid. If you want to marry or date someone purely based on their nationality, then you are an idiot in my opinion. Its got nothing to do with morals, and it makes me feel sad for the poor person who you may eventually do this with, because you do not like them as a person, you like them merely as an object, because that is what you are doing. Objectifying people based on nationality.

Thats not true,being Japanese gets you in the door but the personality has to be there for the person to stick around.Its just like anything else,if a guy likes blondes,he might be attracted to a girl but she still needs the brains and personality to back it up and make it last.

Just because someone prefers Japanese/Asians doesnt mean that they dont care about personality,no more/less than anyone else that has a preference.Whats "idiotic" is to assume that since you prefer Asians and your white,than you must be some objectifying shallow pervert.

and yes,asian/white couples are common:

These days, Asian Americans in interracial relationships are very common. One of the best research articles on this topic is a study conducted by Shinagawa and Pang entitled "Asian American Panethnicity and Intermarriage,"

Interracial Dating & Marriage : Asian-Nation :: Asian American History, Demographics, & Issues

 

[greentea]

I've written somewhere on this board that people who get too hung up on the nationality of a person may very well miss out on any number of other potential mates purely because they are too hung up on a nationality or race.

Do u feel the same way about Japanese girls who ONLY date Asian guys? do you tell them they should date Whites etc becaus they might miss out on a potential mate? lol doubtful,its such a double standard.

What bugs me is that Asian guys get so jealous when a White dates thier race,they take such offense to it,I know alot of Asian guys call girls "sell outs" when they try to date another nationality.

 

[KirinMan]

according to this scientific study,your wrong.Japanese women marry double the amount of whites than Japanese males but I wouldnt want to let the facts get in the way

Let me clarify this, I wrote,

"FYI, more Japanese men marry foreign women than Japanese women marry foreign men" in response to

not just in Japan but in the US?

I should have deleted the US, because in Japan that just ain't true.

厚生労働省：平成18年度「婚姻に関する統計」の概況（人口動態統計特殊報告）

This is in Japanese
and

Ministry of Health releases marriage stats
This is in English.

And you may have overlooked the fact that I intentionally did not specify race either.

So let's not let a little thing like facts get in the way.

 

[KirinMan]

Do u feel the same way about Japanese girls who ONLY date Asian guys? do you tell them they should date Whites etc becaus they might miss out on a potential mate? lol doubtful,its such a double standard.

My advice/opinions on this subject are committed to providing equal opportunity advice to any and all without regard to race, religion, creed, age, sex, height, weight, marital status, disability unrelated to an individual's ability to perform adequately, national origin citizenship, ancestry, or any other characteristic protected by my opinion and law.

To each his or her own, my advice would be the same to them as well.
Instead of writing a new reply to the post below me here I will add this here;

When talking about statistics about Japan, I will trust the Japanese to know best about it's own country than to rely on any statistics from the US Government or US "agency" government or otherwise.

You have to remember that the US isn't too reliable when it comes to having dependable sources for "facts" and "information", hell just ask the guy sitting in the White House right now about that.

 

[greentea]

Let me clarify this, I wrote,
"FYI, more Japanese men marry foreign women than Japanese women marry foreign men" in response to
I should have deleted the US, because in Japan that just ain't true.
厚生労働省：平成18年度「婚姻に関する統計」の概況（人口動態統計特殊報告）
This is in Japanese
and
Ministry of Health releases marriage stats
This is in English.
And you may have overlooked the fact that I intentionally did not specify race either.
So let's not let a little thing like facts get in the way.

Actually the stats I showed you WERE for Japan,the US stats were on another page.
here are the states for the US:

Husbands Japanese 62.7
(113,512) Other Asians 13.9
Whites 19.7
Blacks 0.3
Hispanics/Latinos 2.8
Wives Japanese 56.2
(117,243) Other Asians 11.2
Whites 28.1
Blacks 0.9
Hispanics/Latinos 2.6

Interracial Dating & Marriage : Asian-Nation :: Asian American History, Demographics, & Issues

 

[marsans]

You know I really agree with Greentea on some of this. I like asian women, I am simply more attracted to them than any other girl. I want an asian girlfriend/wife because thats what makes me happy. I dont see anything wrong with someone being hell bent on getting an asian girlfriend.

 

[greentea]

You know I really agree with Greentea on some of this. I like asian women, I am simply more attracted to them than any other girl. I want an asian girlfriend/wife because thats what makes me happy. I dont see anything wrong with someone being hell bent on getting an asian girlfriend.

There is nothing wrong with it,I think those who try to sway you of your preference/happiness probably have thier own agendas to be honest.Go for Asians,flirt with them,date them,marry them,there is nothing with it.

preferring Asian women is NO different than the white guy who prefers blonde white girls,nobody says anything about that.Are you objectifying women if you prefer brunettes or girls with long hair? what we cant have preferences now? its not "pc" to like a certain type? get real folks.In my opinion its racism to assume that just because a white guy prefers Asian women that he automatically has no standards when it comes to personality and will date ANY asian women.To me that is racist ignorant thinking.

I have only dated Asian women in my lifetime,however there are Asian girls out there I was/am not interested in,just because I prefer Asians doesnt mean I will date any Asian that walks by.I think that goes for most guys who have an Asian preference.

And lets be honest here,ALL guys objectify women to some extent,it doesnt take an interracial couple for that to happen,come on guys lets get off the high horse shall we.

