......So cruel -_-....

[Lendo029]

You know, we all search for it, but never receive it. I mean, some people dont have a good approach on the matter, but they need it as well. Why is it that a guy can't walk up to a women and say, my you look very beautiful, and I would like to get to know you, with out getting looked at funny? I dunno, but I'm sick of that.I am a gentlemen, and I'm being nice, but that is never enough. I swaer, the world would never come to a nice, calm, peaceful place will it. I wish only to find a place like that. Tell me what you feel about this. Thanks ^-^!

 

[nice gaijin]

Maybe "you look very beautiful and I'd like to get to know you better." comes off more like "you look very beautiful and I'd like to get into your pants."

Sometimes you can't afford a frontal attack; that rabbit's dynamite.

 

[Lendo029]

Well, I don't literally say those words, but I mean you getwhat I'm saying right? How come a guy just can't walk up to a women and talk to them with out getting chewed out in the process. I dunno, it just makes me mad how men don't get a fighting chance anymore. And then, they wonder why men are such @$$ holes..... I dunno anymore....

 

[godppgo]

Of course a guy can just walk up to a woman and talk to them without getting chewed out. You just need the right conversation skill and yes being good looking is a plus but not a must.

 

[Lendo029]

Okay, now, say that the person, like myself, is easy going, and not hard to talk to. I approach the women, like a gentle men, say a couple things, and then still, the are rude and down right mean. What then?

 

[sadakoyamamura]

Then maybe they are just mean.

Don't be sad. There are plenty friendly women out there who can match your outgoing easy to talk to attitude. Just be patient.

 

[Lendo029]

Thanx, but sometimes, when your put down so much.... its really hard tostand strong and be positive, let alone, stand at all.....

 

[Arlet]

The way guys look at women is a point too...
Coz, (i always look at the eyes first, not that many guys look at me )
the way a guy looks, dont know... some people look very arrogant.
Thats bad, coz when women see u look arrogant, they'll probably think its a joke or something...

Hope it helped ya a bit

 

[Mikawa Ossan]

How about saying "you look very interesting" instead of beautiful and see how that works out?

The word beautiful emphasizes the woman's looks, and can make you seem trivial, whereas the word "interesting" emphasizes the woman's character and can make you seem more deep and truly interested.

 

[ArmandV]

How about saying "you look very interesting" instead of beautiful and see how that works out?
The word beautiful emphasizes the woman's looks, and can make you seem trivial, whereas the word "interesting" emphasizes the woman's character and can make you seem more deep and truly interested.

I don't know if that's the right term to use. I seem to recall that Universal Pictures' make-up artist Jack Pierce thought Boris Karloff had an "interesting face," that's why Karloff got the role of the Frankenstein monster in the 1931 classic.

 

[Mikawa Ossan]

I don't know if that's the right term to use. I seem to recall that Universal Pictures' make-up artist Jack Pierce thought Boris Karloff had an "interesting face," that's why Karloff got the role of the Frankenstein monster in the 1931 classic.

hahahaha!

Well, I wouldn't advise him to say THAT! lol

 

[Arlet]

Well, maybe you could say something like...
Hey, how are you... (sounds a bit strange but, its better then You look beautifull or did we met before?)
Its better for boys to start with asking how she's felling at the moment.
But first, you have to talk to her before you say something like that...
Try to start a conversation! Not flirt right away...

"My opinion!"

 

[Davey]

How about saying "you look very interesting" instead of beautiful and see how that works out?

Very interesting to get laid with?

 

[Mikawa Ossan]

Very interesting to get laid with?

I'm with the OP. Why does everyone always jump to that? It's really quite annoying.

 

[SushiShin]

Lendo029 i think you are right, there isn't a place like that. I guess we have to br ourselves and we have to say 'indeed' other words and terms like the people here say. use "hello there wouldn't you mind to do something? you like quite an interesting person to meet (^_^') instead of 'hey there nice chick wanna date??' (@_@) if you use gentile words and if you act friendly you will achieve a lot more then to be harsh and unpolite!

Mark my words, you will achieve a lot more and they will respond quicklier then normal (-_o)

 

[Supervin]

Very simple. It makes you come off as shallow or desperate by jumping the gun like that.

