Why do so many foreigners marry Japanese women?

[Maciamo]

To answer the OP's question, I believe that there are several reasons for the increase of such couples :

1) globalisation : it is increasingly easy to travel and live in other countries, as long-distance flights have got much cheaper since the 1970's, and more companies have branches abroad (esp. in IT and fashion).

2) I suppose that you are referring to Westerners-Japanese couples (or to a lower extent Black-Japanese couples), because I more rarely see Japanese women with Indians, Arabs, Indonesians, etc. I guess that this is partly due to the "admiration" of some younger Japanese for the West, and also to their will to learn English or other Western languages (esp. French and Italian). On the other hand, an increasingly number of Westerners are interested in Japanese culture, especially people who have grown up since the 'manga invasion' of the 80's and 'video game invasion' of the 90's. Likewise European/American food has become increasingly common in Japan, and Japanese food is booming in the West too. So, one of the reason is a mutual desire to learn about the other's language and culture.

3) Why is it Western men who usually marry Japanese women, much more than the reverse ? I believe that this is simply because Caucasians (and Blacks) have more accentuated genetical and cultural characteristics, while Asian cultures (and genetic types) are more feminine. For instance Caucasiansmen are usually taller, hairier, physically stronger than their Japanese/East Asian counterparts. But there is also the socio-cultural aspect, the fact that Western societies have become less gender-biased a few decades earlier, so that men do more housework, take paternal leaves to take care of children, etc., while it is still rare among Japanese/East Asian men. Likewise, Japanese women tend to be more feminine (and childish, which can be cute or even sexy) than Caucasian, and even more Black women. So another reason is the male-female relation matching the male Caucasian- female Mongoloid type of couple. Indeed it is not only Caucasian men + Japanese women couples that have increased dramatically, but also Caucasian men + other East Asian (Korean, Chinese, Philipina, Thai, Malaysian...).

 

[Mike Cash]

US Department of Defense ( Pentagon ) and US servicemen are 2 reliable first-hand sources,you can access to de-classified documents.

The DOD keeps statistics on how many Japanese brides prior to 1975 were sex workers? That's interesting.

 

[ghettocities]

I hear cash registers opening and bank vault combination being turned when Japanese women talk.


Josh

 

[Davey]

I hear cash registers opening and bank vault combination being turned when Japanese women talk.


Josh

thank you for your Input Josh

 

[pipokun]

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American females fought for " equal rights " for many decades,more so than European and Oriental counterparts.There are a few die-hard remnant of male chauvinstic American men ( including my girlfriend Gail's husband believes in old school values,she puts up with all his crap.She vented to me,her husband once said he would now be with a Mexican girl if she hasn't shown in his life ).
Most American women are assertive,demanding and domineering,absolutely have no fear speak their mind.
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What do you think of soccer mom in your country?
I like their way of living. I guess all they want is just a community where their kids, families live happily.
Are +10000 married Chinese women here the same as the kid killer? No.

 

[Mike Cash]

I hear cash registers opening and bank vault combination being turned when Japanese women talk.
Josh

You know, one of these days one of the admins is going to figure out what "I F Japanese girls NDB 4$" means and I hope they ban you so fast and so permanently it makes your head swim.

 

[MajideSaiaku]

There are many reasons for why an asian woman may pair off with a foreign man, but ussually, the reason any relationship is maintained, especially into marriage, is love.

My girlfriend has driven me to near insanity plenty of times, and to say we are a perfect fit is a lie, I am easy going and a bit sloppy, she is like the energizer bunny always needing something to do and quite a clean-freak if I may say.

But for all that, years after the novelty of sex and the learning about such a different person has worn off, I still think of her and miss her.

She was over here until just recently (this week infact) and I swear there were times I could have run away, but there were good times and yeah, if I didnt love her, the relationship would feel like a total chore and drag and I wouldnt wanna be with her.

It isnt missing out on sexin up a Japanese lady that makes a full grown dude cry when his lady friend dissappears through the departure doors...

Aw crud...

