Goldiegirl san, I really wished you had paragraphed that out for us....I did get through it though.
Yes, I do understand the sentiment behind what you are saying there, Goldiegirl. I can also very well understand the message and impact of what Ma Cherie has said too.
I tend to think that there are a number of forces working together in the playing field here, and to get some sort of well-enough balanced equilibrium would be a good target in a temporary sense. Capitolism and consumerism have, in fact, taken on a size that is perhaps (to leave room for unknown data) too one-sided. Those two have come to give more than their share of pressure, I think.
In society, it can well be said, the family unit is the building b--without solid family units, society can hardly be solid as well. (note: 'hardly' does not rule out possibility) Now just what is the family unit, however, must be taken into consideration for the various societies that are under inspection, but I tend to consider that society at large--human--has kind of stopped giving thought to this matter and has kind of folded its arms and rested where it sits, in it's present, majority state.
A mother of children is only a quarter of the team, the father another quarter, and relatives (especially grandparents) another quarter, and then, social relations the remaining quarter. Within the immediate household, the mother is half, the father is half. There is no reason why father's cannot take time off to help raising children as the mother takes time to do a job, or other self-focused activities. Society and those of the work force should be willing to allocate off-time towards parents--male or female--in order to help maintain a solid social fabric, and thus, by extension, the whole of society itself.
There would always be cheaters in such a system, as there always have been, and always will be...BUT that should not stop companies from making a bit of a sacrifice for the whole of society. The family woman can work...and have some time with the kids, while the father would be doing the exact same thing.
Most of our office workers are single (male and female). Those who do have children usually have no problem with working until about 6 pm--especially if the kids are jr. highschool level--because of school hours and cram schools and the like. Also, here in Japan, many married couples--families--do live with or very near their parents, so the grandparents play a more direct role there too.