I feel kind of puzzled and half-way to being offended by the suggestion that women who are wearing trousers are somehow not being feminine enough, or are trying to be manly. ☝ Personally, I very rarely wear skirts, and it's even more rare for me to wear a dress. I find trousers to be comfortable and practical. Plus, I don't have very good legs. For me, trousers for the win!
I'm sorry - this is rather offtopic.But as a woman who hardly ever "dresses feminine", I resent thinking that people might stereotype me as a lesbian or a "wannabe man".
Hello Sabro! I'm Native American, and other Native Americans call my bro and I red apples, cause we look Native American on the outside, but we're supposedly more white on the inside. Not sure why they think that. Agreeing with your point though, I don't think I would take well to a non-Native American calling me red.I don't know why calling an asian "yellow" or a Native American "red" is unacceptable, but they are for now.
Yes, I've heard that "red" is derogatory. Regarding "yellow," I think the negativism developed with the "Yellow Peril" propaganda in the William Randolph Hearst papers? :?I don't know why calling an asian "yellow" or a Native American "red" is unacceptable, but they are for now. The terms are always loaded and are totally socio-political constructs with lots of strings attached. I wouldnt try to apply logic to it.
Why is it Western men who usually marry Japanese women, much more than the reverse ? I believe that this is simply because Caucasians have more accentuated genetical and cultural characteristics, while Asian cultures (and genetic types) are more feminine.
~ But, okay okay... can we all at least agree that this t-shirt is the most achingly lonely and sad thing you've ever seen....
...we can agree on that much, can't we?
Not sure you have met my Japanese wife!Just read the first page, and I saw a few people mentioning that Japanese women are a bit more subservient than their American counterparts. On the surface this might appear true, but it more seems that the American women make a big deal over a lot of things, while the Japanese women seem to pick their battles wisely, and patiently talk the husband/boyfriend around to her way of thinking.
Well, I wish it was so, but I don't feel it's like that! As to the thread falling off, well, feminity issues are sometimes related to why Westerners sometimes enjoy dating Japanese women. Some guys like women that are on the surface more femine, and certainly look after members of their family, almost slavishly (and compulsively). I suppose though it's better than those who just block the family out.It almost seems that they have figured that if they acquisce to most of the husband's demands and wishes, that the husband will feel in control, and so it will be easier for the women to maintain control over the more important issues.
You can replace the "Japanese" with any other 'race' and it would be equally as pathetic if you ask me. Which is pretty much how I feel about this whole conversation.~ But, okay okay... can we all at least agree that this t-shirt is the most achingly lonely and sad thing you've ever seen....
...we can agree on that much, can't we?
Hi Everyone
Just got caught up on the postings. Looks like it has veered off from
Asian wives and caucasion husbands. I don't agree that we are wimps
or that in some way we are unable to marry a caucasion woman. I think
we just made a choice, just as every does when they get married. I feel
a little sorry for the people that can't accept that. I look at the world
as being populated by people, and I see nothing more wrong with a German
marrying an Italian than I see with an American marrying a Japanese.
Without any mention of race, simply I'm in (on) the market for a lover ( 窶氾ｶﾂ人窶｢ﾃ･ﾂ集窶吮??' ) is pitiable enough unless you're seeking to narrow the field to someone like yourself.You can replace the "Japanese" with any other 'race' and it would be equally as pathetic if you ask me. Which is pretty much how I feel about this whole conversation.
But then again, what business is it of mine or yours who other random people date and get married to?
I knew I was going to get burned for that one....No I can't because I can't read Kanji... so please provide a translation, when posting Japanese text in the Non-Japanese language section! thank you in advance
No one said anything was wrong with it. And the topic is not specifically causasian men....the topic was foreigners in general. Also note that we are not lumping all together. I know quite a few men who married Japanese women and they are quite masculine, very muscular, and manly. On the flip side, I have seen quite a few who probably never had a date until they came to Japan. The examples given in my previous post were merely some observations that were relayed to me and I thought that I would seek other peoples opinions.
thistle said:This whole forum seems to be pretty male dominated so I rarely post.
Yeah, it seems rare to see Japanese men voluntarily doing house chores, although my father sometimes cooked whatever he liked to eat for the whole family.thistle said:They are more equal in all sense of a relationship, more sensitive, and will help with the house chores without being asked.
Yeah, it seems rare to see Japanese men voluntarily doing house chores, although my father sometimes cooked whatever he liked to eat for the whole family.
About some (white?) American women loudly bitching out at their husbands in front of other people, I don't ever see it's any proof of thier equal rights. It's just their mental problem, or the lack of respect, just like some guys hitting their wives or girlfriends, that's not male chauvinism , but Domestic Violence, which is done all over the world including Japan and the US, caused by thier mental problems. And I believe not all the American couples are like that.Originally Posted by ricecake
Definitely,Japanese women are still traditional and subservient ( is better word ) to some agree compare to some of those outspoken,loud,and bitchy American women. I've seen my white-neighbors's white-wife could bossed,yelled,and talked to her husband like a " puppy " before my very eyes.
I don't have fear speak my mind either, I mean, why should I? And I'm a quite normal Japanese girl.Originally Posted by ricecake
Most American women are assertive, demanding and domineering, absolutely have no fear speak their mind.
About some American women loudly bitching out at their husbands in front of other people,I don't ever see it's any proof of their equal rights.It's just their mental problem,or the lack of respect.
And in personal relationship, I think Japanese women are no longer that subservient,I think we are now quite equal to men.
It is funny how allegedly Japanese men don't list their women in the top three since I've heard (and observed) that Japanese men are helpless without a wife.