Love or not to love?

[Slayer4U]

I just turned down a friend of mine. And I wonder what will happen if he finds a new gf. this is weird but I am not into this stuff and i admit that i do like him. this thg is really confusing to me..

 

[Tim33]

If you like him why did you turn him down ????

Because of this if he does find someone else you will feel gutted. Better take a chance.

 

[lexico]

Well, you seem to have ambiguous feelings/ideas about this guy. Try to be honest with your feelings, and answer some questions like....

1. Why do I like him ?
1a. What are the things that I like about him, and what things do I not ?
1b. What are the things that he likes about me, and what things does he not ?

2. Why did I reject him as a lover ?
2a. What about him / his expectations of a relationship ?
2b. What about me / my expectations of a relationship ?

3. Do I like him enough to want him near, but not enough to love him ?
3a. Things that would make me happy.
3b. Things that would make me unhappy.

Draw up a balance chart of the good and the bad; just like Robinson Curusoe did once he landed on the island.
When you are confident that your ideas/feelings are mostly represented on the balance sheet before you, try to reach a decision of 1) Yes 2) No 3) I absolutely don't know. It's your life you've just created. What a rush !

 

[Anchyyy]

I just turned down a friend of mine. And I wonder what will happen if he finds a new gf. this is weird but I am not into this stuff and i admit that i do like him. this thg is really confusing to me..

You like him, but you turned him down ... Now you worry about what happens if he gets another girl? I am tottaly confused

 

[alexriversan]

you do not say why you turned him down...probably for a reason?

 

[Duo]

all i can say don't worry but a damm thing, just go to him and be like "just me n' u" then he'll be like hoahoaha, come here babaaay, then u'll be all happy n other good stuff such as that

 

[Anchyyy]

you do not say why you turned him down...probably for a reason?

Yeah try to tell as a reason for that. Maybe we can help you better then.

 

[kirei_na_me]

all i can say don't worry but a damm thing, just go to him and be like "just me n' u" then he'll be like hoahoaha, come here babaaay, then u'll be all happy n other good stuff such as that

Hmmmm...that sounds like the words to a song... :winklove:

Oh, and Slayer, I say go for it. Don't miss the chance. If you like him and he likes you, go and get him now!

Oh...wait...that's my passionate self talking. Fill us in on why you turned him down to begin with.

 

[Duo]

Hmmmm...that sounds like the words to a song... :winklove:

oh yeah they are, it's an old school jam that this sweet honey that I can't resist showed me and everytime it plays it melts me away at her mercy so I guess it got me inspired

oh why have you heard of it ? :romance:

 

[kirei_na_me]

oh why have you heard of it ? :romance:

Yeah, I think I have...

 

[Tim33]

Well, you seem to have ambiguous feelings/ideas about this guy. Try to be honest with your feelings, and answer some questions like....

1. Why do I like him ?
1a. What are the things that I like about him, and what things do I not ?
1b. What are the things that he likes about me, and what things does he not ?

2. Why did I reject him as a lover ?
2a. What about him / his expectations of a relationship ?
2b. What about me / my expectations of a relationship ?

3. Do I like him enough to want him near, but not enough to love him ?
3a. Things that would make me happy.
3b. Things that would make me unhappy.

Draw up a balance chart of the good and the bad; just like Robinson Curusoe did once he landed on the island.
When you are confident that your ideas/feelings are mostly represented on the balance sheet before you, try to reach a decision of 1) Yes 2) No 3) I absolutely don't know. It's your life you've just created. What a rush !

I happen to disagree a bit here, yea you need to think about it carefully but a balance chart is not the way.

If you like him then you like him even if there are bad things. You should just know you like him rather then having to work it out as a calculation

 

[lexico]

Oh, Tim33, as if I'm such a calculating person. I usually act on instincts and impulses WAY TOO MUCH ! This is how I would have hope I would have been, not that I've lived with a huge, thick balacne chart. Hahaha..I'm just trying to help out here.

But I do seriously believe, with just a little balancing the odds, a lot of grief, regret, pain, and loss can be avoided. It might help, sometimes, to see the love, or lack of it, that's hidden from the eye.

I do admit, that the final anaysis should be with the heart, and not the balance sheet. ;-)

 

[kirei_na_me]

I happen to disagree a bit here, yea you need to think about it carefully but a balance chart is not the way.

If you like him then you like him even if there are bad things. You should just know you like him rather then having to work it out as a calculation

I agree, Tim.

 

[Slayer4U]

Thanks guy...the reason..well, He kinda loyal but the thing is my feelings towards him isn't deep. But I do like him. And these is another bad side of me, I am cycnical about this love thingy and I am afraid that i have to go thru heartache. I have seen my friend been thru that and it really scared the hell out me. I really do not wish to be distracted. I am a sensitive as well.