*Shuffles off and craddles his vulnerable emotions*

 

[gaijinalways]

It has increased a lot, but still compared to Japanese males marrying Asians other than Japanese, it's small. And yes, many people who live in Japan for a longer time are more likely to marry Japanese, because as pointed out earlier, there are more of them around (98%) compared to non-Japanese.

A bigger question might be, why do so few Western women marry Japanese men?

 

[DoctorP]

3) ...I believe that this is simply because Caucasians (and Blacks) have more accentuated genetical and cultural characteristics, while Asian cultures (and genetic types) are more feminine. For instance Caucasiansmen are usually taller, hairier, physically stronger than their Japanese/East Asian counterparts. But there is also the socio-cultural aspect, the fact that Western societies have become less gender-biased a few decades earlier, so that men do more housework, take paternal leaves to take care of children, etc., while it is still rare among Japanese/East Asian men. Likewise, Japanese women tend to be more feminine (and childish, which can be cute or even sexy) than Caucasian, and even more Black women.

While I agree with most of your post, do you really believe your statement of them being more masculine? Have you really looked at a great number of the English teaching community? Not talking about the younger JET's mind you, but more so the "professionals" or the ones who set up their own schools, get the teaching positions at the Universities, etc.... This is somewhat stereotypical, but in my experiences the people who hold these types of jobs are not the most masculine looking specimens. They tend to be quite frail, introverts who would appear as though they were social outcasts at home.

I realize all do not fit this description, but you have to admit you have seen more than a few of these types.

So another reason is the male-female relation matching the male Caucasian- female Mongoloid type of couple. Indeed it is not only Caucasian men + Japanese women couples that have increased dramatically, but also Caucasian men + other East Asian (Korean, Chinese, Philipina, Thai, Malaysian...).

Yes, I understand this, but I was mainly focusing on the Japan side of things here.

 

[ghettocities]

I'm simply amazed at how a question like "why do foreigners marry Japanese women" recieves so much thought and well-rounded opinions where as if the topic was put in a Europe forum or say Irish forum like "why do foreigners marry Irish women" it wouldn't even recieve 1/8th of the sort of brain-strain that it does when it has "Japanese women" as the topic.


Josh

 

[Mike Cash]

I'm simply amazed at how a question like "why do foreigners marry Japanese women" recieves so much thought and well-rounded opinions where as if the topic was put in a Europe forum or say Irish forum like "why do foreigners marry Irish women" it wouldn't even recieve 1/8th of the sort of brain-strain that it does when it has "Japanese women" as the topic.
Josh

I bet if you F'ed Irish women in the butt for $ you wouldn't think so.

 

[ArmandV]

While I agree with most of your post, do you really believe your statement of them being more masculine? Have you really looked at a great number of the English teaching community?

Specifically, where and what English teaching community are you referring to?

It's been nearly 30 years since I went to college/university and I didn't notice that the English instructors were lacking in their masculinity. (Maybe things have changed since then?)

 

[ricecake]

do you really believe your statement of them being more masculine ?

Have you really looked at a great number of the English teaching community in Japan ?They tend to be quite frail,introverts who would appear as though they were social outcasts at home.

Good-looking outgoing personality hairy-chested masculine W-guys are most desired and taken by W-girls,no need for them sought attention from foreign women or go mate-shopping in Japan or Far East.

Hit the nail on the coffin.

 

[DoctorP]

Specifically, where and what English teaching community are you referring to?
It's been nearly 30 years since I went to college/university and I didn't notice that the English instructors were lacking in their masculinity. (Maybe things have changed since then?)

ArmandV - I'm strictly referring to the "professors" that you run across who are English teachers here in Japan. I'm not referring to the entire profession of teachers in general.

 

[ArmandV]

ArmandV - I'm strictly referring to the "professors" that you run across who are English teachers here in Japan. I'm not referring to the entire profession of teachers in general.

Okay, gotcha!

I only know of one English "professor" in Japan and I would have to agree that he is not the poster boy for masculinity. He once confessed to being "into" Elton John. I guess that should tell us something.