 

[Lendo029]

Lendo029 i think you are right, there isn't a place like that. I guess we have to br ourselves and we have to say 'indeed' other words and terms like the people here say. use "hello there wouldn't you mind to do something? you like quite an interesting person to meet (^_^') instead of 'hey there nice chick wanna date??' (@_@) if you use gentile words and if you act friendly you will achieve a lot more then to be harsh and unpolite!
Mark my words, you will achieve a lot more and they will respond quicklier then normal (-_o)

Okay, i understand this, and do this. Let me give an example. I'm at the mall. I see this girl. She was looking at some clothing in a store. Now, she seemed veryhumble, and had the voice, and gestures of a nicewomen. So, I decide, hey, why not give it a try. So, I walk over to her, not all weird or rushing or anything, just slowly and casually. I come over to her and say...." Hey, you might not know me, but I would like to tell you something. I think you look like a very nice and down to earth person. So, i was wondering if you and I could become friends, and maybe get to know one another." Then, after this, there was a sudden pause, and she says " F**k Off! " Come on now, was that that bad? I didn't think so..... But anyways, I just wanted to thank you guys for the advice. I appriciate it.

 

[Homerduff]

Okay, i understand this, and do this. Let me give an example. I'm at the mall. I see this girl. She was looking at some clothing in a store. Now, she seemed veryhumble, and had the voice, and gestures of a nicewomen. So, I decide, hey, why not give it a try. So, I walk over to her, not all weird or rushing or anything, just slowly and casually. I come over to her and say...." Hey, you might not know me, but I would like to tell you something. I think you look like a very nice and down to earth person. So, i was wondering if you and I could become friends, and maybe get to know one another." Then, after this, there was a sudden pause, and she says " F**k Off! " Come on now, was that that bad? I didn't think so..... But anyways, I just wanted to thank you guys for the advice. I appriciate it.

Ofcourse its not bad, but its just that girls dont expect this and Im not surprised that many girls would react like this.

I think its hard to start a conversation with a girl you are interested in, at any public place, because you dont have anything in common except for the fact that you are both at the same place. To be honest, I dont know what the ideal way is to start a conversation, if there is any. You may be lucky with the one you say, but really dont feel surprised that you will get quite some harsh reactions. Some people are just like that..

 

[SushiShin]

Lol! Lendo029 man that's funny sorry, well i guess you'll have to try another impact with other words: try another way of speaking, use again some other words, and don't lose hope buddy! keep searching i know on a day you'll be very lucky! hang on there okey?

 

[Lendo029]

Lol! Lendo029 man that's funny sorry, well i guess you'll have to try another impact with other words: try another way of speaking, use again some other words, and don't lose hope buddy! keep searching i know on a day you'll be very lucky! hang on there okey?

I will, lol. Thanx. I hope everything is better for you then me!

 

[SushiShin]

I will, lol. Thanx. I hope everything is better for you then me!

allmost pal! i used to have the same problems as you but now its over! time will heal all wounds they say!

by the way i have my hands full of girls at the moment
well i will be quieted now lol

 

[maushan3]

Very cool thread! I don't really know about this situation, but I wonder what's Ghettocities's say about this subject. Anybody know when his ban will be over?

Mauricio

 

[Lendo029]

allmost pal! i used to have the same problems as you but now its over! time will heal all wounds they say!
by the way i have my hands full of girls at the moment
well i will be quieted now lol

Lol, well good luck with that. I hope you survive!!!! Lol.

 

[yukio_michael]

Welcome to what professional dating-ologists call "The Cold Call", basically what you are saying when you walk up and tell a girl that she is beautiful, heck, even if you DON'T say it, it's inferred if you say nothing else, is that "Hey, I am judging you on your looks alone, I have no idea what if anything we have in common, but DAMN you're hot!"....

It's better to introduce yourself with a Joke, or something, and not to be too direct when you first meet her, joke with her friends, joke with the (boy)friends she might be with... Then you're just "fun guy"... instead of "cold call guy"...

Just my advice...

 

[Kinsao]

Sometimes a guy has managed to start a conversation with me by picking up on something I'm carrying or wearing... not in a superficial 'I'm only interested in the way you look' kind of way, but in a way which makes themself sound interesting... like for instance one time I was wearing a necklace based on some scandinavian mythology symbols and this guy makes a comment on my necklace and asks like 'are you into scandinavian mythology?' and tell me something about it... in a way it's kinda like comments on looks and it's obviously just a pick-up line but it shows he's put a bit more thought into it than just walking up and saying 'you look interesting' or whatever...