Yup, my close friend of mine said that i should give both of us a chance. But I didn't and at last that guy cried when I turned him down.

 

[jieshi]

you better apologise real quick sweetie, or I can promise you are going to lose a friend because of your inconfidence.

If I were you I would take the chance and go for him, don't worry about your feelings being really deep just yet, thats what dating is here for, to see how it goes and if your feelings will grow stronger.

Don't let the fear of getting hurt get in the way otherwise you are going to miss out on alot of chances in life, and right now you could miss out on "Mr right" so go for it lol!

 

[Slayer4U]

Originally posted by jieshi
Don't let the fear of getting hurt get in the way

Yes, you have just read my mind...I am really scared of this stuff although i did like guys before. I don't wish to be distracted as well...and I don't believe this stuff and i wonder how people just can be couple so easily..I have seen my friends crying to me about her bf and that really scares the hell outof me..
My friend now, he decides to wait for me instead and i think thats silly...and i don't take it seriously as well and believe that he will find a gal along the way. I don't believe a guy will stick to a gal for the rest of his life..Say I am weird or crazy but I am willing to lose a guy that getting hurt in the future.
Yes, I admit i like him but the fear is too overwhelming....and now I plan to forget everything about him and lose him.......HOpe that he will find a gal that will appreciate him...

 

[lexico]

Sure, whichever direction your heart inclined to is probably what's best for you.

 

[Shin_ji80]

Ai...now I see that girls don't usually do the way they feel.
No wander I always have hard time with those girls.
You girls really need to give me a break.

 

[InnerVision]

Say I am weird or crazy but I am willing to lose a guy that getting hurt in the future.

thats makin' me think on other lines ... unexplainable.

HOpe that he will find a gal that will appreciate him...

... by the grace of God . <<< Sentence Completed.

Neverthless ,awesome feelings ...!!! Whats Your age btw .... ?

Well, you seem to have ambiguous feelings/ideas about this guy. Try to be honest with your feelings, and answer some questions like....

1. Why do I like him ?
1a. What are the things that I like about him, and what things do I not ?
1b. What are the things that he likes about me, and what things does he not ?

2. Why did I reject him as a lover ?
2a. What about him / his expectations of a relationship ?
2b. What about me / my expectations of a relationship ?

3. Do I like him enough to want him near, but not enough to love him ?
3a. Things that would make me happy.
3b. Things that would make me unhappy.

Draw up a balance chart of the good and the bad; just like Robinson Curusoe did once he landed on the island.
When you are confident that your ideas/feelings are mostly represented on the balance sheet before you, try to reach a decision of 1) Yes 2) No 3) I absolutely don't know. It's your life you've just created. What a rush !

A mathematician can never Love . *Geez* Just kiddin' .... kewl Post

now I see that girls don't usually do the way they feel.

Exactly .... !

 

[lexico]

thats makin' me think on other lines ... unexplainable.



... by the grace of God . <<< Sentence Completed.

Neverthless ,awesome feelings ...!!! Whats Your age btw .... ?

I think I get the picture; it's called hitting. There's the PM if you haven't noticed.
I hope that helped explicating the unexplainable, mysterious attraction of inner light !

 

[Slayer4U]

Hahahaha...InnerVision..you are funny though..Yup...it unexplainable to me too and to lexico, thank you though. I really can't have relationship..it's really scary to me..I don't know why as well...I like guys but I do not have the intention of starting a relationship wth them..THe future is so uncertain and it is risky to me..Yup, falling in love with a guy can be very special but how long will it lasts?

 

[Shin_ji80]

Have fate, ok? Be true to yourself or you will regret for the rest of your life.
Not all guys just want to play around and have sex. I am one of the example (to promote myself) haha~~~^^
I always get serious in relationship but.....I met some girls that don't want to face their feeling. That's why I am the one that always suffer
Oh well, I don't regret though because I already do what I have to do.

Know why? I learn from my mistake. I had a girl that I like back in College (in Malaysia). Till now I'm still regret because I didn't take up the opportunity. I can tell she likes me too (that time). But I'm just too shy to move forward and in the end, she went to New Zealand and I'm stuck in Australia. TOTALLY LOSS CONTACT~! Can't find her anymore.

Everything will be different if I tell her that time

 

[lexico]

she went to New Zealand and I'm stuck in Australia. TOTALLY LOSS CONTACT~! Can't find her anymore.

Everything will be different if I tell her that time

She could be only a mouse click away without you two knowing.

As for what might have been, people tend to draw a rosier picture than reality, but in your case, it could have been different.
*The Twilight Zone plays ~~*

 

[Slayer4U]

Hmm.....I did think about it and maybe i will let the time to deciede. If we really meant for each other, we will be together...For now, I wont think too much about it.

 

[mog316]

love or not to love, how bout both? hhhhhmmmm.........!