I don't think japanese women think foreign men are any more faithful than
japanese men, do they?
I had a Japanese friend who was married for over ten years. He and his wife had three daughters and his mother lived with them in the same house.When his wife became pregnant again the mother of this "man" told him to tell his wife that this was her last chance.If she didn't have a boy this time then they were getting divorced.
Still wonder why some Japanese women prefer to marry someone else besides Japanese men.
I bet you'd be honered with a Nobel love affair award if you find the answer why you choose your partner. But before that, you've got to doubt the hearsay...Yes, Japanese men in general have unusual attitudes toward women, though in their defense, younger men are sometimes changing. Some attitudes that you often see/hear about are;
Men who think that hitting their wife at home is okay (out of sight, out of mind).
Men who think that wives should wait until they get home to eat dinner together, no matter how late late the husbamd comes home.
Men who think that women should be given enough for the budget and not anymore.
Men who think that doing something with their wife on the weekend is not their idea of a good time.
Men who think having their wives work is shameful.
Still wonder why some Japanese women prefer to marry someone else besides Japanese men.
Oh, it is true that most Japanese men are quite helpless without a female around, at least as far as clothes, food and getting them some tea are corcerned. It's just that any woman will suffice for that, mother, sister, lover, co-worker are are all just as good. Still specifically wives very seldom fall into a high priority for what is important in their lives. I respect what you say you have observed, and I did say there were exceptions, but the next time you are here in Japan why don't you try doing your own survey. What you thought you knew might be changed.
Generally im not attracted to most Japanese girls,but most of them (im not saying ALL) are flat chested and figure wise look like there about 12 years old... and thats just well... nevermind.
Honesty can save one from unneccesary emotional entanglement in WM/AF relationship,this brings back one story once told by an old acquintance of mine.She accompanied her sister ( who was in process of divorce ) to local court,recalled the American ( of European-descent ) husband's ruthless sarcastic sniping remark was " she's got small boobs " for the reason he filed the divorce petition.
Still wonder why some Japanese women prefer to marry someone else besides Japanese men.
I bet you'd be honered with a Nobel love affair award if you find the answer why you choose your partner. But before that, you've got to doubt the hearsay...
Well, when in Japan I have better things to do than take surveys on "helpless" Japanese men. I have a lot of Japanese friends and business associates, some of which were "between marriages" at some point and they seemed to have fallen apart once wifey has flown the coop and they have to find themselves another spouse.
Naturally, there are always exceptions. But friends here also noticed the same thing, some of whom lived in Japan before.
Was this couple native Okinawan or REAL Japanese from the mainland ?
Native Okinawans share alot of Chinese cultural similiarities,this is exact mindset of some old-school Chinese folks.My limited knowledge and observation,I don't think Japanese insist on having sons in the family.
Well, thank you for helping to prove my point! I never said that Japanese wives were not important to their husbands. I said that when I asked them,
they rarely ranked their wife in the top three of importance. So, obviously if your Japanese pals had had a higher priority on their wives, had thought they were important in their lives, therefore spending more time with them instead of running around with you then their wifey wouldn't "have flown the coop". And if their wives had been a little more important to them while they were married then maybe they would have never fallen apart and have to find another wifey.
I do take back my request for you to do your own survey. I definitely would not want you to cause an international incident by asking "helpless" Japanese men a simple question.
I do not claim to be an expert in all things Japanese. I do have my opinions. In fact, I am quite opinionated sometimes. What I do have is experience, a lot of it. I have lived, ate, drank, slept, drove, worked, and spoke Japanese in Japan with Japanese for the past 36 years. Now, if you and all of your friends added together can even claim half of that time, then I might change my opinion. But I doubt it. Because, after all, what I originally stated was based on questions that I asked Japanese men.
It seems troublesome to me that people actually have to defend why people like or dislike another ethnic group... We know why there are more gaijin dating Japanese girls, we covered this... do we really need to know their motives?wow... 4 pages for this subject....
Yeah, I can't believe it either!! This must be the most popular thread currently..wow... 4 pages for this subject....
Don't you think we should also entertain the flip-side of this question for a more rounded perspective,why some of them aren't wanted by Japanese men.
Not that a lot of Japanese wives mind. With a hubby that is almost never home, and having control of the purse strings, heck, she gets to a lot of cafes, restaurants, movies, gets a bit of shopping in, and generally just enjoys life........slaves to the man's salary.
Northern-stock East Asian peoples ( Japanese,northern Chinese,and Koreans ) are " war-like " and macho,there is nothing feminine about those men.
Precisely. This is what not many people really know...or don't want to admit.
*coughespeciallyGhettodoink'scough*It feeds some people's egos.
Well,those of us in the know NOT sarcastic enough consistently tell it bluntly in person and cyberspace to overturn those myths and dispel some male individuals' romanticism of little cute Madamn Butterfly.My posts in this thread have done some damage to male egos of several fellow forumers,I am on their enemy list.