 

[greentea]

because you do not like them as a person, you like them merely as an object, because that is what you are doing. Objectifying people based on nationality.

But you dont know that.How dare you assume that just because someone prefers to date a certain nationality that somehow means that person automatically is objectifying that nationality and its somehow not as "real".

Its racist to assume that just because a different race prefers Asian girls,that it automatically means that he is treating Asian girls like trophys and objectifying them.Are Asian guys objectifying Asian women if they ONLY date Asian women? how come thats never brought up? gee wonder why.

I was with a fillipina girl for 4 and a half years,I love her like family to this day,even though we broke it off.To somehow say that my love isnt as 'real' just because I prefer Asians is really narrowminded and full of bigotry.

I think alot of you have this stereotype in your heads that clump regular people who just prefer Asian women with that of American soliders back in the 40s and Vietnam era.I have alot of white guy friends who only date Asians and they love Asian culture and respect it,in fact they try very hard to learn the languages etc,maybe you shouldnt judge people based on thier preferences?

 

[KirinMan]

maybe you shouldnt judge people based on thier preferences?

Mmm it sounds to me that you are also judging people that are advising others to look beyond race or nationality.

 

[KirinMan]

I like asian women, I am simply more attracted to them than any other girl. I want an asian girlfriend/wife because thats what makes me happy. I dont see anything wrong with someone being hell bent on getting an asian girlfriend.

Do you get the point that myself and a few others here are trying to make?

Noone has said anything about not being attracted to Asian women, just passing along some advice that one shouldn't limit their thinking that that's all there is and ain't no more.

As with any race or nationality and with either sex as well, things are not always greener on the "other" side of the fence no matter how much you may want or desire it to be true.

 

[greentea]

Do you get the point that myself and a few others here are trying to make?
Noone has said anything about not being attracted to Asian women, just passing along some advice that one shouldn't limit their thinking that that's all there is and ain't no more.
As with any race or nationality and with either sex as well, things are not always greener on the "other" side of the fence no matter how much you may want or desire it to be true.

But if he only wants to date Asian women,and that is what makes HIM happy,whats the harm? maybe dating all kinds of women is what you like,but perhaps it isnt this guy's cup of tea? different strokes for different folks.

Why must he feel obligated to date other races if he doesnt want to? see,I really hate this way of thinking.Its almost like you and others lay guilt on people for going after just Asian women.Like its some 'naughty' thing to just like Asians,the attitude is basically "you dont want to be a shallow objectifying pervert right? then you should try other races too!",its just ridiculous.

and again,why isnt this same standard applied to Asian males who only date Asian females? are they not "objectifying" Asian females by ONLY dating Asians? or is that "ok" since they are the same race?

 

[greentea]

Mmm it sounds to me that you are also judging people that are advising others to look beyond race or nationality.

But thats not what is going on here,its more than merely suggesting to look
beyond race.Its the attitude that if you only date Asian women that somehow you are a fetishy pervert that thinks of Asian women as mere sex objects.

If I came on these boards as a white male and stated I prefer white girls,chances are I wouldnt be getting the lectures about fetishes and objectifying women.Call it a hunch.

 

[KirinMan]

But if he only wants to date Asian women,and that is what makes HIM happy,whats the harm? maybe dating all kinds of women is what you like,but perhaps it isnt this guy's cup of tea? different strokes for different folks.
Why must he feel obligated to date other races if he doesnt want to? see,I really hate this way of thinking.Its almost like you and others lay guilt on people for going after just Asian women.Like its some 'naughty' thing to just like Asians,the attitude is basically "you dont want to be a shallow objectifying pervert right? then you should try other races too!",its just ridiculous.
and again,why isnt this same standard applied to Asian males who only date Asian females? are they not "objectifying" Asian females by ONLY dating Asians? or is that "ok" since they are the same race?

Sorry but no matter what I write here or others as well, I don't think you will ever truly understand the point of all of this.

Which is fine by me as I never expected anything different from you either.

 

[greentea]

Sorry but no matter what I write here or others as well, I don't think you will ever truly understand the point of all of this.
Which is fine by me as I never expected anything different from you either.

Not true.Im willing to hear your side of this,in fact I think this is an interesting debate.If you have nothing to say,thats your choice,but dont do it on my behalf,I want to hear what you have to say.I might not agree with you but Im willing to keep an open mind and hear you out.

 

[KirinMan]

Not true.Im willing to hear your side of this,in fact I think this is an interesting debate.If you have nothing to say,thats your choice,but dont do it on my behalf,I want to hear what you have to say.I might not agree with you but Im willing to keep an open mind and hear you out.

You see that's the point, everything of importance that needs to be pointed out to you here on this thread has been discussed in infinite detail, to continue on any further would just be rehashing everything over and over again.

And personally, don't know about others here but I don't particularly enjoy refried hash. I ate enough of that as a kid, didn't like then and I don't particularly like it now either.

 

[EmperorHirohito]

If a japanese woman wishes to marry someone non japanese then that is her choice, if her family are ok with it then thats fine, but if the family dont like it then matters get complicated by her doing so. In this modern day world it would be nice to think that two people who do get on together can be married and allowed to get on with life, but in certain parts of the world tradition is more important.
If I had married a japanese woman when I was younger, then certain types of people would have commented in certain ways,rightly or wrongly, I would have ignored them and tried to make the most out of married life. After all isnt life all about being happy.........