 

[ArmandV]

Good-looking outgoing personality hairy-chested masculine W-guys are most desired and taken by W-girls,no need for them sought attention from foreign women or go mate-shopping in Japan or Far East.

Hit the nail on the coffin.

I dunno, a Japanese lady friend is very fascinated by my chest hair. When we met I said (a Sean Connery line), "Japanese proverb say, "Bird never build nest in bare tree.""

 

[DoctorP]

I dunno, a Japanese lady friend is very fascinated by my chest hair. When we met I said (a Sean Connery line), "Japanese proverb say, "Bird never build nest in bare tree.""

ArmandV, I always say the same thing when someone teases me about my chest hair..."If you were using the right fertilizer, grass would grow on your field too!" It usually shuts them up for a while.

 

[DoctorP]

It makes you wonder if a lot of the women in question marry these guys strictly for "survival"? But then that totally wrecks the idea as to why so many beautiful Japanese women in their 30's remain unmarried.

 

[ArmandV]

It makes you wonder if a lot of the women in question marry these guys strictly for "survival"? But then that totally wrecks the idea as to why so many beautiful Japanese women in their 30's remain unmarried.

Maybe they are saving themselves for us.

Funny thing, though. Although it seems that Japanese men aren't as "manly" with their women as westerners are, Japanese women also seem to suffer from what I call emotional constipation.

 

[ricecake]

Honestly,American Caucasian-girls on average are prettier than J-C-K girls and have lively spunky personality.It must be Caucasian females' confidence intimidate their own male-folk.

 

[kirei_na_me]

Japanese women also seem to suffer from what I call emotional constipation.

Definitely, and I'd say that this can also be applied to Japanese men. As a matter of fact, I think Japanese men are even more constipated.

 

[DoctorP]

You know what? Say what you like about this thread, but in just a couple of days it got 45 replies and over 600 views. Just goes to show you, start a few threads people and others will join in!

 

[RockLee]

Hmm Ricecake...enough with the W- or white people ok? Just call us caucasians for crying out loud! I don't go refer to asians as yellow people I find the whole color-naming quite insulting.

 

[ricecake]

Now,it is quite common,depending upon where you go,to see a Japanese woman with her "gaijiin" husband.It got me to thinking as to why this has become so "popular ".

It's popularity has roots in Japanese war bribes of American GI's back in the 1940's-1950's,this is a recycle fad with added foreign flavors.

J-women should value " quality " NOT quantity.

It's refreshing to read,Caucasian-gaijin husbands do walkabout comfortably with J-spouse visible in daylight overseas.Inter-marriage rate between Caucasian Males/Asian Females went through the roof these past 15 years in California and across the USA,it's still NOT common ( still rare ) to see Caucasian-male with Asian-wife and haafu children at regular shopping malls,neighborhood parks,theaters,American restaurant chains,plus other public places frequent by Caucasians.

I always find it " odd " or " intrigue " as to why men would married some foreign females they are ashamed of going places with ( or be seen by own race ) out in broad daylight in their home country.

 

[kirei_na_me]

It's popularity has roots in Japanese war bribes of American GI's back in the 1940's-1950's,this is a recycle fad with added foreign flavors.
J-women should value " quality " NOT quantity.
It's refreshing to read,C-gaijin husbands do walkabout comfortably with J-spouse visible in daylight overseas.Inter-marriage rate between CM/AF went through the roof these past 15 years in California and across the USA,it's still NOT common ( still rare ) to see C-male with A-wife and haafu children at regular shopping malls,neighborhood parks,theaters,American restaurant chains,plus other public places frequent by C-population.
I always find it " odd " or " intrigue " as to why men would married some foreign females they are ashamed of going places with ( or be seen by own race ) out in broad daylight in their home country.

What are you talking about? Chinese males are ashamed to go out in public with their caucasian wives? Or what? What is "A"? American?

If that's what you're saying, I'd say my husband was almost boastful about having an American wife. He was always eager to show me off or tell someone about me, almost as if I were a status symbol.

In fact, that is part of the problem. He makes me feel like property. Another one of his assets.